The High Performance Life

In this week's episode, I am joined by Lauren Zander!

Lauren created the Handel Method, founded the Handel Group, and has been coaching and leading the world to Human Better for over 20 years.

Lauren is also the creator of Inner.U: Learn to Human Better®, the online coaching course that teaches the entirety of The Handel Method, a method that has been used by dozens of celebrities, CEOs, and entrepreneurs since 2004 and is endorsed by Conscious Capitalism as its learning platform of choice for its members and leaders.

Lauren is also the author of Maybe It's You (Published by Hachette Book Group, April 2017), a no-nonsense, practical manual that helps readers figure out not just what they want out of life, but how to actually get there.

Lauren has spent over 20 years coaching thousands of private clients: entrepreneurs, couples, families, professors, politicians, Emmy, Peabody and Academy Award-winning artists, Grammy-winning musicians, and Fortune 500 CEOs.

Her corporate clients have included executives from Live Nation, Ticketmaster, Sony BMG, The New York Times, News Corp, J. Walter Thompson Agency, Citibank, Dropbox, LinkedIn, Uniworld, The Gap Inc., BASF, NYU Langone Medical Center, and Vogue.

She has fixed corporate business relationships, mediated contract negotiations, reconciled marriages, and helped resolve complex family issues.

In the early 2000s, Lauren created a groundbreaking methodology, The Handel Method®, which is supported by top educators and psychologists, and has been developed and taught in over 50 major universities and institutes of learning across the country, including MIT, Stanford Graduate School of Business, Stanford Medical School, NYU, Columbia, Yale School of Drama, Wesleyan, Fordham, Rutgers, Middlebury College, Scripps Research.

Key Points

• Discover your dreams in life's 12 areas

• Unleash creativity alongside professional life

• Use music as a powerful healing tool

• Shift from knowing to actively doing

• Building relationships with authenticity

Best Quotes

02:11 - 02:23

• "I even call it like, I didn't, I, well, first of all, I wasn't an artist till much later in life about 10 or 12 years ago when my kids were, I, they didn't need me anymore that way."

03:26 - 03:36

• "That's really one of the ways I roll, right? Like the, the mystery of what our own higher self would answer if we actually asked it on a regular basis." 04:33 - 04:42

• "Yeah. And, and the reason I set it up for eight hours straight, eight, you know, seven days a week was, it would have to be something you would love to do."

40:45 - 41:01

• "I think our parents didn't have the same, don't shoot me for saying this everyone, but I think our parents had no choice but to have children at a much younger age that it was like get, you couldn't get laid unless you got pinned."

51:38 - 51:49

• "I don't coach my children though. My youngest definitely asked for coaching and, and calls me when she needs, like I get called when they need it actually, which is beautiful."

In this week's episode I am joined by Lia Valencia Key! Lia's story of homelessness to launching a jewelry brand in over 100 million homes is one of deep inspiration, perserverance, faith, and love! Lia created Valencia Key Jewelry company which was launched on QVC! Valencia Key Jewelry has also been featured in Oprah Magazine 2020 Favorite Things Issue, Mel Robbins Show, and Speak on the Stage with Brendon Burchard, Ed Mylett, and Tony Robbins! Lia reaches back to where she comes from donating and educating women in homeless shelters on the "Keys to Light" and how to rise out of rough environments! Lia is a living example that all things are possible by rooting into the power of choosing joy, believing, and radiating light! Lia's mantra is: "If I can, YOU Definitley Can"! Key Points

• Trajectory of change from homeless to leader

• Crafting positivity and energy in every communication

• Power of choice changes lives.

• Trauma can seed transformation.

• Love fuels the quest for better.

• Dreams and millimeter movements

Best Quotes 05:52 - 06:04

• "There's a divine whisper, there's a inner light, there's a destiny inside of you, and all you have to do is choose to lead your life towards your destiny." 06:47 - 06:56

• "But you have the choice to decide, do I love myself enough and do I understand the love of God enough to listen to something that is unseen?" 07:35 - 07:48

• "No matter what, like when I'm failing, when my business is in struggle, how am I gonna show up? Am I gonna show up in sorrow and negativity and anger?"

08:15 - 08:23

• "It's the power of the curiosity of wondering why we failed at something, what we could do differently, how we can learn."

11:19 - 11:24

• "We love permission. And that gave me permission to listen to my truth."

31:26 - 31:31

• "Love is not a pushover. Actually. Love stands up for the things that are Right."

I recently had a podcast where the conversation was all political... If you know me, you know that isn't my general conversation of choice. However, it did get me thinking about some things, such as:

• Being curious, not judgmental, is important in political discussions.
• Understanding different perspectives and the reasons behind them is crucial.
• There is a gap between ideology and execution.
• Hatred and extreme opinions hinder progress and unity.
• Building each other up and finding common ground is essential for moving forward

Here are my thoughts!

In this week's episode, I am joined by Victoria Trammel! Victoria Trammel is a seasoned facilitator and leadership consultant who brings almost two decades of experience supporting the Intelligence Community to her work with Arbinger Institute, a world leader in mindset change.

Through training, consulting, coaching, and implementation programs, Arbinger enables individuals, teams, and organizations to change from the default self-focus of an inward mindset to the impact-focus of an outward mindset.

Victoria began her career in joint counterterrorism operations, igniting a love of instructional design and facilitation while supporting partners around the globe. She has indispensable hands on, real-world experience of creating organizational culture change through the Outward mindset.

She now thrilled to be sharing word about the new and revised 4th Edition of Arbinger's book Leadership and Self Deception: The Secret to Transforming Relationships and Unleashing Results. Victoria has a beautiful, blended family of 6 that enjoys planning vacations around experiencing different cultures through the power of food.

Key Points

• Self-deception's effect on marriages

• Curiosity: A High-Performer's Superpower

• Impact of little efforts on loved ones

• Self-deception can blind us

• Get curious to understand others' perspectives.

• Leadership evolves with empathy

Best Quotes

09:51 - 09:58

• "Well, and I think that curiosity is key, right? Because it's very easy for me as a leader to get up here and pontificate, right? I'm communicating."

11:19 - 11:23

• "It's, it's often when the other person paints you as something you're not."

14:34 - 14:39

• "And I think that's what, like, it's a great way to almost practice, right? Because it is a skill."

41:41 - 41:51

• "I think a lot of what we talk about at home is, is our kids, you know, we, we don't talk about necessarily inward versus outward, but we talk about understanding your impact on others, right?"

In this weeks episode, I am joined by Jason Drees!

Jason Drees is an entrepreneur, alignment coach, author, husband, and father of four boys based in Austin, Texas.

With more than 10,000 hours of coaching sessions delivered in his career, Jason catapults those he works with into success by disrupting old narratives and normalcy to partner with his clients to conquer limiting beliefs, remove resistance, upgrade their stories, and unlock unprecedented results.

He developed a proven 5-step framework to empower his clients to do the impossible in their lives. His creation of alignment coaching teaches others how to align with success at the level of their full potential rather than endlessly chasing results at the level of their problems.

He has mastered the process of helping clients into alignment to push high-performers - like Brandon Turner - to their limits and past their comfort zones to see accelerated growth, impact, and influence in everything they do.

No other coach can help clients annihilate "average" at its deepest level, and act as a catalyst of transformation to help them live and execute at their full potential like Jason Drees.

Key Points

• Change your mindset, change your reality

• From managing to mastering high performance

• Evolving beyond transactions to relationships

• Understanding the concept of alignment

• Transformative power of stillness and alignment

Best Quotes

05:17 - 05:23

• "So what I, that, that was actually the beginning of understanding what alignment is because prior to that, I thought you grind your way to success." 05:55 - 06:00 • "And then what actually happened in 2020 is I discovered there's a level above mindset called frame."

06:01 - 06:08

• "And by understanding that mindset, I started coaching at the, at the frame level versus the mindset level. And it started to shift anything."

06:10 - 06:14

• "Success doesn't come from hard work. Success comes from alignment with success."

22:51 - 22:58

• "The framework itself is five steps. The first one is what is alignment? And once you understand that process of alignment, we apply it in four different places."

A recent conversation I had got me thinking about energy, or in other words, the way you show up to the rest of the world. Energy is a crucial part of my life and one of the key pillars of The High Performance LIFE! So I thought it would be valuable to share this message with you!

In this week's episode, I am joined by Kelly Siegel!

Kelly Siegel is the CEO of National Technology Management (NTM). He has an educational background in criminal justice and sociology from Western Michigan University.

Kelly has been delivering results since running his first paper route as a twelve-year-old. Besides his goal to make NTM the gold standard of the IT industry, his mission in life is to leave a legacy, or in Kelly's words, "make a dent."

His relentless drive to better himself is breaking his family's cycle of abuse, addiction, and poverty. Kelly takes personal progress to the next level by continuously improving his physical, emotional, and mental health and performance by working out daily, reading voraciously, and practicing mindfulness.

You'll find him feeding people at spontaneous cookouts in his backyard, volunteering his time for causes close to his heart, and mentoring the next generation of leaders. Key Points

• Transforming childhood trauma into strength

• Achieving high performance through EQ

• Surrender is key to life's cheat code.

• Principles of surrender and gratitude in life

• Approaching politics with curiosity, not judgment

Best Quotes 03:17 - 03:27

• "It was probably on one of my podcasts when I had to do the final edits when they sent me the final manuscript and I cried like a baby."

04:17 - 04:25

• "And then after I, they said, and they were right. So we, right now, I think this morning we're number 12 in the country at self-improvement for harder than life."

06:07 - 06:18

• "I lived in the gap for most of my life. And the challenge is when you live in the gap is when you actually attain something you were working for, it's empty and you don't understand why."

07:51 - 08:10

• "Was that where you decided, was that the event where you decided to surrender because that's really what you're, what the moment you realize that you're not in control of this and you can surrender to whatever you call it, you're a Christian or Catholic, so you, it's God, it could be energy, it could be source, it could be anything"

12:26 - 12:32

• "So I would tell you that yes, you gotta fricking do the work, but you also have to detach from the outcome."

12:51 - 12:56

• "Marry the process, divorce the outcome, that's it. Get better every day and keep freaking grinding."

34:33 - 34:41

• "As I said, man, my positivity has got more infinite than your negativity or pessimism ever will."

01:00:03 - 01:00:08

• "Love everybody and tell the truth. And if we all did that, this would be a better place."

In this week's episode, I am joined by Christina Rasmussen!

In 2010, four years after her thirty-five-year-old spouse passed away from Stage 4 colon cancer, she created the Life Reentry process, which launched her on a mission to bring compassion, grace and validation to thousands, while simultaneously establishing an exit from what she termed the "Waiting Room".

Christina holds a master's degree in guidance and counseling (University of Durham). She is currently finishing her master of fine arts degree in painting and drawing (Academy of Art). Her grief work has been featured on ABC News, The Guardian, Women's World, the Washington Post, and the White House Blog.

In her latest book, Christina advocates for what she calls "invisible losses". Those moments of feeling misunderstood by your partner, left out of a friend group, or sad over a lackluster performance review, arguing that these moments are worthy of both emotion and recognition.

In her spare time, she is learning to play the piano and planning her first trip to the edge of space. She works and lives in Austin, Texas, with her husband, Eric, and their two dogs. Key Points

• Transform tragedy into life's purpose

• Embracing the journey, not just the goal

• Shifting perception of self after loss

• Discover "invisible loss" and personal impact

• Defining life's path amidst imperfection

• Choosing joy amidst everyday grief

Best Quotes

04:51 - 05:00

• "We live in a world where we are doing things for a purpose, for a reason, for a mission for someone else, for people pleasing, for all those things."

06:19 - 06:35

• "I think the, I think the closer we get to who we really are. So the beauty of getting older is, is wisdom. And the closer we get to who we really are, sometimes when we find ourselves going through the motions, we're, it's, it's much easier to identify it quicker."

10:10 - 10:27

• "We start out in this life, Scott, and people experience this mom, I call the moments of impact happen to us. And we abandon that original, that true self, that authenticity of ourselves to please the world that lives outside of us."

11:15 - 11:22

• "It's millions of people. And most of us die there. And we don't even know. We were not living our life. We, were not living the life. We're here to live."

16:46 - 16:56

• "It was an invisible experience that we couldn't even know for ourselves. So it wasn't just invisible to others that we were experiencing this, this sadness, this anxiety."

23:37 - 23:45

• "It's about not living your life numb. It's about truly awakening and opening up yourself, yourself."

27:16 - 27:25

• "Because in the beginning it is important to go out, metaphorically speaking, and stay out as long as we can come back, rest, go back out again."

As a multi-time successful entrepreneur and a retired Officer in the Australian military, Finnian Kelly has gone on to coach the CEOs and leadership teams of more than 150 companies.

He has been dubbed "the Business Mystic'' because of his unique ability to awaken consciousness in business and inspire CEOs and leadership teams to find new levels of fulfillment and growth in their creative endeavors, relationships, and overall well-being.

As the founder of Intentionality, Inc., and leading breathwork facilitator around the world, Finnian gives you the transformative tools and frameworks to have an expansive human experience.

Finnian is also a partner and the CXO (Chief Experience Officer) of Cascada, a revolutionary sanctuary featuring hydrothermal pools, wellness classes and boutique hotel rooms located in Portland, Oregon.

Finnian is also the author of INTENTIONALITY in which Finnian shares the lessons learned from creating and selling multimillion-dollar companies and overcoming upheaval in his own life. You will learn about his step-by-step process for manifesting Intentionality into success.

Through combining both scientific and spiritual principles, Finnian leads you through the five key intentions, including actionable steps and targeted breathing exercises you can incorporate into your everyday life. Key Points

• Leverage energy for decision-making

• Importance of grounding breathwork

• Parenthood as growth & learning

• Acknowledge feelings for transformation

• Harness breath to control emotional states

• Prepare for change with intentionality Best Quotes 04:07 - 04:16

• "We will be living a life of intentionality. We will be living a life of full of passion and purpose without really focusing on what we are doing."

10:36 - 10:42

• "We don't need more time, we need to get better at decision making. And how we get better at decision making is we focus on leveraging energy over time."

13:53 - 14:08

• "Everything is a story in our life. We, we, we create our own reality. So people would be like, oh, what can the knee Are you, is that guy just crazy right now? But who is better for that interpretation? I'm a lot better for that interpretation and so is everyone else in my life."

14:18 - 14:26

• "It's about getting better at feeling. And when we do that, we end up creating a greater state of peace, love, and joy."

44:50 - 45:07

• "When we take a breath, we become super present and we drop in in that moment. And what happens is, for this split, like one 10000th of a second, we have this moment to observe what is the automatic behavior."

In this week's episode, I am joined by Jed Collins!

Jed is a 7-Year NFL Veteran, A former NFL player who has overcome the challenges of being cut 12 times along with the challenges of being financially illiterate.

He Founded Rookie to Veteran, pulling from the mindset he developed during his NFL career. This mindset program allows people to embrace failure and embody success.

He then became a Certified Financial Planner. Earning this has made Jed an expert in the world of money and an ideal facilitator for money conversations.

He is also a sought-after speaker and best-selling author of Your Money Vehicle. The book aims to translate the language of money and shares Jed's own techniques for how to start a plan.

Jed is also the Founder of Money Vehicle, an EdTech company currently delivering financial literacy curriculum to high schools across the country. Key Points

• Discipline is key to daily success

• Writing down goals transforms dreams

• 'Decades not days' mindset for growth

• FAIL stands for 'First Attempt In Learning

• Mindset shift: from challenge to focus

Best Quotes

03:32 - 03:44

• "But I looked back at my journal in 2008 as a rookie in the NFLI had just come out of a financial workshop. I had just been humbled in how little I knew about this language of money."

04:44 - 04:58

• "So I look 15 years later and I say, that dream has come to fruition. Why is because I wrote it down and that begins to speak it into, but then I went to work and I went, and you, you manifest. You go create your future."

10:28 - 10:50

• "So I love the idea of having that singular focus. I believe I'm somebody who inherently goes after something with all my heart and obsession, but I do have those life checks. I do have those moments where I pull up and I say, yeah, maybe I should check in on my finance. Maybe I should check in on my family or my faith looking at how I can build a strategy."

46:17 - 46:24

• "There's one thing every high school graduate has in common. They're all gonna get a paycheck, so let's start preparing them for it."