The Head Trash + Healing Show with Alexia Leachman

In this episode of the Head Trash & Healing Show, I delve into the topic of trauma therapy and why common approaches often fall short. Join me as I share insights and a powerful metaphor to help you better understand the true approach to healing trauma.

Key Discussion Points:

- The limitations of traditional methods for healing trauma and the prevalence of unresolved trauma in many individuals.

- A powerful metaphor of being struck by an arrow to illustrate the ineffective approach to trauma healing, highlighting the focus on superficial details rather than addressing the root cause.

- The impact of unhealed trauma on one's behaviour, relationships, and self-perception, and the tendency to form alliances with others who share similar experiences.

- The importance of addressing emotional baggage, blame, shame, and pain as part of the trauma healing process, emphasising the role of forgiveness and self-awareness.

- Overlooking areas such as ancestral trauma and subconscious influences in the healing process, and the need to widen the scope of trauma exploration beyond the conscious mind.

Who Is This Episode For:

This episode is for people who have experienced trauma and are seeking a deeper understanding of why traditional trauma healing methods may not have been effective for them. Listeners struggling with unhealed trauma, behavioural adaptations due to trauma, and emotional challenges stemming from past wounds will find valuable insights in this episode. Those looking for a fresh perspective on trauma healing and the importance of addressing underlying emotional barriers will benefit from the discussion.

In this enlightening episode of 'Head Trash & Healing Show', host Alexia Leachman sits down with the profound Amanda Blau. Together, they delve into the enigmatic world of higher consciousness, human and soul perspectives, the power of acceptance and allowing oneself to feel, tracking change, and spiritual energy transchanneling. They also candidly touch on personal stories and explore the concept of past lives, bringing in a fresh and potent perspective to healing, acceptance, and power.

Key Discussions:

- Definition of consciousness and the exploration of Dr. David R Hawkins' "map of consciousness".

- Distinction between the human and soul perspective.

- The idea of learning lessons and soul contracts in life.

- Embracing "darker" emotions and understanding the fear around opening up Pandora's box.

- Amanda's perspective on releasing inner power and visualising to bring things into existence.

- Tracking shifts in consciousness and Amanda's personal approach on the matter.

- Alexia sharing her healing journey around fear of loss.

- Amanda explaining acceptance and resistance in the context of personal healing.

- The importance of acceptance, curiosity, and self-awareness in personal growth.

- Discussion on "witch wound", particularly pertaining to women.

- The concept of past lives and trauma in different lifetimes.

This episode is particularly eye-opening for those struggling with recurring emotional patterns, difficulty in awareness, acceptance, and change. If you've ever felt stuck in your growth and healing journey, are battling fear of your inner power, or feel the urge to understand consciousness and its role in your life better, then this episode is a must-listen. It invites you to challenge your belief systems, feel your emotions, visualise your existence, and lean into acceptance, hence guiding you towards a more profound, empathetic, and empowered self.

Join me, Alexia Leachman, in an energising conversation with Melissa as we comb through the uncomfortable snarls of people-pleasing, all in this episode of the Head Trash & Healing Show.

In this episode, we go deep into understanding the roots and repercussions of being a people-pleaser. If you're finding yourself always saying yes when you mean no, feel burdened with an unnecessary sense of obligation, or struggle with setting personal boundaries, this conversation is especially for you.

We share informative and impactful insights about:

- The relationship between boundaries, self-care, and people-pleasing

- Strategies on dealing with workplace pressures and work-life balance

- Mindful strategies to handle reactions from superiors and colleagues when setting boundaries

- The systematic transformation process from being a people-pleaser to a self-assured personality

- The role of much-needed 'selfishness' and comparison of treatment towards self and others

- The paramount importance of self-awareness and authenticity

- Facing resistance to change and fear of the unknown

- The negative impact of people-pleasing habits on personal relationships

Bright-eyed listeners, willingly caught in the people-pleasing trap, will benefit significantly from this episode.

If you're looking to replace transactional interactions with real connections and revamp your work-life dynamics, then you've landed on the right episode.

This episode will elicit a change, urging you to break free from the chains of over-accommodation and help you embark on a journey of self-discovery.

Let's reinforce your identity, gear up your self-confidence and more importantly, learn to say 'no.'

Today, we delve into the impact of clutter, both physical and emotional, on our lives and feelings of inner peace. I'm thrilled to have with us professional declutter coach Susie, who shares insights from her work helping clients tackle their emotional, mental, and even physical clutter. We discuss the pitfalls of retail therapy, the potential emotional impact of clutter in different areas at home, and the connection between clutter and unmet needs, often labelled lazily. We chat about reframing laziness as self-compassion and self-care and touch on spiritual decluttering, the importance of recalibrating values, and making conscious choices. This episode also explores the emotions tied to clothing and why letting go can be so difficult. Whether you're hanging onto physical items, or battling emotional baggage, today's chat with Susie is sure to shed light on the path to decluttering and alignment. Do stick around for this enlightening episode - there's a lot to unpack, quite literally!

In this week's episode of the Head Trash Healing Show, I had the absolute pleasure of diving into a rich and candid conversation with the remarkable Allen. Our focus? The fascinating and transformative journey of self-regulation.

Allen, with his openness and vulnerability, shared his deeply personal experience of seeking self-regulation as a means to cope with life's adversities. We delved into his powerful four-year self-regulation journey, which began amid business closures and a challenging divorce, propelling him into a profound process of self-rebuilding.

Together, we explored the concept of emotional regulation as the capacity to feel secure within oneself, enabling us to actively engage with life's complexities and choose our responses to triggers and challenges. Allen's relentless pursuit of self-regulation has unveiled a beautiful, ongoing evolution, marked by a sincere commitment to his own personal growth.

The interview wove through the tapestry of Allen's daily self-care rituals and the impact of having a supportive community, especially during times of isolation. His resilience and drive determined to rewrite the narratives of his early life traumas were truly inspiring.

We ventured into the intertwined threads of trauma, belief systems, and archetypes, uncovering how these elements shape our behaviors and perceptions. Allen's courageous resilience in confronting and reshaping various traumas, including ancestral and in utero trauma, illuminated the profound impact of our formative experiences.

What struck a chord with me was his poignant account of isolation during a tumultuous period in his life, and how he channeled it into a profound inward journey. His insistence on "trauma hunting" and the unrelenting pursuit of inner clarity ignited a powerful sense of growth and self-understanding.

I was particularly moved by Allen's approach to relationships, especially amidst personal turmoil. His commitment to understanding others' coping mechanisms, maintaining a regulated nervous system, and extending compassion reflected an incredible depth of emotional intelligence and personal integrity.

The episode was topped off with Allen sharing his self-regulating practices, including meditation, engaging in substance-based ceremonies, and the use of devices like Apollo Neuro, exemplifying the significance of integrating various tools in our personal growth journeys.

The conversation left me feeling deeply enriched and inspired. Allen’s honest and poignant account of personal resilience and spiritual growth is a testament to the transformative power of self-awareness, community support, and the pursuit of inner balance.

I invite you to tune into the full episode and embrace Allen's wisdom as we continue on our shared journey of healing and growth. And remember, you're not alone in your pursuit of self-regulation and personal transformation.

Today we have an incredibly fascinating topic to explore - the map of consciousness - and how it can be used to measure the progress of inner work.

In this episode, we'll explore how our consciousness can impact our emotions, perceptions, and problem-solving abilities. I'll also be taking a closer look at the concept of healing work, its effectiveness, and why I think it's important to measure the progress of inner work as we navigate our emotional healing journey.

Join me as we explore a powerful tool that can help us track our growth, overcome fears and anxieties, and ultimately live a more content and fulfilling life. So grab a cup of tea, sit back, and get ready to delve into the intriguing world of mapping consciousness on the Head Trash Show.

Have you ever questioned the effectiveness of the healing work you've been investing your time, energy, and resources into?

Are you looking for a tool to help you measure your progress and gain insights into your emotional well-being?

If so, this episode is a must-listen. To avoid unnecessary pain, I explain why I encourage you to take a careful assessment of whether attending personal development events or engaging in healing activities has truly benefited you. Unfortunately, 'feeling better' is not enough to evaluate the effectiveness of healing work. Instead, I think we should be measuring the impact of your healing journey on your consciousness, emotional state, perception of the world, and problem-solving abilities.

This is where I think a tool like the Map of Consciousness can help us to measure the progress of inner work. This tool includes a scale ranging from 0 to 1000, which can be used to help you quantify and track your progress.

To illustrate the power of this tool, I share a personal story from a particularly challenging chapter of my life, emotionally speaking.

At the time, I was wrestling with anxiety, depression and overwhelming grief, and it was against this backdrop that a positive pregnancy test result sent me even deeper into despair. I didn't realise I suffered from tokophobia (extreme fear of pregnancy and birth), and that was why I was feeling the way I was. This experience forced me to step up to the healing table because I couldn't stay feeling that way.

Over the next eighteen months I did a lot of inner work, that eventually paid off. So I decided to revisit this period of my life through the lens of this tool to see what I could learn. I knew that my thinking had changed - quite dramatically - but how would this be portrayed using the map of consciousness? 

• Could I see the impact of my healing activities?
• Was it possible for me to measure the progress of inner work that I had done?
• Could the tool offer me additional insights for my healing journey?

What I learned blew my mind!

In understanding my level of consciousness and how it has changed, it has helped me navigate challenging situations and make shifts in my own growth.

This episode is filled with practical insights and actionable steps to help you measure your progress on your healing journey.

And, if you want to know where you are on the Head Trash Ladder of Healing, you can do my quiz, which will tell you whether you're a Conker, Washing Ball, Bouncy Ball, Snooker Ball or Glitter Ball. This is a valuable quiz that can help you identify where you currently are on your journey of self-discovery. To do the quiz head over here.

Today we are diving deep into a fear that many people may not even realise is one of the most common fears out there. It's called emetophobia, the fear of vomit. Now, before you think this is just a trivial fear, let me assure you, it's a very serious phobia that can have a profound impact on people's lives.In this episode, we will explore what emetophobia is, how it can affect various aspects of life, and most importantly, how to heal from it. We'll discuss the origins of this fear and how personal experiences can contribute to its development. Whether it's a childhood memory of being sick or witnessing someone else's illness, these experiences can lead to a deep-seated fear that elicits anxiety and panic.But fear not, my dear listeners, because I am here to help you navigate through this fear and find freedom on the other side. We will uncover practical strategies and tools to overcome emetophobia, allowing you to regain control and lead a life free from the constant worry and anxiety.Whether you're someone who wants to travel without the fear of getting sick, or a woman contemplating starting a family but dreads the thought of morning sickness, this episode is for you. By facing this fear head-on, we open up new possibilities and opportunities for growth and fulfillment.So grab a bucket (metaphorically speaking, of course) and join me as we dig deep into emetophobia and discover the path to healing. Don't let this fear hold you back any longer. It's time to clear out that head trash and reclaim your life. Let's dive in!