When it comes to achieving your goals and dreams, you need 2 types of actions.

The one we’re most familiar with is the go-getting, striving for results type of action, also called your masculine energy. And you don’t need to be a man to have this type of energy.

What’s often neglected is the feminine energy. This is about ‘stopping’ yourself from taking an action, pausing, paying attention or an allowing type of action. And men also have this.

We need both in balance to create the life we want.

However, for most of us, we haven’t been exposed to the feminine energy as much as the masculine energy.

So today, I want to share the first of 4 steps on how you can develop this feminine energy and balance it with your masculine energy.

Remember to come back next week for the second step!

P.S. Go to sharonsinghsidhu.com to book your coaching session with me if you want to change your mindset to create the life you want. 

It’s not actions that get you results. It’s the thoughts & beliefs behind your actions that do.

No one gets from zero to hero overnight. Not even weeks & months. Maybe even years.

But somehow, many people get discouraged & give up when they don’t get what they want.

Why?

Because they’ve lost the belief that they have what it takes to make it happen.

Maybe you’ve heard of success stories where the person who achieved success said she didn’t know what she was doing or she couldn’t believe she could achieve such success.

It’s not that she didn’t believe she could make it. It was because she was willing to stay open, curious and give herself permission to try and maybe even make mistakes and learn from them.

This is not the same as the person who hustles until the cows come home and still wonder why they haven’t made it.

The difference is that even though the successful person may not know exactly how to do everything or how everything would pan out, she had a small bit of belief that it would. 

She could focus on that seed of belief and tuck aside the fear, resistance and doubt, at least for a while, to keep trying.

The hustler on the other hand, was doing all the doing, taking all the action, meanwhile, was feeling deep down she didn’t have what it takes to achieve the success she wants. She may have even said daily affirmations, yet had a seed of doubt. 

She was subconsciously focused on this seed of doubt, instead of that seed of belief.

Ultimately, it’s your thoughts & beliefs that create your results. 

I talk more about how your thoughts & beliefs are what get you results in this week’s podcast. Click on the link in my bio to listen.

I’m offering 5 FREE coaching sessions to help shift your thoughts & beliefs to 10 women. Yes, that’s 5 FREE sessions EACH to 10 of you. Go to https://sharonsinghsidhu.com for details.

My guest this week is Tori Mistick.

Tori is a single dog mom and the creator of Wear Wag Repeat. She started her blog https://wearwagrepeat.com in 2013 as a creative outlet for her love of fashion and dogs. Her mission is to help women live their best life alongside dogs as a pet parent or a petpreneur.

Tori blogs about dog lifestyle tips, toy & food reviews, plus DIY tutorials and dog-friendly travel guides. Shr also sells merchandise in her Wear Wag Repeat Shop.

In this episode, Tori shares her journey ditching the 9 to 5 to start her own social media agency and later on convert her love for dogs into what she does for a living.

We dive into what it takes to make that leap and how the pandemic was a catalyst for Tori to take Wear Wag Repeat into the next level.

There’s so much to learn from Tori so listen to the episode to get all the details!

RESOURCES

Tori’s story on ConvertKit’s Creator Stories 

Blog: www.wearwagrepeat.com

Podcast: www.wearwagrepeat.com/podcast

Online Courses: www.wearwagrepeat.com/courses

Instagram for Dogs: www.instagram.com/tmistick

Instagram for Biz: www.instagram.com/wearwagrepeat

Facebook: www.facebook.com/groups/wwrlabs

Pinterest: www.pinterest.com/tmistick

LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/torimistick

For years, I held the belief that changing mindsets and attitudes is impossible. 

As a trainer and recruiter, it’s what I’d always told myself. 

That’s why I would say, we can train for skills, but we can’t train for mindset.

Today, I share how this long-held belief of mine, even as a trainer, recruiter and mindset coach was broken and turned upside down on its head.

I’m so grateful to the MAP Coaching Institute and what I’m learning in my certification program for revealing this to me. 

Changing your mindset doesn’t have to be hard, or take a long time. 

Listen to this episode as I share the insights and lessons I’m learning when it comes to mindset change being easy and fast. 

In this episode, I share more about how exactly your mind works based on neuroscience and mindfulness research and how you can use this to help you deal with stress, fear and self-doubt that we all face when we’re trying to do work we love and create a life we want, or go after any big dreams for that matter.

Mindset is a big, vague word and while many of us understand the importance of mindset in helping us achieve our goals and reach success, there isn’t a methodical, valid, scientific system that’s proven to get results.

At least not until I discovered the MAP Method of changing Mindsets.

The MAP Method has provided the framework for us to change our mindsets in an organized and proven way so I’m so excited to talk about it with you this week.

It’s also made me realize my own 4-step process that I’ve been doing has actually been working on these principles and that’s why it’s worked out so well for me to help me overcome my own fears, limiting beliefs and self-doubt to create a career I want.

You can find the resources I mentioned on the show here: https://twopointzero.me/resources

After interviewing a number of women who are either running a business, in careers or pursuing a cause they love and believe in, I thought I’d share my own journey of how I ended up doing work I love, running this podcast on the side of my full-time job, pursuing my coaching certification and generally doing what’s needed to create the life I want. 

In this episode, I share the following 9 tips to make a living doing work you love and how it looks like in my real life.

Here are the 9 points I share. Listen to the full episode for how this actually plays out in my life.

1. Have the courage to try, be willing to make mistakes and look stupid
2. Know what’s important to you, i.e. your values in life
3. Detach from what others say about you - this one is easy to say, harder to do
4. Everything is always happening for you so you’ll be okay
5. Your ego & reptilian brain is a powerful force that keeps you in your comfort zone and sometimes this feels like ‘truth’
6. Know the difference between your ego that keeps you safe & small and your superconscious mind that asks you to be brave & strong - and whose advice to take
7. Following your innate wisdom means reason & instinct become indistinguishable. This is what living as your true self means
8. Our mindset, mentality or thoughts about life create everything in our outer reality 
9. Reminder : We’ll all die, it’s just a matter of when and how, so what are you going to create in this life?

I hope these 9 insights help you relate it to your own life and get you thinking about what kind of life you want to create.

I’m also really excited to launch my Courageous & Confident Coaching Program where I help working women shift their beliefs of what’s possible, dissolve fears & doubts, and build mental and emotional resilience so that they can make a living doing work they love. Go to https://twopointzero.me/coaching to find out more.

If you’re one of those people who feels like you need to get everything perfect before you put your stuff out there, this episode is for you!

My guest this week is Shelby, a full-time artist and online content creator of Little Coffee Fox, and an online art education platform called Foxsy. 

She loves watercolors, digital art, lettering, and tons of other artistic mediums, and helping people discover the power of creativity and how transformative it can be. 

Shelby strives to help her students get in touch with art again and she’s definitely helped me rediscover my creative side that I abandoned since I was a kid because I thought I was ‘bad’ at art and it was a waste of time and money. 

We talk about Shelby’s own journey from her very practical decision to study human factors psychology and her unexpected journey into the world of art as her career. 

The bottomline is that sometimes doing something you love and turning it into your career involves lots of trial and error that’s not always neat, tidy and perfect. I love Shelby’s guiding motto of ‘done not perfect’. This is how she’s built a business that both she and her husband run full-time. Shelby is an inspiration of what’s possible when you give yourself permission to play and do the apparent ‘impractical thing’! 

Connect with Shelby:

On her website

On Instagram (@little_coffee_fox)

Sign up to Foxsy (I highly recommend! I’ve signed up for it and am loving it!)

My guest today is Janine Kwoh, who is the owner / artist / one-person assembly line behind Kwohtations, an ever-evolving collection of greeting cards and gifts that reflect and celebrate a diversity of identities and life experiences. Janine is also the author of Welcome to the Grief Club, an illustrated book on grief for anyone who is grieving the death of a loved one. 

Janine started making cards in 2011 as a way to reflect on and honor the lives we actually lead, versus the ones we think we should. Specifically, Janine uses a letterpress to make her cards by hand, one by one. 

Her goal is to create products that encourage us to embrace the diversity, complexity, and kinship in our lived experiences. Janine’s hope is always that others will recognize some of themselves in what she creates and feel a bit more seen, more connected, and less alone. 

We talked about grieving, making decisions, time management, what it means to honour yourself, recovery from setbacks, acceptance when things don’t go as planned and designing a life that suits you, rather than doing what you think you should do or what others say you should.

You can purchase Janine’s beautifully handcrafted cards and her book, Welcome to the Grief Club on her website, https://kwohtations.com/

Connect with Janine on Instagram @kwohtations

Today’s guest is fashion designer, Whitney Manney. She says,

"My inspiration to create wearable art and textiles started at the age of 13, not because I was obsessed with fashion but because I was tired of growing out of my clothes so quickly. Remixing old clothes into my own creations inspired me to create the WHITNEYMANNEY label. "

This episode is filled with so many great stories and lessons like:

• The role of parents in supporting our kids’ dream
• Taking care of practical concerns without ever having to give up on your dreams
• Keeping the faith and staying consistent to your goals
• The importance of identifying with the person you want to be and acting before you believe it
• And so much more!

I know you’ll gain so much inspiration and practical lessons from Whitney’s story, so have a listen to the episode today!

RESOURCES

Connect with Whitney on Instagram @whitneymanney

Or her WEBSITE

Sign up to Whitney’s newsletter HERE

Diana Hill, Ph.D. is a modern psychologist, mom, and co-author of ACT Daily Journal:

Get unstuck and live fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. She is the founder and host of the podcast show Your LIfe in Process and a co-founder of the Psychologists Off the Clock podcast, blogs for Psychology Today and offers regular teachings in compassion and ACT for clinicians and the general public. Through her online teachings, executive coaching, and private therapy practice Diana encourages clients to let go of unhealthy striving and build psychological flexibility so that they can live more meaningful and fulfilling lives. Diana practices what she preaches in her daily life as a mom of two, homesteader, and yoga teacher. 

I first learned about the work for Dr Diana Hill on her ‘From Thriving To Striving Summit’. I then worked through the ACT Daily Journal that Dr Diana Hill and Dr Debby Sorensen wrote, which is a 8-week program using the core processes in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to help you deal with life’s challenges and live a happier and more fulfilling life.

Diana has a way of explaining ACT in a simple and practical way so it was a real treat and honour to have her on the podcast to talk about how she ended up doing the work she does and explain a little bit about ACT.

What I found most valuable was learning that living a values-based life and choosing what’s important for us can sometimes be scary. And that can be why we avoid it. But choosing to live a life of meaning requires us to do difficult things sometimes. ACT equips us with the tools  to do this and roll with life’s punches. 

This was such a rich episode with lots to take away, so listen today!

Connect with Dr Diana Hill on: 

• Her website and Download her free ‘6-Step ACT Daily Vision Board’ 
• Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, LinkedIn @drdianahill