Gossip, since our pre-tribal dawn, has been a useful way of regulating social standings and ensuring community cohesion. In the online social media and dating app sphere, however, all this has changed, with men and women responding to this new age differently. Some women are finding online spaces becoming increasingly misogynistic and threatening, with some men finding themselves excluded and frustrated.

Today’s guest, Dr Jenny van Hooff, is a sociologist at Manchester University specialising in personal life and contemporary intimacies. Dr van Hooff’s research explores the dynamics of couple relationships, love, commitment, infidelity, and break-ups across different stages of life, including examining the significance of friendships and the experiences of dating app users.

She co-directs the Contemporary Intimacies, Sexualities, and Genders Research Group, an interdisciplinary network that investigates the evolving landscape of personal relationships and intimacies. The Research Group challenges how we think about intimate relationships, gender relations, eroticism and sexuality to advance social justice. Jenny’s current projects focus on midlife intimacy, relationship breakdown, and digital dating practices. Dr van Hooff wrote a 2013 book entitled: Modern Couples?: Continuity and Change in Heterosexual.

In the episode we reference the books The Value of Others and Cold Intimacies: The Making of Emotional Capitalism. Produced by the Bloomsbury Institute London.

‘There is undoubtedly a huge amount of hype that surrounds this latest development in AI. The remarkable ambition of Sam Altman and others to create artificial general intelligence may or may not come to pass. Depending on who you listen to, it is either going to destroy the world, take your job or be your best friend (or even lover).’

That was a quote from the book ‘AI Demystified’. Today’s guest, Dr Antonio Weiss, helpfully wrote that book and is here to talk about it. Antonio is an award-winning technology expert and best-selling author. He has advised the Office for Artificial Intelligence, the UK Space Agency and NHS AI Lab, the Government Digital Service, and other pioneering organisations on AI adoption and digital transformation. He was previously Senior Advisor on Digital, Data & Technology to the Office of the UK Prime Minister Keir Starmer.

Antonio is the author of four other books: Key Business Solution (2023), The Practical Guide to Digital Transformation (2022), Management Consultancy and the British State (2019), 101 Business Ideas That Will Change The Way You Work (2013). He is also an Affiliated Researcher at the University of Cambridge's Digital State programme and the co-founder of Thomas Clipper, which has featured in GQ, The Guardian and The Telegraph. He holds a PhD from Birkbeck, University of London.

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What effect are devices and platforms having on children and young people? The American social scientist, Jonathan Haidt, published his seminal 2024 study on the cohort effect of the use of technology, particularly on girls.

I am hoping today’s guest, Nina Moyano, will be able to shed some light on this from her experience of working with children and parents. She is an ICF and EMCC-Accredited Coach - founding Life Coach London. Nina’s work focuses on digital wellbeing, confidence and mindset. In particular, she supports individuals and organisations in navigating the challenges of digital overload and screen addiction to create healthier, more intentional relationships with technology - such as managing screen time, improving focus and attention, or creating a culture that values disconnection and balance. You can see more of Nina's work on LinkedIn and Instagram.

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The traditional romantic story has a couple in puberty, not their pension. However, finding love later in life has become more and more prevalent due to increased divorce rates and longer life expectancies. Using tech platforms and dating apps can feel daunting, however. Can a leopard change its spots, and have fun being single at 60?

That's what I will be asking Fiona Lambert, an author and entrepreneur. After a successful career in fashion, including working in senior positions at brands at Asda, M&S, River Island and Next, she took to the pen and the punchbag to get fit. Her 2024 book, ‘Invincible not Invisible - Change Your Body and Mindset in 90 days’, I hope, she has left the boxing gloves at home, as we are here to discuss her new book: ‘SAS: Sexy and Single - Your Survival Guide to Dating’.

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Ever since the Hal 3000 supercomputer in ‘2001: A Space Odyssey’ went rogue, the public has worried about the practical and ethical implications of a new race of intelligent machines. Can a computer, that doesn’t know what a person really is, really be trusted to make ethical decisions in high-moral-implication sectors, such as healthcare and crime & justice? Machine learning may be able to accurately predict what I might be interested in watching next on Netflix, but can we trust AI to pick who I might want to be friends with, or even love?

That’s what I want to discuss with our guest, Joe Parker. We talk about the effect that technology is having on young people on this podcast so much that I thought that I’d better finally speak to one. Joe is a student and a Zoomer (Gen Z). His undergraduate degree was in Philosophy and Politics at the University of Southampton, and he is currently pursuing a Master’s in ‘Legal and Political Theory’ at UCL, where his dissertation focuses on AI ethics and its impact on individual behaviour and our ability to act.

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While we once enjoyed community and literature in person, perhaps through a book club, now, with online platforms, people are finding more like-minded individuals online, as shown by the popularity of 'BookTok' on TikTok. However, can you form a real bond with someone on a shared passion online?

To help us explore this, I went on the road to speak to Richard Kilgariff. Richard is a former television journalist, producer and television executive. He then moved into the world of books, running a series of initiatives (Books For Breakfast, bookomi., Author Insights) that discuss wide-ranging topics in a collaborative conversation with the author and the audience.

We discuss the beginnings of digital television (long before YouTube), social media regulation, the attention economy and the magic of in-person events for connecting and sharing insights. Books and programmes we referenced during the conversation include: The Social Dilemma, Smartphone Nation, Tiny Experiments, Love Factually, and Why Information Grows.

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Tech platforms have changed our lives, in many ways for the better. Email and digital platforms have revolutionised business, as social media and dating apps have transformed our personal lives. While tech solutions have promised to make our lives easier, they have also affected wider society - and not always positively.

That’s what I want to discuss with today’s guest, Russ Shaw CBE. Russ had a high-profile career in telecoms, before founding Tech London Advocates in 2013 to promote and support startups and scale-ups and be an independent, grassroots voice for the community. This went global in 2015 with Global Tech Advocates (GTA), which is now present in over 40 hubs around the globe, with over 40,000 members. In 2019, Russ launched the inaugural GTA Festival, taking place in China and bringing the international network together for the first time. The second edition of the Festival was held in India in 2022.

Russ has been championing London and the UK as a global tech hub and campaigning to address some of the biggest challenges and opportunities facing tech companies in the UK. Russ will be speaking and hosting events at the upcoming SXSW London and London Tech Week conferences, so look out for him there.

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Hope and excitement are powerful human emotions. We all hope for a better tomorrow, whether in our personal or professional lives. Dating apps and social media play into our optimism by showing us aspirational lifestyles, complete with the people that we might want to live them with. But sometimes this promise can turn disappointing, and even dark.

That’s what I want to discuss with today’s guest, Jemma Forte (Instagram, X). Jemma is an author, broadcast journalist, presenter, and public speaking coach. She writes about romance and relationships, having published five books: Be Careful What You Swipe For (2020), Me and Miss M (2020), Mad Wife Crisis (2020), When I Met You (2015), and From London With Love (2011).

Jemma also works as a broadcaster and a fellow podcaster (satirical current affairs and social media show: The Trawl), appearing regularly on TV politics and current affairs shows Jeremy Vine, Sky News, LBC, BBC Papers, Talk TV and Good Morning Britain. She started her presenting career at Nickelodeon and the Disney Channel, where she was an anchor for five years and interviewed everyone from Britney Spears to David Beckham.

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Are our cities and their nightlife changing for the worse, or just evolving to meet modern tastes? When they were first launched, dating apps were originally intended to augment and supplement the existing ways that we might meet someone. One of the challenges of this is that some of the places that would traditionally be fruitful hunting grounds in the West for looking for a date - bars, pubs and nightclubs - have seemingly been in decline.

I’m expecting a forthright debate with today’s guest, Julieta Cuneo. Julieta is a public policy expert, specialising in cities and the night-time economy. She has worked as a journalist and in several think tanks researching and developing urban policy. She has also worked in Parliament and currently works for the Mayor of London on night-time policy and strategy. I want to ask her about how much government should intervene in sculpting the spaces that are often the backdrop to city life and love.

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Introspection and self-reflection may have become modern-day virtues, but at times we will require an independent, impartial sounding board to truly understand how our past affects our current feelings and behaviour. This is the role of the therapist.

We have all experienced painful memories that have harmed our relationships. So, how can we come to terms with trauma and move forward positively? This is what we will be exploring with our guest, Sue Cowan-Jenssen. Sue is an integrative psychotherapist and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitation and Reprocessing) consultant with over twenty years of experience working with adults.

Sue has worked at the Trauma Unit of Watford General Hospital, specialising in trauma and bereavement. She is a member of the Relational School and the London Psychotherapy and Trauma Centre. Sue has also written about a wide range of issues from how psychotherapy works, to understanding the impact of our competitive culture on our sense of self.

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