How do you build confidence while you're still not confident? Listener Jessica asked, and Ashleigh Mayfield answers in this #AskAshleigh episode.

Confidence isn't gifted — it's earned, one kept promise at a time. Ashleigh walks through seven practical shifts: borrow belief until you build your own, keep the promises you make to yourself, start before you're ready, act like your future self, collect evidence instead of emotions, get comfortable being uncomfortable, and stop comparing your beginning to someone else's middle. You don't become confident and then take action — you take action until confidence catches up.

Chapters:

0:00 — Intro: the #AskAshleigh question

0:57 — No one feels confident before they start

2:20 — Borrow belief until you build your own

4:16 — Keep the promises you make to yourself

6:13 — Start before you're ready

6:52 — Act like your future self

9:13 — Collect evidence, not emotions

12:44 — Get comfortable being uncomfortable

15:03 — Stop comparing your beginning to their middle

17:40 — Confidence is earned, not gifted

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When you're a high achiever and you're still not where you want to be, the answer isn't to beat yourself up — it's to get honest and take action. In this episode, Ashleigh Mayfield breaks down what to do when you've fallen short of your goals.

She covers why frustration is normal but staying stuck isn't, the three levels of getting honest about your activity (showing up, tracking/measuring, and staying consistent), why your action creates motivation instead of the other way around, how discipline beats feelings, why comparison and "looking left and right" drains the energy you need, and how to become the person your results require.

Practical, direct personal development for women who want to stop repeating what isn't working and get back on track.

Chapters:

0:00 Why you're not where you want to be (and why it's normal)

0:21 Don't self-deprecate — do personal development first

1:45 Frustration is normal, but staying stuck isn't

2:51 The definition of insanity: stop repeating what fails

3:38 Tip 1: Take accountability — get honest about your activity

5:49 Give whole, not half

7:27 Tip 2: Stop waiting until you feel motivated

9:02 It's about discipline, not motivation

11:41 Stop comparing: quit looking left and right

13:42 Celebrate progress, not perfection

15:14 Tip 3: Become the person your result requires

17:48 The goal isn't overnight success

Ashleigh Mayfield opens up about the cost of being addicted to the grind — and the season when her ambition quietly pushed her husband and daughters to the back burner. This is an honest conversation about why "work-life balance" is the wrong target, and what to aim for instead.

You'll hear the moment that woke her up (her husband holding a full conversation while she never looked up from her phone), why impacting millions of women means nothing if she isn't present for the two daughters at home, and the three habits that turned it around: scheduling your family as a non-negotiable, being present where your feet are, and bringing your family on the journey with you.

If you're a driven woman who loves the chase but doesn't want to become a stranger to the people you're working for, this episode gives you both the honesty and the practical steps.

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction

00:30 Addicted to the hustle and grind

01:37 Why work-life balance is an illusion

02:39 How compromising family starts small

03:54 The phone problem: never looking up

05:05 When work takes priority over family

08:25 What's the point of the kingdom without your king?

10:35 Rebuilding trust with her daughters

11:56 Why kids need you most in middle school

13:29 Habit 1: Schedule your family

16:40 Habit 2: Be present where your feet are

18:30 Presence beats presents

20:43 Habit 3: Bring your family on the journey

24:00 Letting your kids see you work

26:29 One day your calendar will be empty

"Elijah knew the brook was just a resource and that God was his source."

In 1 Kings 17, Elijah walks in on the most evil king Israel has known, announces a drought, and is immediately sent into hiding at the Kerith Ravine. Ravens bring him bread and meat morning and evening. He drinks from the brook. And then the text says something that goes by so fast you'll miss it — sometime later, the brook dried up. Then the word of the Lord came to him. Not before. After.

Ashleigh Mayfield teaches this passage in three movements. God is faithful to provide — the ravens and the brook were in place before Elijah ever felt the need, the same way the ram was already caught in the thicket before Abraham climbed the mountain. God is faithful to develop you — Kerith in Hebrew means to cut off, and God hid Elijah at the exact moment he looked most ready to be used, because what happened at the brook was the catalyst for every miracle that came after it. And God is faithful to direct you — but sometimes the direction only comes after the provision is completely gone.

She tells it through her own story. In 2014 she and her husband were asked to leave a church over a pastor's affair that wasn't theirs, with two kids under five and no income. She drove 45 minutes to interview for a nine-dollar-an-hour job she didn't want to take, and left with a forty-thousand-dollar salary she hadn't applied for. Nine and a half years later, running a business that had made her the fifteenth-highest income earner in her company, she watched her commissions fall month after month while every door she knocked on stayed shut and God stayed silent. Three weeks of crying. Not released. Staying anyway.

If you're in a season where the thing that sustained you is visibly running out and heaven hasn't spoken yet, this one is for you. At some point our faith has to be greater than our feelings — and we have to stop evaluating God's faithfulness by our circumstances and start evaluating our circumstances by God's faithfulness.

Scripture — 1 Kings 17.1-7, 1 Samuel 17.37, Genesis 22.13, James 5.17-18, Ephesians 6.12-17, 1 Kings 18.20-40

00:00 Welcome — Turn to 1 Kings 17

00:50 David, Goliath, and the List in My Notes App

03:07 The Big Idea — God Is Faithful in Every Season

04:04 Scripture Reading and Prayer — 1 Kings 17.1-7

05:20 King Ahab, Jezebel, and the God of the Rain

06:41 Point 1 — God Is Faithful to Provide

07:28 2014 — When the Rug Got Pulled Out

09:35 The Nine-Dollar Interview That Wasn't

12:28 Abraham and the Ram — Genesis 22

13:12 Fear, the What-Ifs, and Doing God's Job for Him

14:10 Point 2 — God Is Faithful to Develop You

14:47 Three and a Half Years of Drought — James 5

15:55 Why God Hid Him Instead of Using Him

17:24 The Secret Place — Worship, the Word, and Prayer

19:24 Can You Pray for Seven Minutes?

20:26 Deep Roots, the Oak Tree, and What Kerith Means

21:16 The Armor of God — Ephesians 6

22:28 The Miracles That Came After the Brook

23:39 Your Pastor Isn't Your Main Source of Development

24:41 Point 3 — God Is Faithful to Direct You

25:37 When My Own Brook Started Drying Up

27:36 April and May — Watching the Numbers Fall

29:44 Three Weeks of Crying and Waiting

30:43 The Lord Released Me — Resigning

31:25 Are You Sitting Down? — The Call

32:36 Where the Power of God Actually Was

33:31 The Last Scoops — He Never Complained

34:44 Faith Greater Than Feelings

35:36 Provide, Develop, Direct — The Three Points

35:58 Closing Prayer

Four years ago I was forced to quit this podcast. Not because I ran out of things to say — because the company I was earning multiple five figures a month with gave me an ultimatum: my career, or my calling.

This is the full story. I launched the High Achievers Bootcamp in 2021, had 400 people show up to a free workshop, capped the program at 10 women, and watched a client close $15,000 in contracts within 24 hours of a one-on-one session. It was working. Then corporate came after me — private DMs, text messages, group chats with my husband in them, and meetings where my own content was subject to their approval.

I chose the income. I stayed. It took four more years to walk away.

I break down the three kinds of careers — the one that supports your calling, the one that funds it, and the one that fights it — and how to tell which one you're in. We talk about the difference between being frustrated at work and being genuinely trapped, why comfort and security carry a price tag most of us never calculate, and how to build your personal leadership before you make the leap.

If there's something you've been told to keep quiet about — a business, a book, a brand, a promotion, a dream — this episode is for you. You do not need permission to live a big life.

I don't regret quitting. I regret allowing someone else to decide how I use my voice.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Back After Four Years

00:22 Why I Was Forced to Quit

00:49 The Three Kinds of Careers

01:48 Taking You Back to 2021

03:12 How This Podcast Started

04:26 Launching the High Achievers Bootcamp

05:57 Success, Then the Backlash

07:08 The Client Who Closed $15K

08:08 When the Company Came After Me

09:06 The Ultimatum

11:03 "We Built Your Platform"

11:53 Four Years to Walk Away

12:38 What Staying Is Costing You

15:31 Frustrated vs Actually Trapped

18:35 You Do Not Need Permission

20:26 Taking My Voice Back

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Stop chasing ceilings. In this raw, no-fluff episode, Ashleigh Mayfield delivers the honest conversation she wishes someone had given her nine and a half years ago. After building to the top of her previous company and walking away to start from zero, she's learned exactly what separates those who hit their goals from those who keep saying "next month."

She breaks down the three things holding you back: a low standard for how you operate, the voice in your head running the show, and selective urgency that only kicks in when pressure hits. You'll learn why raising your foundation matters more than shattering ceilings, how to show up as the finish line version of yourself before you've crossed it, and a simple strategy for eating the elephant one bite at a time.

If you've been telling yourself you're "all in" but your habits tell a different story — brace for impact.

Are you tired of setting the same goals year after year with nothing to show for it? If December 2025 looks exactly like December 2024, it's time for a new approach.

In this episode, Ashleigh Mayfield breaks down the 7 essential life categories you need to address if you want 2026 to be your breakthrough year. Drawing from nearly a decade of coaching women and her own journey to paying off $63,801.99 in just six months, Ashleigh delivers a no-fluff framework for creating lasting change.

What you'll learn:

• Why most people fail at their goals (and it's not what you think)
• The 7 pillars every vision board needs to include
• How to identify what fills your cup vs. what drains you
• The mindset shift that separates those who quit from those who succeed
• Why "every time I choose to stop, I disqualify myself" changed everything
• Practical strategies for accountability, financial freedom, and building real community

Whether you're building a business, strengthening your marriage, getting your health back on track, or deepening your faith—this episode gives you the roadmap to stop planning to fail and start executing with intention.

Key Topics: Goal setting, vision boards, New Year planning, personal development, financial freedom, debt payoff, mental discipline, Christian living, work-life balance, accountability, building community

Have you ever hit a season where everything just feels… stuck? You’re showing up. You’re doing “all the things.” But inside, it feels like nothing is moving?
 In this episode, Ashleigh Mayfield opens up about what it really looks like to lead yourself through a stuck season — with honesty, vision, and grace.

She shares six practical (and spiritual) things that strong leaders do when life feels heavy, including:
 1️⃣ Getting honest without getting harsh
 2️⃣ Revisiting the vision when the environment changes
 3️⃣ Simplifying your focus so you can breathe again
 4️⃣ Seeking counsel, not a crowd
 5️⃣ Taking imperfect action even when you’re scared
 6️⃣ Guarding your atmosphere so your character stays intact

This one will remind you that you’re not broken — you’re just being rebuilt. Get ready to laugh, get convicted, and feel the fire again. Because God’s not done with you yet, friend.

💡 If this episode helps you, share it with another high-achieving woman who’s ready to get unstuck.

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📝 Episode Notes / Show Notes

Six Things Strong Leaders Do When They Feel Stuck in Life
with Ashleigh Mayfield

Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro: Real talk about feeling stuck
02:45 – #1: Get honest without getting harsh
07:30 – #2: Revisit your vision
13:50 – #3: Simplify your focus
20:15 – #4: Seek counsel, not a crowd
26:00 – #5: Take imperfect action
32:40 – #6: Guard your atmosphere
38:00 – Final encouragement: God can bring dead things back to life

Connect with Ashleigh:
Instagram: @theashleighmayfield
Facebook: Ashleigh Mayfield
Website: www.ashleighmayfield.com

What if the restart isn’t the end… but the beginning of your next miracle?

In this episode, Ashleigh gets real about what it feels like to start over when you thought your fire was gone. Six days ago, she made a life-changing decision — and the results have been nothing short of wild.

She shares how God has restored her fight, how to tell if you’re a dreamer or a decision maker, and why playing it safe is actually holding you back.

This is the Monday motivation you didn’t know you needed — full of raw honesty, Holy Spirit boldness, and practical encouragement for anyone who’s standing at a fork in the road.

If you’ve ever wondered, “Do I still have what it takes?”… this episode is your answer.

🔥 You can start over.
🔥 You can rebuild.
🔥 And you can do it with joy.

Helpful Resources:
Bible Reading Plan: https://www.tearupyourbible.com/
Jason's Book: https://jasonmayfield.com/heretohear
The Bible I Use: https://amzn.to/3S1eXDe
The Bible Jason Uses: https://amzn.to/48FGoYV

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