"The Fruit Snacks Podcast" with Emily Wardrop, the T1D Moms Coach

Cheree Murdock coaches teens so today we are talking about how we can help our kiddos learn about how to manage their emotions in a healthy way so that when they grow up, they know better what to do with their feelings instead of escaping or distracting from them. 

We can even find Connection through our Emotions. Being human is all about emotion. None of them are good or bad and if we can actually believe that about our own feelings, we can give that grace to our kids also and let them feel all thier feels also.

Feelings are not a problem we need to fix. Ours or theirs. 

We don't need to escape, distract, buffer, or act out our emotions. We can just feel them through our bodies. 

And when we don't make ourselves wrong for feeling any sort of way, we can then receive the message that those emotions have for us to learn. 

If you have a teen that needs some help, you can find Cheree at:

www.chereemurdock.com

And if you'd like to learn more about how to self regulate so that you can model this for your kids while they are still young, I'd love to help you with that. www.dropthewarlifecoach.com

When I ask you "What kind of Mom do you want to be?" what comes up for you?

Look at what you wrote down (or thought of)

Is it a big long list of DO's. And don't do's?

What does a "Good Mom" look like for you?

Let's talk about the difference between BEing and DOing! 

You are a human BEing which means you are going to DO a bunch of messy stuff that's not your ideal.

But who ARE you actually?

And our job is to REMEMBER who She IS!

It's not actually about what you DO. It's about who you ARE.

And then live into in. Meaning your thoughts, feelings, and yes, Actions will align eventually once you believe and remember that you already ARE Good!! 

So, instead of "What kind of Mom do you want to DO?" which is your your brain might have interpreted that first question, just know that You already Are the kind of Mom you Want to BE! Cause your desires (your wants) yours, your specific to you! tell you who you ARE. 

What kind of Mom ARE you? (not what kind of Mom are you doing?)

Believe you ARE a Good Mom, my friend! It'll change everything for you!

Amber and I are gonna start the "vibrant hair coaching club" 😉 

Amber Haider is no hater! She is full of love and fun and she shares her story of always wanting to be a SAHM but not loving it like she thought she would and her journey to now loving life to the max! 

Listen in especially if you are feeling unfulfilled in your role as Mommy and you feel bad about that. You think you should be happy and loving life since this is the most important gig there is, then why do you feel so terrible while doing it? 

Cause "Isolation, resentment, frustration… not good fuel for momming"

For more from Amber:

https://Instagram.com/amber_h8r

https://Facebook.com/amberhaidercoaching

https://amberhaider.com

And as always, to learn more about how you can Believe you ARE a Good Mom, get my free prerecorded Masterclass at www.dropthewarlifecoach.com/believe

You ARE a beautiful butterfly!

If you need supported through your messy middle goop phase, I'm here for you, my friend! I'm one free zoom chat away. No strings attached. I'm here to just listen and/or coach you. Whatever you need. www.dropthewarlifecoach.com/appointments 

Coach Cris Berlingeri MD wears many beautiful hats! She is a physician, a baker, a business owner, a coach, and of course a wife and mother!

To find more from Cris:

And to learn more about how you can believe you are a good mom, check out my free masterclass at www.dropthewarlifecoach.com/believe

To my dear friend with her first baby wrapped in her arms hoping that she's "doing it right", girl! I have a message for you today!

And for the rest of us:

For me, I cringe a little every time.

Yes, I believe in Choosing the Right. I have worn CTR rings my whole life also.

But not until recently have I noticed how that thought doesn't actually make me feel so great.

If there is a right or wrong way to do things, I am often, if not always, doing them wrong. And that feels terrible. And my brain makes that mean that I must be a terrible mom.

But I am trying to Believe that I AM a Good Mom!

You are not wrong! 

You do not have to make yourself wrong!!

You may do things that you wish you hadn't. You may have a long list of things that you want to do but can't seem to make them happen.

So say it with me now... "There is no right or wrong way to be a Mom!"

again. "There is no right or wrong way to be a Mom"

If your brain rejects that idea and may even feel like it's a little bit scary, I get it. I grew up with the all or nothing "black and white" thinking also.

But I've noticed over the years how this thinking is not serving me.

When I believe that there is a right or wrong way to do this gig, I feel pressure and I choke. Every time.

But when I believe in loving Heavenly Parents who sent me to earth with my divine attributes that I inherited from them, full well knowing that I'd use my agency and "mess up" time and time again so they also provided me with a Savior?! Oh yeah. That's when I can start living! I'm not paralyzed by the prospect of perfection or perish. I am actually free to choose joy and eternal life by not being scared of making mistakes, failing, and going to Hell. 

I believe that because of Jesus Christ, I can use my agency to choose whatever I feel directed by Him to do. 

It's not about right or wrong, per se. It's about making choices and learning and growing which only happens through trial and error and strength from the Lord to try again. To repent over and over and over and over again. 

You will be a Mom forever. You have a long time to practice, refine, repair, and practice some more.

It's all Good, my friend! And you ARE Good! 

As always, if you'd like some help with any of this, please reach out! I'd love to help you believe you ARE a Good mom! And then you will start living into who you have been all along. It's awesome!! Let's get started. You've got this!! 

Do you sometimes feel like you are not doing a good enough job at being a Mom?

Listen in today as we explore this idea! 

In this episode I reference my interview on "The Confident Mom" podcast with Laura Dry. Check that out here!

And when you're ready to take next steps to really believing in your bones that you ARE a Good Mom, inherently, it's who you truly ARE, grab your copy of my prerecorded masterclass at www.dropthewarlifecoach.com/believe. Let's do this! You can believe it! Cause you ARE a Good Mom!! 

Today my guest host is none other than the relationship expert and Master Coach Candice Toone!

I love helping women do the same with their parenting also! Before we had kids, we imagined such beautiful relationships with our children someday. We were going to be the perfect mom. And then one day we woke up and our happily ever after dream feels more like a nightmare. 

Candice and I discuss how it's our own list of "rules" or "expectations" of ourselves and our families that causes this disconnect. 

Check out all of these additional resources from Candice here: 

And to learn more about how You Can Believe you ARE a Good Mom! Sign up for my free masterclass at www.dropthewarlifecoach.com/believe

November is national diabetes awareness month so in this episode I am doing my small part to spread awareness of especially Type 1 Diabetes, which two of my little sweet daughters have been diagnosed with in the past couple years. It is the real deal! So much diabetes drama around here and I literally have no idea how I would survive without my "coaching tool belt" to manage myself while managing their diabetes. 

These sweet innocent little people have a pancreas that has called it quits and now we have to essentially try to recreate all the magic that a God made body organ can just do automatically. Absolutely unreal to try to comprehend how intricate our bodies are! And what they do for us every second of every day and night! And when any part malfunctions, how we finally can recognize that. 

Having to "be a pancreas" is a full time job. Luckily we have a lot of medical technology to help but it is still a LOT! Physically, medically, and also mentally and especially emotionally! 

As a coach, that is the support that I can offer. Mental and emotional support for the worn out, exhausted, heart-broken, and overwhelmed Momma of these sweet T1D kiddos. 

PLEASE, if you meet any of these moms, send them my way! I'd love to help and support them on this roller coaster that never ends!

What does Anxiety and Cotton Candy have in common? Find out in today's episode with special guest Theresa Diulus! 

Whether it's anxiety specifically or any other emotional overwhelm you may be feeling- especially with the holidays coming up!, Theresa shares with us some great practical tips of managing all the feelings! 

To find more from the amazing Theresa Diulus, check her out at:

Website:  www.theresadiulus.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresadiulus/