The High-Functioning Disaster

In this third part of my conversation with Zulma Williams — The Swearing Therapist, we dive into setbacks, self-trust, and standing your ground.

Zulma opens up about how being ignored at work pushed her to start her own practice, Dragonfly Therapy Services, and how that leap turned frustration into freedom. She explains why boundaries aren’t selfish, how to stop apologizing for your needs, and what it really means to build a life that fits you.

From redefining “failure” to rejecting the scarcity mindset, this episode is a fiery reminder that your power lies in what you decide to accept — and what you finally stop doing for everyone else.

✨ Content Note: This episode includes adult language and candid discussion of topics such as abuse, depression, cancer, and suicidal thoughts. Listener discretion is advised, and please take care of yourself while listening.

If you or someone you know is struggling, you’re not alone. In the U.S., you can reach the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988 for free, confidential support 24/7.

• 🔥 What looks like failure may be the start of your freedom.
• 🧭 Boundaries protect your peace — they aren’t up for debate.
• 💬 Saying “no” is not rude; it’s responsible.
• 🌿 Self-discipline and self-trust create lasting change.
• ✨ You don’t have to apologize for designing a life that fits you.

Where to find Zulma:

• Website: https://www.dragonflytherapyservices.net/
• Follow The Swearing Therapist and Dragonfly Therapy:
• 📱Instagram: [https://www.instagram.com/theswearingtherapist]
• 📺YouTube: [https://www.youtube.com/@theswearingtherapist]
• 📱Facebook: [https://www.facebook.com/DragonflyTSLV]
• 📱LinkedIn: [https://www.linkedin.com/in/zulma-williams-ab7609214]

✨ Connect with The High-Functioning Disaster:

• 🎙 Guest inquiries: bookings [at] holderhausmedia [dot] com
• 📬 Get in touch: heythere [at] holderhausmedia [dot] com
• 🎙 More episodes & info: [https://the-high-functioning-disaster.captivate.fm/]
• 🎙 Discover more podcasts by Holder Haus Media: [https://holder-haus-media.captivate.fm/]
• 📱 Follow on IG: @thehighfunctioningdisaster [https://instagram.com/thehighfunctioningdisaster]
• 📺 Watch on YouTube: Uploads coming soon! [https://www.youtube.com/@HolderHausMedia]
• 💜 When I’m not podcasting, I’m also a Scentsy Consultant of 10+ years. If you’re into fragrance and cozy vibes, you can find my shop here: [https://sachasmells.com]

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🎧 Next Episode: In Part 4, Zulma gets raw about grief, loss, and keeping it real — from redefining what grief truly is to finding humor and healing in everyday life.

We’ll talk about love that has nowhere to go, why laughter belongs in the healing process, and how she stays authentic — four-letter words and all.

👉 Subscribe now so you don’t miss this powerful finale.

In this second part of my conversation with Zulma Williams — The Swearing Therapist — we dig into what anxiety and depression really look like in daily life, and what it takes to stop the spiral before it takes over.

Zulma breaks down simple grounding techniques, explains why therapy is an act of strength, and shares why we need to stop glorifying “doing it alone.”

We talk about becoming the CEO of your own life, the difference between managing vs. healing emotions, and why discipline—not motivation—creates real change.

Expect laughter, honesty, and plenty of four-letter words that somehow make it all feel a little lighter.

✨ Content Note: This episode includes adult language and candid discussion of topics such as abuse, depression, cancer, and suicidal thoughts. Listener discretion is advised, and please take care of yourself while listening.

If you or someone you know is struggling, you’re not alone. In the U.S., you can reach the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988 for free, confidential support 24/7.

• 🧠 Grounding breaks the anxiety spiral by anchoring the brain in the present.
• 💬 Therapy isn’t weakness — it’s a form of emotional intelligence.
• ⚖️ Healing means doing the deeper work, not just managing symptoms.
• 🙌 You are the CEO of your own life. Start acting like it.
• 💪 Discipline outlasts motivation every single time.

Where to find Zulma:

• Website: https://www.dragonflytherapyservices.net/
• Follow The Swearing Therapist and Dragonfly Therapy:
• 📱Instagram: [https://www.instagram.com/theswearingtherapist]
• 📺YouTube: [https://www.youtube.com/@theswearingtherapist]
• 📱Facebook: [https://www.facebook.com/DragonflyTSLV]
• 📱LinkedIn: [https://www.linkedin.com/in/zulma-williams-ab7609214]

✨ Connect with The High-Functioning Disaster:

• 🎙 Guest inquiries: bookings [at] holderhausmedia [dot] com
• 📬 Get in touch: heythere [at] holderhausmedia [dot] com
• 🎙 More episodes & info: [https://the-high-functioning-disaster.captivate.fm/]
• 🎙 Discover more podcasts by Holder Haus Media: [https://holder-haus-media.captivate.fm/]
• 📱 Follow on IG: @thehighfunctioningdisaster [https://instagram.com/thehighfunctioningdisaster]
• 📺 Watch on YouTube: Uploads coming soon! [https://www.youtube.com/@HolderHausMedia]
• 💜 When I’m not podcasting, I’m also a Scentsy Consultant of 10+ years. If you’re into fragrance and cozy vibes, you can find my shop here: [https://sachasmells.com]

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🎧 Next Episode: In Part 3, Zulma shares how a setback at work became the push to build her own practice — and why she refuses to apologize for living on her own terms.

We’ll also dive into how to reframe failure, set boundaries, and stop believing every thought you think.

👉 Subscribe now so you don’t miss it.

Zulma Williams — better known as The Swearing Therapist — is living proof that it’s never too late to start over. After immigrating to the U.S. from Argentina at 31, she earned her bachelor’s degree at 42, her master’s at 50, and built a thriving therapy practice that helps people face anxiety, depression, and trauma head-on.

In this candid conversation, Zulma and host Sacha Holder talk about reframing “Why me?” into “Why not me?”, surviving breast cancer, refusing to live as a victim, and why self-discipline matters more than motivation. Expect humor, heart, and a few f-bombs of truth.

✨ Content Note: This episode includes adult language and candid discussion of topics such as abuse, depression, cancer, and suicidal thoughts. Listener discretion is advised, and please take care of yourself while listening.

If you or someone you know is struggling, you’re not alone. In the U.S., you can reach the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988 for free, confidential support 24/7.

• 💪 “Why not me?” — shifting from victimhood to empowerment.
• 🧭 Discipline and determination will outlast motivation every time.
• 🩷 Healing isn’t about perfection; it’s about persistence.
• 🔥 You’ve already survived 100 % of your hardest days — you can do it again.
• 💬 Authenticity connects — swearing included.

Where to find Zulma:

• Website: https://www.dragonflytherapyservices.net/
• Follow The Swearing Therapist and Dragonfly Therapy:
• 📱Instagram: [https://www.instagram.com/theswearingtherapist]
• 📺YouTube: [https://www.youtube.com/@theswearingtherapist]
• 📱Facebook: [https://www.facebook.com/DragonflyTSLV]
• 📱LinkedIn: [https://www.linkedin.com/in/zulma-williams-ab7609214]

✨ Connect with The High-Functioning Disaster:

• 🎙 Guest inquiries: bookings [at] holderhausmedia [dot] com
• 📬 Get in touch: heythere [at] holderhausmedia [dot] com
• 🎙 More episodes & info: [https://the-high-functioning-disaster.captivate.fm/]
• 🎙 Discover more podcasts by Holder Haus Media: [https://holder-haus-media.captivate.fm/]
• 📱 Follow on IG: @thehighfunctioningdisaster [https://instagram.com/thehighfunctioningdisaster]
• 📺 Watch on YouTube: Uploads coming soon! [https://www.youtube.com/@HolderHausMedia]
• 💜 When I’m not podcasting, I’m also a Scentsy Consultant of 10+ years. If you’re into fragrance and cozy vibes, you can find my shop here: [https://sachasmells.com]

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🎧 Next Episode: In Episode 2, Zulma dives deeper into anxiety and depression in real life — what they actually look like day-to-day, how to interrupt the spiral with simple grounding techniques, and why going to therapy is an act of strength, not weakness.

👉 Subscribe now so you don’t miss it.

Unprocessed emotions don’t disappear — they take up residence in our bodies. In this final part of Sacha Holder’s conversation with Amy Vincze, we explore how trauma can create energetic blockages, physical symptoms, and emotional fatigue — and how practices like EFT tapping help release what’s been held too long.

Amy walks through the chakra system, explaining why the root chakra is the foundation for healing and how fear, guilt, and shame correspond to physical and emotional imbalances. Together, they discuss the 90-second rule for feeling emotions, the courage it takes to sit in stillness, and what balance truly looks like on the other side of trauma.

✨ Content Note: General references to trauma, emotion-based healing, and spiritual tools (no graphic content).

In this episode, Amy Vincze reveals how emotional energy becomes physical — and how tapping, breath, and awareness can restore flow. We talk about fear versus love, the wisdom of the body, and why sitting with discomfort is often the fastest route to peace. It’s about coming home to yourself — balanced, grounded, and open to healing from the inside out.

Where to find Amy:

• Website: soarwithtapping.com
• Follow Soar with Tapping:
• 📱Instagram: [https://www.instagram.com/soarwithtapping]
• 📺YouTube: [https://www.youtube.com/@soarwithtapping9898]
• 📺TikTok: [https://www.tiktok.com/@soarwithtapping]
• 📱Facebook: [https://www.facebook.com/share/191vWHGCk8]
• 📱LinkedIn: [https://www.linkedin.com/in/amy-vincze-1a86063]

✨ Connect with The High-Functioning Disaster:

• 🎙 Guest inquiries: bookings [at] holderhausmedia [dot] com
• 📬 Get in touch: heythere [at] holderhausmedia [dot] com
• 🎙 More episodes & info: [https://the-high-functioning-disaster.captivate.fm/]
• 🎙 Discover more podcasts by Holder Haus Media: [https://holder-haus-media.captivate.fm/]
• 📱 Follow on IG: @thehighfunctioningdisaster [https://instagram.com/thehighfunctioningdisaster]
• 📺 Watch on YouTube: Uploads coming soon! [https://www.youtube.com/@HolderHausMedia]
• 💜 When I’m not podcasting, I’m also a Scentsy Consultant of 10+ years. If you’re into fragrance and cozy vibes, you can find my shop here: [https://sachasmells.com]

Keywords:

EFT Tapping, trauma healing, emotional release, body-mind connection, energy healing, chakra balance, emotional regulation, somatic healing, stored emotions, nervous system healing, root chakra, holistic wellness, stress relief, emotional resilience, energy meridians, self-compassion, mindfulness, anxiety relief, trauma recovery, self-acceptance, healing journey, fear vs love, body remembers, tapping therapy, inner peace, balance and grounding, trauma-informed healing

🎧 Next Episode: Part 1 of my conversation with Zulma Williams, Swearing Therapist. I hope you find it as enjoyable and helpful as I do!

Generational trauma is real — but what does it actually look like in everyday life? In Part 2 of this conversation, Amy Vincze shares how unhealed patterns, beliefs, and emotions pass through families both energetically and biologically — and how breaking those cycles begins with awareness.

Amy explains how inherited fears can show up as money blocks, emotional sensitivities, or chronic stress, and why healing yourself can ripple backward and forward through your lineage. We also talk about self-blame, anger, and compassion — the messy middle between “It wasn’t my fault” and “It’s still my burden to heal.”

✨ Content Note: General discussion of trauma, family patterns, and emotional healing (no graphic detail).

This episode dives into the roots of generational trauma — the emotional and energetic legacies we inherit without realizing it. Amy Vincze and Sacha Holder explore how fear, shame, and outdated family beliefs can shape our choices, and how awareness and compassion can begin to rewrite those patterns. It’s a conversation about reclaiming agency, releasing blame, and choosing healing not just for ourselves, but for the generations that came before and those yet to come.

Where to find Amy:

• Website: soarwithtapping.com
• Follow Soar with Tapping:
• 📱Instagram: [https://www.instagram.com/soarwithtapping]
• 📺YouTube: [https://www.youtube.com/@soarwithtapping9898]
• 📺TikTok: [https://www.tiktok.com/@soarwithtapping]
• 📱Facebook: [https://www.facebook.com/share/191vWHGCk8]
• 📱LinkedIn: [https://www.linkedin.com/in/amy-vincze-1a86063]

✨ Connect with The High-Functioning Disaster:

• 🎙 Guest inquiries: bookings [at] holderhausmedia [dot] com
• 📬 Get in touch: heythere [at] holderhausmedia [dot] com
• 🎙 More episodes & info: [https://the-high-functioning-disaster.captivate.fm/]
• 🎙 Discover more podcasts by Holder Haus Media: [https://holder-haus-media.captivate.fm/]
• 📱 Follow on IG: @thehighfunctioningdisaster [https://instagram.com/thehighfunctioningdisaster]
• 📺 Watch on YouTube: Uploads coming soon! [https://www.youtube.com/@HolderHausMedia]
• 💜 When I’m not podcasting, I’m also a Scentsy Consultant of 10+ years. If you’re into fragrance and cozy vibes, you can find my shop here: [https://sachasmells.com]

Keywords:

generational trauma, inherited trauma, family healing, emotional healing, intergenerational patterns, breaking cycles, ancestral trauma, trauma recovery, emotional awareness, EFT Tapping, Amy Vincze, self-compassion, forgiveness, lineage healing, inner child work, reparenting, family dynamics, trauma healing podcast, nervous system regulation, epigenetics, generational patterns, emotional resilience, healing family wounds, holistic wellness, mind-body connection

🎧 Next Episode: The Body Remembers and the Power of Tapping — how emotions live in our bodies and how tapping can help release them.

What does trauma really mean — and how does it shape the way we cope?

In this first episode of a three-part conversation, Sacha Holder talks with health and wellness expert Amy Vincze, who has spent over 20 years helping people heal emotional and physical pain through EFT Tapping.

Amy explains the difference between Big T and little t trauma, why coping mechanisms like perfectionism, people-pleasing, procrastination, and addiction often begin in childhood, and what it takes to move beyond simply managing anxiety, stress, or overwhelm — to actually heal them.

You’ll also hear Amy’s simple “table-and-legs” metaphor for dismantling long-standing patterns and a compassionate reminder that our behaviors often start as our brain’s attempt to keep us safe.

✨ Content Note: General references to trauma and abuse (no graphic detail)

Where to find Amy:

• Website: soarwithtapping.com
• Follow Soar with Tapping:
• 📱Instagram: [https://www.instagram.com/soarwithtapping]
• 📺YouTube: [https://www.youtube.com/@soarwithtapping9898]
• 📺TikTok: [https://www.tiktok.com/@soarwithtapping]
• 📱Facebook: [https://www.facebook.com/share/191vWHGCk8]
• 📱LinkedIn: [https://www.linkedin.com/in/amy-vincze-1a86063]

✨ Connect with The High-Functioning Disaster:

• 🎙 Guest inquiries: bookings [at] holderhausmedia [dot] com
• 📬 Get in touch: heythere [at] holderhausmedia [dot] com
• 🎙 More episodes & info: [https://the-high-functioning-disaster.captivate.fm/]
• 🎙 Discover more podcasts by Holder Haus Media: [https://holder-haus-media.captivate.fm/]
• 📱 Follow on IG: @thehighfunctioningdisaster [https://instagram.com/thehighfunctioningdisaster]
• 📺 Watch on YouTube: Uploads coming soon! [https://www.youtube.com/@HolderHausMedia]
• 💜 When I’m not podcasting, I’m also a Scentsy Consultant of 10+ years. If you’re into fragrance and cozy vibes, you can find my shop here: [https://sachasmells.com]

This conversation with Amy Vincze peels back the layers of how trauma shapes who we become — and how we can finally begin to rewrite those patterns. From childhood fear to adult burnout, perfectionism to people-pleasing, Amy helps make sense of why our coping looks the way it does and how we can move beyond survival mode. We talk about nervous system safety, self-compassion, and the radical act of sitting with our emotions instead of shaming them. Whether you’re learning to soften your perfectionism, recover from chronic stress, or finally see your younger self through gentler eyes, this episode invites you to lean in and begin again.

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🎧 Part 2 of my conversation with Amy continues with a deep dive into generational trauma and how healing yourself can heal backward and forward through your lineage.

In the final part of my 3-part conversation with Angie Hawkins, author of Running in Slippers and creator of the Shine From the Inside program, we’re diving into the powerful connection between the mind, body, and stress—and how living outside our core values shows up in our physical and emotional health.

Angie shares her experience with autoimmune illness, the cost of chronic people-pleasing, and what it looks like to build a life rooted in integrity and self-trust. We explore reconnecting with our intuition, releasing others’ expectations, and discovering the small, daily ways to return to our authentic selves.

If you’ve ever felt burned out, disconnected, or like you’re living for everyone else, this conversation is your permission slip to breathe, pause, and come home to yourself.

If this conversation hit home, remember:

You are not broken, and you’re not alone.

If you or someone you love is struggling, you can call or text 988 in the U.S. for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.

• How stress and people-pleasing impact your body
• The hidden cost of living outside your values
• Reconnecting with intuition and self-trust
• What “living in integrity” really means
• The one thing Angie would tell her younger self
• Why you are worthy of peace and joy

Angie Hawkins is the author of Running in Slippers and a women’s coach who helps high-functioning achievers break cycles of people-pleasing, perfectionism, and self-abandonment so they can live with authenticity, boundaries, and purpose.

Where to find Angie:

• Book: Running in Slippers (ebook, print, and audiobook) https://amzn.to/4nMBikQ
• Follow Angie:
• Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/angiehawkins808/] | Bio.Site [https://bio.site/angiehawkins] | YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@angiehawkins808]

✨ Connect with The High-Functioning Disaster:

• 🎙 Guest inquiries: bookings [at] holderhausmedia [dot] com
• 📬 Get in touch: heythere [at] holderhausmedia [dot] com
• 🎙 More episodes & info: [https://the-high-functioning-disaster.captivate.fm/]
• 🎙 Discover more podcasts by Holder Haus Media: [https://holder-haus-media.captivate.fm/]
• 📱 Follow on IG: @thehighfunctioningdisaster [https://instagram.com/thehighfunctioningdisaster]
• 📺 Watch on YouTube: Uploads coming soon! [https://www.youtube.com/@HolderHausMedia]
• 💜 When I’m not podcasting, I’m also a Scentsy Consultant of 10+ years. If you’re into fragrance and cozy vibes, you can find my shop here: [https://sachasmells.com]

People-pleasing recovery, overcoming perfectionism, radical self-love, authenticity, trauma healing, vulnerability, shame resilience, suicide survival story, audiobook memoir, corporate burnout, boundaries for women, Midwest to Hawai‘i.

Mention hearing this podcast and receive a discount on the coaching program. Email Angie at [email protected] or visit her website to schedule a 1-hour appointment.

If this episode resonated, share it with a friend, and leave a rating or review. Subscribe for new conversations that normalize life’s messiness—and the many ways we grow through it.

We’ll be back on schedule with Episode 1, featuring Amy Vincze, an EFT tapping therapist who helps people release stored emotions and rewire their nervous systems for calm and clarity.

In Part 2 of my conversation with Angie Hawkins, author of Running in Slippers and creator of the Shine From the Inside program, we dive into what it means to live by your own rules, find inner confidence, and reclaim your light after years of over-functioning and people-pleasing.

Angie shares how her “Glow Method” helps women reconnect with their childhood selves, heal old survival patterns, and set boundaries that stick. We talk about why enforcing boundaries is the real challenge, how to handle guilt, and why courage isn’t the absence of fear—it’s doing the thing anyway.

We also get into anxiety management, a 90-second reset technique you can use anytime, and the surprising link between courage, adventure, and vulnerability.

If this conversation hit home, remember: you are not broken and you’re not alone.

If you or someone you love is struggling, you can call or text 988 in the U.S. for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.

• Writing your own rules for life
• Moving from external validation to inner confidence
• Boundaries as the highest form of self-respect
• “Be the diva” mindset for protecting your energy
• Turning fear into excitement
• The 90-second anxiety reset
• Courage vs. comfort
• Healing through self-loyalty and authenticity

Angie Hawkins is the author of Running in Slippers and a women’s coach who helps high-functioning achievers break cycles of people-pleasing, perfectionism, and self-abandonment so they can live with authenticity, boundaries, and purpose.

Where to find Angie:

• Book: Running in Slippers (ebook, print, and audiobook) https://amzn.to/4nMBikQ
• Follow Angie:
• Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/angiehawkins808/] | Bio.Site [https://bio.site/angiehawkins] | YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@angiehawkins808]

✨ Connect with The High-Functioning Disaster:

• 🎙 Guest inquiries: bookings [at] holderhausmedia [dot] com
• 📬 Get in touch: heythere [at] holderhausmedia [dot] com
• 🎙 More episodes & info: [https://the-high-functioning-disaster.captivate.fm/]
• 🎙 Discover more podcasts by Holder Haus Media: [https://holder-haus-media.captivate.fm/]
• 📱 Follow on IG: @thehighfunctioningdisaster [https://instagram.com/thehighfunctioningdisaster]
• 📺 Watch on YouTube: Uploads coming soon! [https://www.youtube.com/@HolderHausMedia]
• 💜 When I’m not podcasting, I’m also a Scentsy Consultant of 10+ years. If you’re into fragrance and cozy vibes, you can find my shop here: [https://sachasmells.com]

People-pleasing recovery, overcoming perfectionism, radical self-love, authenticity, trauma healing, vulnerability, shame resilience, suicide survival story, audiobook memoir, corporate burnout, boundaries for women, Midwest to Hawai‘i.

Mention hearing this podcast and receive a discount on the coaching program. Email Angie at [email protected] or visit her website to schedule a 1-hour appointment.

If this episode resonated, share it with a friend, and leave a rating or review. Subscribe for new conversations that normalize life’s messiness—and the many ways we grow through it.

The final part of my chat with Angie Hawkins drops tomorrow—we’ll close out with lessons on courage, healing, and living in alignment after burnout.

Author and coach Angie Hawkins joins The High-Functioning Disaster to talk about surviving rock bottom, dismantling lifelong people-pleasing, and choosing radical self-love—the messy, real kind. We trace Angie’s journey from a Midwest childhood with emotionally unavailable parents to life in Hawai‘i, the day she survived an intentional overdose, the friend who said “It’s not your time,” and how that moment set her on a path to write her memoir Running in Slippers and help women break free from performance and perfection.

We also get into vulnerability vs. shame, why recording her audiobook was harder than writing it, signs you might be stuck in a people-pleasing loop (hello resentment and exhaustion), letting yourself be seen on social media, and leaving corporate burnout to live in alignment.

Content note: This episode includes candid conversation about suicide and an intentional overdose (approx. 06:00–10:10). If you or someone you know is struggling, in the U.S., call or text 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.

• Growing up with emotionally unavailable parents, and the belief “I don’t deserve love.”
• The two-and-a-half-year cascade that led to Angie’s breaking point
• “It’s not your time”: the sentence that shifted everything
• Why she chose coaching when traditional therapy wasn’t working
• Writing and recording Running in Slippers—grief, shame, and unexpected healing
• People-pleasing as self-abandonment and how to spot it (resentment, exhaustion)
• Radical self-love in practice, not Instagram
• Allowing yourself to be seen: imperfect “walk-and-talk” videos, authenticity over polish
• Enneagram cameo, big-energy Eights, and solution-mode brains
• Walking away from corporate America to build a values-aligned life

Angie Hawkins is the author of Running in Slippers and a women’s coach who helps high-functioning achievers break cycles of people-pleasing, perfectionism, and self-abandonment so they can live with authenticity, boundaries, and purpose.

• Book: Running in Slippers (ebook, print, and audiobook) https://amzn.to/4nMBikQ
• Follow Angie:
• Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/angiehawkins808/] | Bio.Site [https://bio.site/angiehawkins] | YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@angiehawkins808]
• ✨ Connect with The High-Functioning Disaster:
• 🎙 Guest inquiries: bookings [at] holderhausmedia [dot] com
• 📬 Get in touch: heythere [at] holderhausmedia [dot] com
• 🎙 More episodes & info: [https://the-high-functioning-disaster.captivate.fm/]
• 🎙 Discover more podcasts by Holder Haus Media: [https://holder-haus-media.captivate.fm/]
• 📱 Follow on IG: @thehighfunctioningdisaster [https://instagram.com/thehighfunctioningdisaster]
• 📺 Watch on YouTube: Uploads coming soon! [https://www.youtube.com/@HolderHausMedia]
• 💜 When I’m not podcasting, I’m also a Scentsy Consultant of 10+ years. If you’re into fragrance and cozy vibes, you can find my shop here: [https://sachasmells.com]

People-pleasing recovery, overcoming perfectionism, radical self-love, authenticity, trauma healing, vulnerability, shame resilience, suicide survival story, audiobook memoir, corporate burnout, boundaries for women, Midwest to Hawai‘i.

Mention hearing this podcast and receive a discount on the coaching program. Email Angie at [email protected] or visit her website to schedule a 1-hour appointment.

If this episode resonated, share it with a friend, and leave a rating or review. Subscribe for new conversations that normalize life’s messiness—and the many ways we grow through it.

Summary

In the final part of my conversation with Jacintha “Jay” Field (Family & Child Counsellor, Art Therapist; founder of Happy Souls Kids), we get practical about presence over perfection, how to meet kids’ needs when your own life is messy, and how to recognize the “high-functioning but hurting” child—the one who looks fine to teachers and grandparents but unravels with their safe person at home. We also dig into resilience myths, bedtime meltdowns, and why surrender and acceptance are secret parenting skills.

In this episode:

• Presence > perfection: What “being present” actually looks like when life is chaotic, and why 20 minutes of undivided, child-led time can shift behavior.
• Needs mapping at home: A simple dinner-table practice for naming each family member’s needs (rest, activity, friends, quiet, connection).
• Yes-Day (lite): Letting kids choose within time/$ limits to restore a sense of control—especially post-separation or big transitions.
• Permission for parents: Why filling your own cup is not selfish—and how modeling self-care teaches kids to do the same.
• Resilience myth-busting: Kids don’t get resilient by “toughening up”; they get resilient by feeling and moving emotions through.
• Spotting the high-functioning-but-hurting child: The “elastic band” effect (perfect at school/grandma’s, big release with you), why that’s actually a trust compliment, and how to respond without over-fixing.
• Bedtime unraveling: Why emotions surface right before sleep and ways to hold that space (connection activity, movement, breath, nature).
• For teachers & caregivers: Signs to watch for and how to invite safe, regulated release.
• Surrender & acceptance: Reframing late starts and life detours; responding instead of reacting.
• J’s mission: Reaching 100,000 kids by 2027 so they know their feelings are normal—and have tools to navigate them.

Mentioned

• Happy Souls Kids – J's platform supporting emotional regulation through playful, evidence-informed tools.
• “Human Medicine” by Charlie Goldsmith – on processing feelings; his “My Good Habits” framework is referenced.
• Rudy Nudie play mats – washable mats that make messy play easier.
• Adolescents (Netflix series) – a triggering but eye-opening look at digital risks and parent/teen disconnection. (Viewer discretion advised.)

Content note: This episode may mention domestic violence and grief. Please listen with care.

Disclaimer:

This conversation is for information/education only and isn’t a substitute for therapy or medical advice. If you or your child needs support, please reach out to a qualified professional in your area.

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