This week we have a guest on the podcast to help us with some ideas on how to handle overwhelm, worry, and guilt. These three emotions are normal for moms and can be amped up even more as T1D Moms, so listen in as the two of us life coaches geek out on all the ways we can still enjoy motherhood, even amidst the intense emotions.

Kristen Mattison is founder of the blog This Routine Life. Kristen is passionate about spreading the word that motherhood doesn’t have to feel so hard and daunting, and it IS possible to enjoy the years with your kids without feeling overwhelmed and like you’re always behind. When she’s avoiding her To-Do list, you’ll find her watching Bravo TV, reading, or working on her latest cross-stitch project. She has her master’s in counseling and is a Certified Life Coach through The Life Coach School. 

Blog - This Routine LIfe: thisroutinelife.com{Free} Quick Guide to Lessen Overwhelm + Enjoy Motherhood More: https://this-routine-life.ck.page/3e49fcc26c

And if you'd like to try out a complimentary coaching session, find a time that works for both of us at dropthewar.com/appointments

And to get the details of our free T1D Moms Support Group Call and all other diabetes support content head to dropthewar.com/t1d

After we get Awareness of what's happening in our minds and bodies with Acceptance and allowance, we then naturally live in Alignment with our true selves.

God made us and said that it is good. And that's good enough for me. I AM good. You ARE Good.

AND we do things, feel things, and think things that are not always good.

That is our human condition. We are eternal beings living a limited mortal life.

When we do, think, and feel things out of alignment with who we truly ARE at our eternal core, we can feel that dissonance. And that's ok. That's what being human is all about. So it's not a problem but to maximize our experience in this life, it is useful to get Awareness and Acceptance in order to live in Alignment as much as possible.

I call these AAA batteries for a reason. Just like rechargeable batteries, this process is not one and done. And it's not always linear. We have thousands of thoughts a day causing just as many feelings. There's no way we can be in conscious control over all of them but if you are overwhelmed with results in your life that don't feel aligned with who you want to be, sign up for a coaching session and we'll start working to get you there.

dropthewar.com/appointments to find a time that works for both of us and I'll see ya on zoom!

Having a child with type 1 diabetes and Halloween may cause a lot of mental drama. And that's where I come in! As your coach, I'm here to help you drop the war on that mental drama-even in regards to Halloween!

On this episode we explore a few of the possible problems that Halloween may be causing for you and yours.

There are a lot of people with a lot of opinions about how you should manage your child's diabetes around a night when kids go door to door getting buckets filled with candy.

As your coach I actually have no agenda on how you should handle it! Let me say that again!! It might be a breath of fresh air because most people do.

I believe that YOU are the parenting expert for your own children. Even your diabetic child. You are the expert on how to manage their diabetes. I am here to help you believe that.

Many are swirling in confusion about the whole thing. So many fiery opinions spinning around them and especially if this is your first Halloween since diagnosis, it might feel like a lot. Again, I've got you!

I will give you the gift of making a team decision with all those involved and the confidence to get your own back when that decision is questioned. Even by your own brain.

Halloween doesn't have to be the monster that it's made out to be. It's supposed to be fun. Let's take the stress out of it so you and your kiddo can enjoy!

Cause let's be honest, this is just the beginning of all the very sweetened holidays coming up. So let's get ahead of the drama before it swallows us up whole!

Head to dropthewar.com/appointments to find a time for us to chat this week before the big day or even after if you want to talk about how it went and make plans for the future.

You are the expert. Let me help you feel like it.

As we work on our goal to feel less sad, scared, and stressed; and to feel more calm, connected, and confident, we have to first learn how to allow instead of resist emotions.

Last week we learned the coaching tool to help us intentionally choose which emotions we want to feel on purpose, but in the meantime of figuring out how to do that, we cannot be resisting the reality of our current emotional state.

Feelings are not a problem that need to be fixed.

In this episode we will learn the actual how-to of processing emotions so that they aren't just getting stuffed and stuck in our bodies.

Emotions are a message from the brain and that message needs to be heard and understood just like a toddler pulling on your shorts whining "Mommy Mommy Mommy!"

So listen in to learn how to be sure you are allowing and accepting your current emotions in order to clear your mind and body to be ready for intentional thought and feeling creation.

And when you're ready for support in applying these tools specifically to your and your emotions, sign up for your complimentary coaching session at dropthewar.com/appointments.

Get the call info for our T1D Moms Support Group calls and all other content to help you manage yourself while managing your child's diabetes at dropthewar.com/t1d

Before we get too far into this new "Fruit Snack Podcast", we need to get a foundational working knowledge of two of my favorite coaching tools which I will refer to over and over in future episodes.

The first is "The Model" which Brooke Castillo trains us in at The Life Coach School and the second is my personal coaching framework which I refer to as the "Triple A Batteries"

The Model consists of 5 parts abbreviated as CTFAR

Circumstance

Thought

Feeling

Action

Result

The troubles you are having with your child's diabetes all fall into one of these 5 categories.

T1D is your circumstance but it isn't a problem until you have problematic thoughts about it which causes feelings that drive less than ideal actions and those lead to the result that you're not happy with and that's when you come to me and we can change anything below that Circumstance of Diabetes to improve your life.

Maybe you're not happy with the way you're showing up or what you're feeling. And we blame diabetes for that. But the fact that your child's pancreas doesn't produce insulin anymore is not the problem. It's your thoughts about that fact. So that is where we need to explore.

And we do that exploring in the AAA framework.

Awareness

Acceptance

Alignment

The goal is to live in alignment with our highest truest holiest selves. And in order to get there, we must be aware of where we are not. But awareness without judgement; with acceptance.

Listen in to today's episode for more detail on both these coaching tools and use this episode as a reference guide through our journey in the future.

When you're ready to hash it all out for you and your individual thoughts, feelings, actions, and results, sign up for your complimentary coaching session at dropthewar.com/appointments.

And join our T1D Moms Support Group call every Tuesday morning at 9:30 AM Mountain Time

Link for the call and my "Top 3 Tips for T1D Moms" prerecorded masterclass at dropthewar.com/t1d

Together

Everyone

Achieves

More!

Diabetes Parenting works better when you focus on being on the same TEAM. Not the same page.

You don't actually have to be on the same page.

Team members have different strengths and that's what makes team work so effective. We each play different positions. No one is right or wrong. We're all just cooperating together to meet the same goal.

To get a coach on your team, head to dropthewar.com/appointments

And don't forget our T1D Moms Support Group call every Tuesday Morning at 9:30 am Mountain Time. Zoom call info at dropthewar.com/t1d

There are many, many virtual conferences you can attend nowadays.

If you've never heard of General Conference, I am honored and excited to be the first to let you know that this is no ordinary conference of people with a similar interest getting together to learn more from experts and motivational speakers.

The General Conference of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints is an opportunity to hear from the Lord's living Prophet and Apostles on the earth today!

Did you know we have a Moses among us now? A Noah? Abraham? Just like in days of old, God leads His church directly through prophets. and Just like when Jesus was on the earth, he has again called 12 Apostles to lead and guide in His name and under his direction.

Awesome, right?!

What does that have to do with being a T1D Mom? Come and find out! Life coaching tools and the gospel of Jesus Christ are the ways that I have best managed my own mental and emotional health while managing my girls' Diabetes. Without the strength that comes from Jesus, there is no way I could do what's required.

I know that He knows you, He knows what you're going through and He wants to help you! Come listen in to get your own inspiration on your life. When I talk about becoming your own personal expert on how to parent, this is a key to knowing how. We always want to look for outside sources to tell us what to do. Go internally, the Most Expert Source you can find on how to care for you and yours is He who created you all in the first place!

Go to churchofjesuschrist.org to watch General Conference with us live all this weekend or the replays are always available there also!

Then hit me. up at Drop the War Life Coach on IG to chat about what you heard and more especially what you felt.

Guilt says you've done something wrong.

Shame says there is something wrong with you.

Shame is a lie and there is no room for shame with diabetes!

You didn't do anything wrong, your kid didn't do anything wrong. We just are here doing the best we can to manage blood sugar levels and no shame needed.

We do need a healthy amount of guilt to keep us on track but if you are spending your whole life in guilt energy, your nervous system doesn't ever get the chance to rest and recover.

If you make it mean that there is something wrong with you every time your child's blood sugar levels are too high or too low, you will drive yourself crazy. You must get off of the roller coaster. The monitor will show the glucose levels are on a roller coaster, but your emotions don't need to go with it.

You are doing your best. You are learning new things everyday. And as soon as you get in a rhythm, your carb ratio will change and you'll need to adjust again. Trust yourself. Take deep breaths. And sign up for your complimentary coaching session where I can help you manage your mental and emotional health while managing your child's diabetes. Find a time that works for both of us at dropthewar.com/appointments. I'll see ya on zoom!

And don't forget, every Tuesday morning at 9:30 AM Mountain Time, we all meet together for a free T1D Moms Support Group call. Get that zoom link, access to replays, and more helpful content at dropthewar.com/t1d

Welcome to the new "Fruit Snacks Podcast!"

I have been "The T1D Moms Coach" for awhile now and going forward my podcast is going to reflect more of our focus on diabetes here also.

The Believe you ARE a Good Mom podcast published at least one episode a week for exactly a year and now we are pivoting to focus more on the specific needs of our families who are managing their child's type 1 diabetes and need support in managing their own mental and emotional health along with this Herculean life long challenge that has been dropped into their lives.

If you don't have a child with diabetes, you are always welcome here and if you've enjoyed this podcast thus far, I'm sure you will still benefit from it and chances are, if you don't already, you will soon have loved ones in your sphere of influence that have been effected by T1D also so continue to listen and share. The principles I share can definitely still be applicable to you and yours also.

We are here to start feeling less scared, sad, and stressed and start feeling more calm, connected, and confident.

In today's intro to the fruit snack podcast, I want to start with befriending our nervous systems. We have all been through traumatic experiences as our child was diagnosed and our bodies remember those feelings as a threat. So now every time your dexcom beeps, your body interprets that as a reason to go into panic mode.

But panic mode is only as useful as your glucagon shot. Super important in case of an emergency, but not needed for the constant ups and downs on managing diabetes on a day to day basis.

Listen in to the episode to learn more and come join us every Tuesday morning live on zoom for our Free T1D Moms Support Group Call. Get the deets at dropthewar.com/t1d

Sometimes when we grow up in a fairy tale culture, we think that we are not complete until we find and marry our "other half". Or maybe even after our "happily ever after" we still aren't feeling whole so we add babies to the mix in search of completing ourselves.

This enmeshment and codependence can cause a lot of problems for us.

What is the solution and how to we get to a healthy differentiated place?

Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is going to help us explore these questions on the podcast today.

She helps us understand how to develop our sense of self so that we don't completely lose ourselves in motherhood and as a wife.

The secret is agency. Choice. We chose the life we are living. And we need to intentionally remind ourselves frequently of our choosing in order to stay in ownership and not victim mentality. This will get out out of the trap of resentment and help us love ourselves, our families, and our lives.

As we work on our own relationship with self, we can nourish ourselves with enough love and acceptance, that we have enough and to spare to pour into others.

To learn more from Dr Finlayson-Fife, check out her website at https://www.finlayson-fife.com

And if you are ready to apply these principles into your relationships, sign up for a FREE RBC (Relationship Boost Call) with me at www.dropthewar.com/appointments and I'll see ya on zoom!