Most people claim they want equality, partnership, balance, and mutuality. But deep in the nervous system lives Symmetry Terror—a visceral fear of standing in a relationship where: power is truly shared, both can leave, both can see and name the truth, Neither is superior nor safely inferior. Why It’s Psychologically Counterintuitive We usually pathologize power imbalance. This topic says: we unconsciously seek imbalance because it feels safer than mutual exposure. Being “above” means control. Being “below” means moral innocence. Being “equal” means no hiding place. Psychiatric / Clinical Angle Frames certain “attachment issues” as defenses against symmetry: anxious types chase upward or downward asymmetry, avoidant types preserve distance to avoid symmetrical vulnerability. Re-interpret conflict cycles as covert attempts to break equality and restore a familiar hierarchy.