The Happy To Speak Podcast with Jim Simcoe

You don’t have to be a Buddhist monk to live intentionally.  

And examples of people living intentionally are all around us if we we open our eyes to them.

Such is the case with Alex Longoria, a General Manager at Philz Coffee in Encinitas. I’ve know Alex a few months now from going into Philz and getting my green tea (with extra mint) every day.  We’ve always chatted about sports, the weather or whatever and he always seemed in a genuinely good mood. One day I asked him what he liked most about working there. 

I was blown away by his response.  

He said he loved working at Philz because it gave him a chance to positively impact dozens of people’s lives every single day. He had an opportunity to make someone’s life better with every order based on how he treated them.  It wasn’t just what he said, it was the way he said it.  You could tell he truly meant it and he was 100% focused on making his customers as happy as possible.

So I invited him on the podcast to talk about living intentionally. We talk about mindfulness and why loving what you do daily is so important.  We also talk about Philz Coffee and GoodOnYa and how they’ve managed to create a thriving business by focusing on employee & customer happiness first and profit second. 

Here’s what you’ll learn on the podcast: 

1. What you should never do in a coffee shop (you’ll be surprised)
2. Why faith and confidence are the biggest keys to an epic life
3. How intentional living translates into love
4. Why watching make-up tutorials could be the best relationship advice to follow if you’re a guy
5. Why I hate hockey and how we both define ‘hipsters’

Check it out and I hope you enjoy the episode.

LINKS 

1. Philz Coffee
2. Jacob Jaber CEO - Philz
3. GoodOnYa Cafe

The roles of manhood have changed.    Guys all over the world are shattering common definitions of what it means to be a man.  It’s ok to share your feelings, be vulnerable and create your own story.  It takes brave men to re-define the traditional roles of manhood and today we’re lucky to have one on our show. Our guest today, Jared Little, is the perfect embodiment of the new modern day man.    He is:  

1. A two-time NCAA Division One National Champion lacrosse player (Virginia)
2. A former pastor who was called to ministry early in life
3. A man who chooses to stay home raising his kids while his wife pursues a corporate career
4. An entrepreneur, coach, writer, father, and husband

  Jared is a true modern day man in the sense that he’s actively creating the life he wants while being a family man and entrepreneur.  He’s chosen to buck convention and not allow society to dictate how he lives and what he believes.     I’ve interviewed tons of people on this podcast and what stands out about Jared is his unwavering commitment to his beliefs.  He believes what he believes, lives his life that way and doesn’t really worry or care what anyone else thinks.  I believe there are great lessons you can learn from him so I think you’ll really dig listening to Jared today.     JARED’S LESSONS 

1. Surround yourself with good people
2. Be vulnerable with your insecurities
3. Find time for yourself (reflect & hang out)
4. Read every day, at least 10 pages
5. Take care of/know your wife & kids
6. Let things die to be able to move on
7. Be unafraid of bucking traditional views of manhood
8. “Nobody is going to fight for you. You have to fight for yourself”
9. Input = Output

  LINKS 

1. KingdomCandidates.com
2. Order of Man, Ryan Michler podcast episode
3.  The New Gold Standard

“The world needs to accelerate towards an economy based on passionate self-employment”-  John Crestani

John Crestani is an internationally-renowned expert in internet marketing who joins us on the show today to talk about how to create a life of passion & purpose. John helps people to follow their passion & reveal their inner strengths to become successful entrepreneurs.

Some of the things we talk about:

1. His view on passion and self-employment.
2. How to recognize and utilize upcoming trends in our world
3. How to take a control of your time
4. The traits every entrepreneur needs to be successful
5. The importance of positivity in business and life
6. The role of energy in every part of your life
7. The magical “yes+ and” positivity formula

His top-three lessons every entrepreneur needs to hear

1. Look at your patterns- how do you react to certain scenarios. When you get a lot of money what happens next?
2. Focus – Every business works, people who make a ton of money are the one who focus. They don’t jump around.
3. The importance of knowing your end goal.

LINKS

• John Crestani
• John Ceratin YouTube Channel

Statistics state that every 98 seconds someone in the US is sexually assaulted. And every 8 minutes that victim is a child.   This is my story of sexual abuse and how I overcame what happened to me when I was a kid.    It’s raw, unedited and in many ways still very painful to tell. You’ll probably be able to tell in the audio times when I was having a hard time getting words out. I apologize for the delivery but the message is important.   I choose to record it today because Chester Bennington from the band Linkin Park committed suicide yesterday.  They are a favorite of mine and I’ve been listening to them for a long time. He had often spoken about being sexually abused as a kid and his story was eerily similar to mine. When I heard he passed it really shook me. It spurred me to record this  podcast- one that I’ve wanted to for a very long time but couldn’t bring myself to do until today.   My sincerest hope in recording this podcast is that it helps one person. I hope the vast majority of you turn it off in the beginning because it just doesn’t apply to your life.  For those of you that it does I hope that by telling you my story it helps in some way.  The episode is broken down into:   

1. My story - what happened, when & where and what I felt and lost as a result
2. What didn’t work for me- how I tried to manage it (unsuccessfully)
3. What DID work for it- the steps and actions I took to recover
4. Adice for you if you’ve had a similar experience or someone close to you has

I hope this podcast is helpful.   *This podcast is dedicated to my Mom, my Dad and Tom. Thank you for always being there and for the love and support you’ve given me unequivocally everyday of my life.   Links:   RAINN National Sexual Assault Hotline

“It’s one thing to say you can do something. It’s another to believe that you can. The most important thing is the moment you take the first step. After that, all you need is the will power within you to see it through the end, regardless of your limitations.” – Betina   Betina Gozo is a Nike Master Trainer, musician, and the finalist for Women’s Health Magazine’s Next Fitness Star competition. Vote for her here. She stopped by the podcast today to talk about the emotional benefits of working out, empowering women and what it’s like to work at Nike World Headquarters.  She also talks about being in a cover band and why Billy Jean is one of her favorite songs to play.    Like me, she’s Filipino and was raised by a single Mom who taught her all about hard work and dedication. She was super cool to talk to so I know you’ll dig listening to the podcast.   Some of what you’ll learn listening to Betina:   

1. Common fears she sees in women and how to deal with them
2. The 5 emotional benefits of working out 
3. Advice on how to get started 
4. The importance of accumulating small wins
5. The single most important thing to do to get started
6. What to focus on in training (and life)

LINKS 

1. Women Health Next Fitness Star - Vote for Betina Here
2. BetinaGozo.com
3. Traincanvas.com

Jeff Robbins former lead singer of the band Orbit joins us today to talk about life as a rock star and tech CEO.  He talks about being on the Lalapalooza tour, what he learned on the road and what it’s like having a Top 10 Hit. You’ll hear about the similarities between being in a rock band and running a startup and why small vans beat tour buses every time.   You’ll hear about how Jeff was an early tech leader and who he gets his best advice from (hint: his Mom).  You’ll also hear about my band experience and how most of what I learned about concurring fear, creating loyalty and love came from being in my own band.    I will also send a free t-shirt to the 1st person who emails me with the correct answer to this question: What song did my band open with every time we played?   LESSONS   1.Know when you’re being an a**hole (and learn how to stop) 2.Stay true to your vision and question the status quo 3.Be ok with who you are 4.Tell people your faults up front 5.Be ok with failure 6.Be willing to buck conventional wisdom 7.Always be an artist 8.Life is an exercise in authenticity 9.Discipline is remembering what you want (Moms great advice) 10.Life is like sailing, constant process of adjusting (tack, jibe). Cannot be planned out from the dock 11.Life is a learning a process, mastering life is a process of learning as you go 12.“Write great songs”- is the core of what you’re doing awesome? 13.Clean house sooner than later, business is business 14.Understand the dynamics of your environment   LINKS Lessons learned from rock and roll  Yonder Twitter Lullabot Twitter

Have you ever wanted to start over and hit the reset button in your life? Maybe your career/relationship/health/friendships are not going the way you want and you’re ready to get back on track. If so, then this podcast is for you.  Starting over and getting back on track can be easier than you think.  In this episode we discuss 27 simple ways to start over and get your life back on track.  We’ll cover everything from writing a personal manifesto to getting your morning right to ‘theme’ living. Look, no matter your age the time to start over and get back on track is right now. check out the episode and learn how.   Links: 

1. Personal Manifesto podcast
2. Bullet Journal Method
3.  Rhodia Notebook
4. Medium
5. Me on Medium

If you’ve ever wondered how to write a book then today’s podcast is for you. The truth is we are all writers with a story to tell. Yes, even you (I see you shaking your head). Writing a book is pretty cool. Publishing that book is even cooler.

On the show today I’m going to give you all the tips & tools to go from ‘person’ to ‘published author’. I wrote & published a book in 6 months and so can you.

In this podcast I cover the 7 steps to write a book, the tools I used, what methods worked well and which didn’t. You’ll also hear about my love affair with index cards, how to do a book outline and why it’s easier than ever to self-publish. 

Writing a book can be a fantastically empowering experience. Check out the podcast and learn how to write a book (even if you failed high school English:)

You can train and run a half-marathon. You may think you can’t but I believe you can.  On today’s podcast you’ll hear how I was able to train and run a half marathon successfully despite a multitude of injuries (past & present) and despite utilizing a training program that was largely devoid of running.     You’ll learn from Tricia Moore, my coach, on how you can train and run a half marathon successfully no matter what physical shape you’re in, past injuries you have, etc. She lays out the foundation for training as well as her beliefs on why running a race can be so empowering for anyone.   I’m living proof of someone who’s not designed to run: I’m slow & have messed up knees & back from sports; 47 years old; a few extra lbs and a general dislike of running:) Yet I run races for the insane sense of accomplishment at the end. I run for the runner’s high, I run for the freedom and I run to feel better about myself.  You can too.   So if you have any interest in building self-confidence & creating a life where you are the superhero, then listen to this podcast. Tricia breaks down the steps to go from couch to race.  Honestly it’s probably easier than you think and it’s totally worth it.   Because signing up for and completing a half marathon is not only within your reach, it’s also one of the best things you can do for yourself. Check out the show..

If you’re anything like me the topic of managing money makes your stomach tighten and teeth clench.  Maybe you break out into a cold sweat when someone says ‘retirement planning’? I can happily deliver a speech in front of 10,000 people without getting nervous but ask me about budgeting and I might pass out:)   Which is why today we have the pleasure of having wealth advisor Mike Muniz on our show. He’s here to talk about all aspects of financial planning and wealth creation/wealth preservation. Mike is good friend of mine and I’ve always been impressed by how intelligent and well-spoken he is. I think you’ll enjoy listening to him.   Building money confidence is a topic I’ve wanted to tackle for a while but could never find the right guest*. I wanted someone you & I can relate to, someone who can give us all some much needed real-world advice. Mike is our guy.   Mike talks about:   

1. The best money moves to make at any age
2. How his wealthiest clients built their wealth (great exercise in reverse-engineering for all of us)
3. The biggest mistakes most people make and how to avoid them

  *I recorded another episode with a financial planner a while ago and never published it.  Quite frankly, it wasn’t any good. The advice was bad/boring and my questions sucked so I trashed it.  Very glad I did, Mike’s advice is wa