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In this episode, Vikki and Tanya continue their modesty series by sharing personal stories from IFB college culture, early deconstruction, and the emotional impact of purity culture. From dress checks and shame-based rules to reclaiming autonomy and learning to trust themselves again, they unpack how modesty was tied to morality, identity, and control.

They also explore the slow, complicated process of deconstructing those beliefs while navigating family expectations, faith, body image, and healing after religious trauma.

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In this episode, Vikki and Tanya discuss the lasting effects of purity culture and modesty teachings in IFB and conservative Christian environments. Through personal experiences and listener stories, they unpack body shame, emotional repression, strict dress codes, unhealthy gender expectations, and the long-term impact these teachings had on self-worth, relationships, and identity. They also begin exploring what deconstructing those beliefs and rebuilding a healthier relationship with themselves has looked like.

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In this episode, Vikki and Taniya will share powerful listener stories that reveal the realities of purity culture and courtship in IFB communities, including control, shame, and abuse of authority. They explore how modesty went far beyond clothing, shaping identity, self-worth, and placing responsibility for men’s behavior onto women and girls.

Through personal experiences and audience stories, they highlight the widespread patterns of control and hierarchy within these environments, while creating space for listeners who may still be processing or questioning these beliefs. They close by setting up a deeper dive into modesty culture and its lasting impact.

Taniya and Vikki share ways they've deconstructed purity culture and dismantled the harmful, shame-filled past full of control and crazy rules.

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Unf*ck Your Brain: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/unf-ck-your-brain-feminist-self-help-for-everyone/id1229434818

Pastor Accused of Sexual Misconduct With 16-Year-Old: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=McWDS7h4X0Y

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Taniya and Vikki continue explaining IBF dating and purity culture with sharing a listener story as well as their own accounts. They begin to share ways to deconstruct and dismantle the harmful, shame-filled past full of control and surveillance.

Unf*ck Your Brain: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/unf-ck-your-brain-feminist-self-help-for-everyone/id1229434818

Pastor Accused of Sexual Misconduct With 16-Year-Old: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=McWDS7h4X0Y

Books: https://www.peggyorenstein.com/main-st

https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Come-As-You-Are-Revised-and-Updated/Emily-Nagoski/9781982165314

Vikki and Taniya describe the rules and purpose of Fundie dating and use Taniya's personal high school experience as the driving narrative of real-life context.

 In today's episode, Vikki and Taniya will describe how Independent, Fundamental Baptist churches ran Vacation Bible School, a week-long summer program for children hosted by the church to teach them about Christian principles. They'll share some comments from the internet, and highlight a news article about a lawsuit against a church related to vacation Bible school. (https://churchexecutive.com/archives/church-sued-for-abuse-that-occurred-at-vbs)

Content Warnings: child sexual abuse, grooming, and a brief description of hell.

Learn about what an Independent, Fundamental Baptist church is, how they used the Bus Ministry and "Soul-Winning" to evangelize, and how Vikki and Taniya were involved as children.

Trigger Warnings: grooming, emotional abuse, discussion of church abuse and references to predatory behavior, psychological religious abuse, descriptions of hell and burning

Join us each week as we spill the tea on our religious and childhood trauma from being raised in an Independent, Fundamental Baptist church cult. Share your IFB church stories with us on Facebook and Instagram (@exbaptistsisters), or email us at [email protected].