In this episode, we explore how childhood trauma affects adult relationships, and why the patterns you struggle with in intimacy, friendship, and connection often didn’t start in the present.

From attachment styles and nervous system responses to people-pleasing, avoidance, and fear of abandonment, we unpack how early relational wounds quietly shape the way you love, attach, and respond to others today.

By the end of this episode, you’ll:

Understand how childhood trauma shows up in adult relationships

Learn how early attachment experiences shape your attachment style today

Identify common trauma-based relationship patterns, including anxious, avoidant, and disorganised attachment

Recognise why your nervous system reacts so strongly in moments of conflict, distance, or intimacy

Begin separating past wounds from present relationships

Discover how healing childhood trauma can happen in relationship - not just alone

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In this episode, we explore how childhood trauma creates deeply ingrained cycles of thoughts, emotions, and behaviours that can follow us into adulthood.

By the end of this episode you'll be able to:

• Understand what trauma cycles are and how they form in childhood
• Recognise why patterns that no longer serve you once had an important protective role
• Identify how these cycles show up in your nervous system and relationships
• Learn practical ways to pause, notice, and gently interrupt trauma-driven patterns
• Begin breaking cycles with more awareness, self-compassion, and choice

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In this episode, we explore how the core beliefs we carry about ourselves in adulthood can often be formed in response to childhood trauma - not because they were true, but because they helped us survive.

By the end of this episode, you’ll be able to:

• Understand what core beliefs are and how they form as adaptive survival responses
• Reframe beliefs like “I don’t matter” as protective strategies rather than personal flaws
• Recognise the environments that made these beliefs necessary
• Identify clear steps to help you form new core beliefs

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In this episode, we explore emotional numbness - the quiet, often unseen trauma response that can shape how we think, feel, and show up in the world.

We break down how numbness forms, why it once protected you, and the ways it can quietly shape your adult life today.

By the end of this episode, you’ll learn:

• the neuroscience and psychology behind emotional numbness
• the key signs and patterns to help you recognise it in yourself
• how childhood environments contribute to it
• why numbness interferes with needs, identity, and intimacy
• gentle, practical strategies to begin warming your emotional world back to life

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In this episode, we dive deep into one of the most misunderstood trauma responses: freeze.

If you’ve ever gone blank in conflict, shut down in conversations, or felt disconnected from your own life, this episode will help you understand why.

By the end of this episode, you’ll be able to:

• Clearly understand what the freeze response is and why your body uses it
• Recognise how freeze shows up in your day-to-day life, from subtle shutdowns to full dissociation
• See how the freeze response can be rooted in childhood trauma and shaped by early survival patterns
• Learn practical, gentle steps to help thaw the freeze response in your own nervous system
• Begin connecting back to your body, emotions, and sense of safety.

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In this episode, we walk through the five key steps that help you finally understand how trauma has shaped you.

By the end of this episode, you’ll be able to:

• Identify which type of trauma you’ve experienced
• Understand the core wound that experience left in your sense of self
• Recognise how trauma shows up in your body, emotions, and beliefs
• Spot the protective patterns that were once survival strategies
• Notice your triggers and what they’re actually pointing you toward

If you’ve ever wondered “Why am I like this?” - this episode will help you connect the dots.

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In this episode, we explore anger as a trauma-based fight response, helping you understand why it can feel so intense and how to begin working with it rather than against it.

By the end of this episode, you’ll be able to:

• Understand the difference between everyday anger and a trauma-based fight response
• Recognise how your body and nervous system communicate through anger
• Identify the underlying wounds or unmet needs that anger may be protecting
• Practise four simple steps to regulate and heal your relationship with anger
• Begin transforming anger from a reactive defence into an informed protector

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In this episode, we dive into the fascinating world of the human nervous system and why our bodies sometimes overreact, get stuck in survival mode, and how trauma can shape our nervous system responses.

By the end of this episode you'll be able to:

• Understand the basic structure and function of the human nervous system.

• Recognise how trauma can impact nervous system responses.

• Understand your personal triggers and how these affect your nervous system.

• Use simple tools like the polyvagal ladder to track and understand their nervous system states.

• Move toward greater flexibility between nervous system states instead of being stuck in survival mode

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In this episode we explore how early relational trauma shapes our sense of self - and what we can reclaim as we begin to heal.

We dive into how protective adaptations like people-pleasing, perfectionism, withdrawal, or over-achieving often feel like “who we are,” and how to start reconnecting with the authentic self beneath the layers of survival.

Alec also shares practical insights from therapy, including narrative and parts-based approaches, and a simple daily practice to help create space for your authentic self to emerge.

This episode is for anyone wanting to understand their patterns, reclaim their voice, and reconnect with joy, creativity, and self-worth.

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In this episode, we explore what it means to move from contraction to expansion after relational trauma.

By the end of this episode, you’ll know:

• How relational trauma can show up as contraction in your body, emotions, and relationships - from slumped posture to emotional withdrawal.

• What contraction looks like in everyday life and why it’s often a protective response.

• How small, embodied moments of expansion signal that your nervous system is learning it’s safe to reconnect.

• Practical signs that you’re beginning to expand and healing, including noticing patterns sooner, tolerating connection, and reclaiming authenticity.

• A simple “Expansion Check-In” you can try at home to gently practice opening up in safe, manageable ways.

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