The Fat Lip

In the past month I’ve been settling into my new place and I’ve been thinking about the special home accommodations I make in my home to make it more fat friendly. I think some of us are reluctant to put a chair in our kitchen or a bench in our shower, and it’s so silly. Who said you have to stand in the shower? Ultimately it comes down to internalized fatphobia and ableism. We don’t want it to seem like we aren’t able to do things the way that straight sized people do. But you don’t need to torture yourself in your own home! In today’s episode I’m talking about the home accommodations and adjustments I’ve made in my home to make my life easier. And there are a lot of them! Here’s a list of all the things I talked about today:

Amazon office chair for kitchen stool: https://amzn.to/2YtAXfb

Ikea ottoman: http://bit.ly/2GDYBeJ

Pottery Barn ottoman: https://bit.ly/2ysVEci

Amazon folding storage ottomans/benches: https://amzn.to/2YHg1S4

Amazon Flash Furniture Hercules collection: https://amzn.to/2GBVzYw

Amazon Church chairs: https://amzn.to/2K81gj5

Amazon Chiavari chairs: https://amzn.to/2LTan98

Amazon Fancy chairs: https://amzn.to/2Ow3yfO

Amazon Shower stool: https://amzn.to/2LREZIg

Amazon Shower head: https://amzn.to/2SSLB9W

Amazon Roomba: https://amzn.to/2YAn66H

Bidet blog post: http://thefatlip.com/2018/08/11/bidet/

Amazon bidet: https://amzn.to/2K7DNyw

Big Fig: https://www.bigfigmattress.com/

Amazon double sided rug tape: https://amzn.to/2LS8REi

Value City couch: https://bit.ly/2yp1onD

Lazy Boy couch: https://fxo.co/7n2l

Amazon stool: https://amzn.to/315mMui

Amazon step stool: https://amzn.to/3166eSY

Amazon bedside step: https://amzn.to/2SSXMnh

Amazon 650lb capacity air mattress: https://amzn.to/316WFTE

Amazon 650lb capacity air mattress option 2: https://amzn.to/3193YdM

Credits

Thank you to Starcrusher for the music you heard on today’s show. Hear more at cstarcrusher.bandcamp.com

Thank you to our Patreon Patrons! If you would like to support the show for as little as $1 an episode ($2 a month) go to patreon.com/thefatlip to learn how.

Thank you to our sponsor Big Fig Mattress. Go to bigfigmattress.com and use the promo code FATLIP at checkout for $100 off of your purchase...

This week Piers Morgan and Good Morning Britain hosted an interview with superfat model Angelina Duplisea. Angelina was featured in Miley Cyrus’s video for her new single “Mother’s Daughter,” and her appearance has really pissed off a lot of the “glorifying obesity” trolls. Turns out (to absolutely no one’s surprise) that Piers Morgan is one of them, so I have some things to say.

In today’s episode I’m talking about that Good Morning Britain segment and some of the things that people like Piers Morgan continually get wrong about fat people.

Read the transcript of this episode here.

Credits

Thank you to Starcrusher for the music you heard on today’s episode. Go to cstarcrusher.bandcamp.com to hear more.

Thanks as always to our Patreon patrons. If you’d like to support the show for as little as $1 an episode or $2 a month, go to patreon.com/thefatlip to find out how. Thank you to our sponsor Big Fig. Go to bigfigmattress.com and use the code FATLIP at checkout for $100 off of your purchase. Listen to my full review here.

Don’t forget to follow The Fat Lip on social media. All of those links can be found at the top of thefatlip.com.

Episode 64–What Piers Morgan Needs to Hear

The worst part about flying, for me, isn’t hurtling through the air in a crowded tube or submitting to invasive full body security scans, and it isn’t even having to buy an extra seat (I long ago accepted that that was just part of my travel requirements). The worst part of flying for me is airports. They are giant and my gate is always the furthest away, and the security lines are so long. And having limited mobility makes navigating all of these airport issues so much harder. But there are ways to make airports infinitely easier for those of us with mobility challenges! This past week I flew with a mobility scooter, and I can’t recommend it enough.

Credits

Thank you to Starcrusher for the music you heard on today’s show. Go to cstarcrusher.bandcamp.com to hear more.

Thanks as always to our Patreon patrons. Go to patreon.com/thefatlip to find out how you can support the show for as little as $1 an episode or $2 a month.

And thank you to our sponsor Big Fig! Go to bigfigmattress.com to learn more about the first mattress designed for larger sleepers and use the code FATLIP at checkout for $100 off of your purchase and to let them know that we sent you! Listen to my full Big Fig review here.

Don’t forget to follow The Fat Lip on social media! All of those links can be found at the top of thefatlip.com

I’m finally moving! And it is STRESSFUL and my microphone is packed, so this week we’re doing a re-run of one of our foundational episodes, all the way back from spring 2016–the Good Fatty episode.

In our culture, fat people are expected to be making every effort to become un-fat. Every day we must be proving that we’re trying our hardest to lose weight in order to make sense to the rest of society, and as long as we continue to prove our efforts and talk about our healthy decisions we get a pass.

My friend Alison Zwecker joins me as co-host for the day, and we’re talking about social inclusion and the “good fatty.”

So “good fatty” is a concept that refers to a fat person who is

deemed exempt from social exclusion based on how they handle or react to

their fat. There are several different types of fat person who are

generally considered “good” in our culture, and fat activist Stacy Bias

outlines these types thoughtfully and beautifully on her blog (http://stacybias.net/2014/06/12-good-fatty-archetypes/). It’s

a huge concept and way more than we could take on in one 30 minute

show, so we’ve chosen to focus on the good fatty archetype that we

encounter most frequently: the work-in-progress.

A work-in-progress fatty is one who is fat but who is doing

everything in their power to become un-fat. This good fatty is on the

swirling ride of diet culture without even knowing it and without

knowing that they can choose to get off. They have been dieting their

whole life and they know that part of the deal they have made with

society is that they must announce their desire and intention to lose

weight in return for its approval.

In this episode, Alison and I talk about the tornado of diet culture,

the good fatties who are trapped inside, and what we can all do to keep

the vortex at bay in our own lives.

The music in this episode is Talking With You by Artificial.Music and is licensed under a Creative Commons License.

Give Me Fat Serenity–Petrina and Overeaters Anonymous

Petrina was taught when she was young that her body was a problem, so she spent much of her life trying to solve it. That pursuit of thinness led her through incredible personal turmoil and culminated in seven years in the rooms of Overeaters Anonymous. What she found there, though, was not the healing that we think of when we imagine twelve step programs. Today on the show Petrina tells us about how she ended up in OA and the pervasiveness of fatphobia that ultimately prompted her to leave those rooms and find her own healing.

Credits:

Thank you as always to Starcrusher for the music you heard on today’s show. Hear more at cstarcrusher.bandcamp.com.

And thank you to our sponsor, Big Fig. Learn about the first mattress system made specifically for larger bodies at bigfigmattress.com and use the code FATLIP at checkout for $100 off of your purchase.

Thank you to our Patreon patrons! The patron of the week is Molly. If you’d like to support the show with as little as $1 per episode ($2 per month) go to patreon.com/thefatlip to learn how.

Don’t forget to follow TFL on social media! All of our social media links can be found at the top of thefatlip.com front page.

If you have a story you’d like to tell on the show, please use our Tell Your Story link to reach out! We’d love to hear from you.

I’ve known my friend Betsy for probably close to 15 years. She’s a life coach specializing in body image now, but we go way back. When we met in person the first time it was at a fat event, and we were both changed by that experience. Today on the pod we’re talking about fat community–online and in person–and how we can share those experiences with other fat people. Betsy is now accepting coaching clients! Are you looking for a body image coach who understands what it’s like to live in a fat body and what the journey to fat liberation actually looks like? Go to http://www.vivandmoxie.com to learn how Betsy can help. And follow her on Instagram and on Facebook!

Credits

Thank you to Starcrusher for the music you heard on today’s show. Go to cstarcrusher.bandcamp.com to hear more.

Thank you to our Patreon patrons. To support the show by becoming a patron for as little as $1 an episode, go to patreon.com/thefatlip.

Thank you to our sponsor, Big Fig. Go to bigfigmattress.com and use the code FATLIP at checkout for $100 off of your purchase. Hear my full review here.

Don’t forget to follow The Fat Lip on social media. Find all of those links at the top of thefatlip.com

Did you know that you can listen to The Fat Lip on any podcast app AND on Spotify? Search “The Fat Lip” and subscribe!

Overcoming Shame–Pod Listener Angel Finds Her Freedom

It’s been over a year, but I really needed to hear Angel’s episode again this week. Today on the pod, Angel and I talk about living in infinifat bodies and overcoming shame. It is powerful.

Credits

Thanks as always to Starcrusher for the music you heard in today’s episode. Hear more at cstarcrusher.bandcamp.com

And thank you to our sponsor, Big Fig! Learn more about the mattress system made especially for larger people at bigfigmattress.com, and use the code FATLIP for $100 off your purchase and to let them know that The Fat Lip sent you!

Thanks as always to our Patreon patrons! The patron of the day is

Hannah! If you’d like to learn how to help out by sponsoring the pod for

as little as $1 per episode ($2 a month) go to patreon.com/thefatlip!

Follow me on social media and especially Instagram! All of the links to the TFL social media are at the top of thefatlip.com!

You’ve definitely heard about Shrill on Hulu, but if you haven’t, now is the time to use that free trial Hulu is always pushing. The show, based on the book by Lindy West, starring Aidy Bryant (and other just-as-amazing fat babes), is so good.

The best episode by far, though, is number 4. The pool party episode. It was written by Samantha Irby, a national fucking treasure, and it made me cry and cry–a joyful cry of recognition. At that pool party, Aidy plays the nerves and timidness, and then, in the end, the revelation and freedom that many of us who have attended fat community events have felt.

Today on the pod I’m talking about the singular experience of being in physical proximity to and community with other fat people and how to create that Shrill experience in your town.

Credits

Thank you to Starcrusher for the music you heard on today’s show. Go to cstarcrusher.bandcamp.com to hear more.

Thank you to our Patreon patrons. To support the show by becoming a patron for as little as $1 an episode, go to patreon.com/thefatlip.

Thank you to our sponsor, Big Fig. Go to bigfigmattress.com and use the code FATLIP at checkout for $100 off of your purchase. Hear my full review here.

Don’t forget to follow The Fat Lip on social media. Find all of those links at the top of thefatlip.com

Did you know that you can listen to The Fat Lip on any podcast app AND on Spotify? Search “The Fat Lip” and subscribe!

We all have fears–tiny, ridiculous, completely illogical ones and big serious debilitating ones. You can face them if you feel like it’s useful, but if you don’t, you’ll still be fine. Today on the show I’m chatting with Brittney (instagram.com/somekindofbeautiful_) about our fears, big and small and how we’re just fine with not overcoming them.

Credits

Thank you to Starcrusher for the music you heard on today’s show. Hear more at cstarcrusher.bandcamp.com

Thanks as always to our Patreon patrons. If you’d like to support the show for as little as $1 an episode, go to patreon.com/thefatlip to find out how.

Thank you to our sponsor, Big Fig. Go to bigfigmattress.com and use the promo code FATLIP at checkout for $100 off of your purchase and to let them know I sent you. Listen to my full review here!

The search for jeans for infinifats has been an epic one, but some of us have finally found what we are looking for in Universal Standard. On a Tuesday in March the brand launched their long-anticipated denim line that is available in sizes 00-40. In a day they became the most size inclusive major brand in history. But those of us who are on the highest end of that size range were still dubious–we’re used to being disappointed by so-called inclusivity. I ordered a pair anyway, though, and when I received my jeans, I actually cried. They fit.

Maybe even more remarkable than my individual fashion horizons changing, though, is what Universal Standard is doing for size visibility on its website. Every item that the brand offers, in every size, will soon be shown on a model of that size. Right now if you go to the 00-40 Denim page, you can select “See It In Your Size” and actually see every pair of jeans on a size 36 or 38 model. I’m talking about jeans for infinifats actually modeled by infinifats on a brand’s website. That is truly groundbreaking. We’ve never had that before. And today on the pod I’m talking to one of those models about her experience working with the brand and what this new sizing means to people like us.

Follow Kelly on Instagram at instagram.com/kellybellyohio

Credits

Thank you to Starcrusher for the music you heard on today’s show. Hear more at cstarcrusher.bandcamp.com

Thanks as always to our Patreon patrons. If you’d like to support the show for as little as $1 an episode, go to patreon.com/thefatlip to find out how.

Thank you to our sponsor, Big Fig. Go to bigfigmattress.com and use the promo code FATLIP at checkout for $100 off of your purchase and to let them know I sent you. Listen to my full review here!