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EPISODE 78: HOW TO GRIEVE- The Science of Coping: Flourishing Friday

Flourishing Friday (FF)-Welcome to Flourishing Fridays (FF), where every Friday we bring you a Positive Psychology-based life hack that will help you flourish. In these episodes, we look at the real-life application of Positive Psychology while giving you tips and strategies to put Positive Psychology into use in all areas of your life.

Emiliya provides thoughtful words to strengthen, inspire, and comfort those who have suffered the loss of a loved one in this episode. If you love, you will grieve—and nothing is more mysteriously central to being fully human.

When a loved one dies, the pain of loss can feel unbearable—especially in the case of a traumatizing death that leaves us shouting, "NO!" with every part of our body. Emiliya offers science and personal experience-backed support to help guide you through the process of learning how to grieve.

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EPISODE 77: Daily Emotional Wellness During the Covid-19 Pandemic: Science Says

Wisdom Wednesday is when we offer some fun positive psychology wisdom into your day!

Science Says (SS)- Welcome to Science Says, where every episode highlights a research study that has come out in the field of positive psychology. LISTEN to discover the science of human flourishing while Emiliya Zhivotovskaya teaches you how to put this new knowledge into action… because science says!

In this episode, Emiliya draws from the research findings in the British Psychological Society on daily emotional well-being during the COVID-19 pandemic. This study highlights the importance of:

Spending time outdoors: Spending time outdoors was associated with markedly raised positive affect and reduced negative emotions. Exercising, going for walks, gardening, pursuing hobbies, and taking care of children were the activities associated with the greatest affective benefits.

Limiting exposure to COVID- 19 Media: The importance of setting limits for exposure to COVID-19-related media coverage.

Avoid time spent alone: Time spent alone, engaged in social media use, and caring for children have been associated with reduced emotional well-being.

Bottom line: Time spent outdoors; Exercising; Going for a walk; Gardening; Taking care of children; and Engaging in in-person social interactions with friends, is good for our emotional well-being. This study emphasis the importance of daily activities, awareness of time spent indoors/outdoors, and social interaction.

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THE POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGY OF PIXAR'S SOUL: Flourishing Friday

This episode was inspired by the Pixar's Movie, Soul. In this episode your will discover three really powerful positive psychology lessons that you can take away from the Pixar's movie Soul. We look at how you can use the information in you life. Emiliya walks you through concepts such as:

-Learning how to savour.

-Discovering how to differential between purpose and passion.

-Identifying how to get more flow in your life.

Listen In to discover more!

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EPISODE 73: NO SHINING KNIGHT IS COMING TO SAVE YOU

Practitioner Profiler (PP)- Welcome to our Positive Psychology Practitioner Profiler where we highlight ordinary people that are doing extra ordinary things! Each practitioner is one of our graduates of the CertifIcate in Positive Psychology Program. Find out the exciting ways people are putting the science into practice within their Communities, Organizations and Lives.

In this episode, Emiliya Zhivotovskaya CEO & Founder, The Flourishing Center highlights Shiri Rosenblat, executive coach and positive psychology practitioner and the creator of the company Start in Point.

NO SHINING KNIGHT IS COMING TO SAVE YOU

Listen in and discover how Shiri is integrating Positive Psychology and sharing skills with teenagers and parents. She talks about the idea that you have the strength and you know what you need to do. There is no one coming to save you. In this episode they talk about Purna, a Sanskrit word which means Wholeness, Complete, Full, Perfect. Fulfilled, Satisfied. Listen in how Shiri integrates the mindset that we are complete and whole. She teaches her clients that they have everything they need they have and every thing they have they need.

She teaches and shares with the world the Loving-kindness meditation (sometimes called "metta" meditation) and how it is a great way to cultivate our propensity for kindness. It involves mentally sending goodwill, kindness, and warmth towards others by silently repeating a series of mantras. She is passionate about providing safe and supportive containers for teens to learn and grow.

Shiri discovered that you can face challenge with grace. Empathy and self-compassion have been very powerful in Shiri's life. Listen how she brings in all emotions and embraces the healing process. Using positive psychology to live an optimal life and Shiri's favourite integration is the idea, OTHER PEOPLE MATTER.

You can reach Shiri Rosenblat https://bit.ly/2BGNyOV

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EPISODE 72: POST TRAUMATIC GROWTH IN PRACTICE

Practitioner Profiler (PP)- Welcome to our Positive Psychology Practitioner Profiler where we highlight ordinary people that are doing extra ordinary things! Each practitioner is one of our graduates of the CertifIcate in Positive Psychology Program. Find out the exciting ways people are putting the science into practice within their Communities, Organizations and Lives.

In this episode, Emiliya Zhivotovskaya CEO & Founder, The Flourishing Center highlights Dr. Shenell Evans. Dr. Shenell is a Brooklyn-based clinical psychologist who specializes in creating sacred, evidence-based space for adults, particularly those living with chronic health conditions and the accompanying biopsychosocial-spiritual byproducts.

Grow after trauma using post traumatic growth.

Listen in how beautifully Dr. Shenell Evans defines Post traumatic growth. Regardless of where people fall on the illness—wellness continuum, chronic conditions evoke many issues: sense of grief/loss, sadness, anxiety, anger/frustration, physical/functional limitations, strained relationships, insurance dilemmas, treatment decisions, and, at times, treatment fatigue. For people who wish to reclaim their time will need support as they grieve, regroup, and recreate their lives in order to foster life satisfaction and meaning DESPITE CHRONIC ILLNESS.

Dr. Shenell Evans infuses positive psychology into her practice. Her training in Applied positive psychology allows her to emphasize the sense of thriving and flourishing. She helps her clients tap into the values to help them pull themselves forward. She helps get people back to base line and then she draws from positive psychology to help with patient care. She emphasizes optimizing our human experience. She taps into the wealth of knowledge to tap into positive neuro-science to help establish habit and routine. She wants to show up as authentically for her patients, for herself, for her family. She emphasizes showing up the best we can to optimize our human experience.

You can reach Dr. Shenell Evans at: https://www.drshenell.com

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EPISODE 71: UNITY MINDSET TO SHIFT ENVY AND JEALOUSY

Flourishing Friday (FF)-Welcome to Flourishing Fridays (FF), where every Friday we bring you a Positive Psychology-based life hack that will help you to flourish. In these episodes we look at real life application of Positive Psychology, while giving you tips and strategies to put Positive Psychology into use in all areas of your life.

What if we rejoiced in each other's success, triumphs, gifts, beauty as much as our own. Wouldn't we ask "what's good"? What are you celebrating? Thinking and saying "That's amazing!"

Compersion not comparison. Wikipedia defines it as "an empathetic state of happiness and joy experienced when another individual experiences happiness and joy." Started off as a term used in the polyamory comparison. Opposite of jealousy and envy. Importance of savouring what's good with others.

Jealousy is the fear that someone is going to take what you have. Envy is the desire for what other people have. Both feelings come from a scarcity mindset.

This word exists in other languages. "Mudita," in Sanskrit, means "the pleasure that comes from delighting in other people's well-being." "Unne," in Norwegian means "to be happy on someone else's behalf."

A pre-requisite for compersion is an abundance mindset and a unity mindset.

Someone else winning doesn't mean we have to lose.

Emiliya shows us the exciting concept of Unity and benefits of experiences happiness and joy for others. It is powerful to hold the mindset that we are connected to human beings and we are all one. It is this mindset that can shift our way of being. This shift in mindset from envy and jealousy to compersion can allow for a feeling of experiences happiness and joy. In positive psychology this idea is called active constructive responding. It is about getting excited and happy for others when they are celebrating! Asking for more positive moments and sharing good news is a form of savouring.

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EPISODE 70: MENTAL TUG AND WAR- HOLDING SPACE

Coaches Corner (CC)- Welcome to the Coaches Corner, where you get to witness Positive Psychology-based coaching in action with master-level certified coaching. Listen to positive psychology in action through real-life coaching sessions with Emiliya Zhivotovskaya, who holds a Master Coach Certificate (MCC) from the International Coach Federation ICF.

Listen in on this session to hear coaching in action. Emiliya uses the positive psychology coaching model to help her client, Raj. Through this process, he can reveal what he desires to birth in his life. Through this session, you can hear he wants to move forward but feels frustrated and stuck. Listen to how coach Emiliya helps him discover how to tap into his resourcefulness. Emiliya uses paraphrasing, metaphor and curious questions to help support him on his journey. She helps him tap into his wisdom, and she lets him lead the dance of the coaching session to help her client overcome some difficult challenges. Emiliya holds the space for Raj effectively that allows him to go from feeling stuck to liberated.

A game of Tug and War.

Raj feels initially like he is being pulled in two directions, and through this coaching session, he can challenge his own thinking patterns and gain a clearer direction. He expresses his many options and how he feels and sees many obstacles. About midway through this session, Emiliya asked Raj, "How do you want to think'? This powerful question challenges his thinking and allows him to consider his thinking and tap into what he really needs.

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EPISODE 69: BREATHE TO ENHANCE WELL-BEING

Flourishing Friday (FF)-Welcome to Flourishing Fridays (FF), where every Friday we bring you a Positive Psychology-based life hack that will help you to flourish. In these episodes we look at real life application of Positive Psychology, while giving you tips and strategies to put Positive Psychology into use in all areas of your life.

Your body breathes on autopilot—so why worry about how to inhale and exhale? Scientific research is showing that mindful breathing, paying attention to your breath and learning how to manipulate it, is one of the most effective ways to lower everyday stress levels and improve your well-being. Despite the inherently automatic nature of breathing, most people can really benefit from taking control of our breathing. There is a very direct relationship between breath rate, mood state, and autonomic nervous system state. Listen in to Emiliya teaches us how we can use breath control to self-regulate.

In this episode she also talks about Heart rate variability as a new way to enhance your well-being. HRV is simply a measure of the variation in time between each heartbeat. This variation is controlled by a primitive part of the nervous system called the autonomic nervous system. It works regardless of our desire and regulates, among other things, our heart rate, blood pressure, breathing, and digestion. People who have a high HRV may have greater cardiovascular fitness and be more resilient to stress. Overall breathing appears to play an important role in the positive effect of heart rate variability. Paced breathing has been shown to enhance HRV.

Consciously use your breathing patterns to take charge of your health and well-being.

You can calm with with your breath or energize with your breath:

Calming Breath: INHALE FOR THREE EXHALE FOR SIX COUNTS

Energizing Breath: INHALE FOR SIX COUNTS EXHALE FOR THREE COUNTS

Increase Heart Rate Variability: SLOW DOWN OVERALL BREATH INHALE FOR SIX COUNTS AND OUT FOR SIX COUNTS

Make Breathing a conscious tool that you can use daily.

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EPISODE 68: THE EFFECT OF INTENTION ON PHYSICAL THINGS

Science Says (SS)- Welcome to Science Says, where every episode highlights a research study that has come out in the field of positive psychology. LISTEN to discover the science of human flourishing while Emiliya Zhivotovskaya teaches you how to put this new knowledge into action… because science says!

What does it mean to set an intention and how much impact can it really have?

Setting an intention is activating a part of your receptivity. If you were to go out in the day, and not have set any intention or created any type of prayer or manifestation of how you want the day to go, then you're getting on a bike with no direction. Is the power of intention an amazing and often untapped resource in our lives? Emiliya takes us through some scientific studies that confirm the impact of intention.

By now, we all recognize and accept that human consciousness has an effect on everything from the molecular structure of water to the well-being of humankind, but we often question the science behind intention. Imagine the changes that can take place within your body as you begin to consciously give intention to positive choices. And it doesn't stop with you, since your energy has an impact on those around you.

Setting intentions can make you more effective. Setting intentions will help you to get out of your head. Setting intentions opens your eyes to things you may have otherwise missed. Setting intentions can even make our food and water more beneficial for our health. Setting intentions can influence your actual experience and science has backed up this claim.

Since we have discovered the power of intentions you might want to create your won. Create your own intentions and discover how they can enhance your life. Perhaps create a mantra, share your intentions, verbally pray, create ritual, mediate, practice gratitude, remind yourself daily to create intention.

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67. STOP DESERVING LOVE: Flourishing Friday

Flourishing Friday (FF)-Welcome to Flourishing Fridays (FF), where every Friday we bring you a Positive Psychology-based life hack that will help you to flourish. In these episodes we look at real life application of Positive Psychology, while giving you tips and strategies to put Positive Psychology into use in all areas of your life.

You don't need to DO something to be loved. We all hold internal conversations as we go through our days. Psychologists have identified these inner monologues as "self-talk," in which you provide opinions and evaluations on what you're doing as you're doing it. It is this inner voice. We can actually "hear" what your own self-talk is saying. However, when the voice is critical and harsh, the effect can be emotionally crippling.

Discover how Emiliya suggest you let go of some of your shadows. Deep down inside we have an "ouchy" experience that we hear and absorb. Consider what happens after you've done something embarrassing. This destructive type of self-talk causes you to question yourself and your worthiness of deserving love.

What is something you say to yourself that hurts us. Think of this as a statement.

Let's turn the situation around now:

What is a statement that you say to yourself? What else is a statement if someone would say to you that would hurt? Self statements such as I am not… Not pretty enough, good enough, man enough, etc. I am useless.

Listen to this episode to discover how you can psychological reprogram and shift your prospective around deserving love.

Bottom line, these are just a thought not my truth… We are NOT undeserving of love. We are love. So we need to stop de-serving-love. Go inside yourself. Discover what that is. Be with that statement. How does it make you feel like you are not deserving of love. Work through hearing and receiving your statement.

You are love!

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