The Idea of Manhood

Welcome back!

Thanks so much for tuning into the season 3 premier of The Idea of Manhood Podcast. This episode serves as a (re)introduction to what it is that we're doing here. We're being honest. We're being vulnerable. We're using our power and privilege as men to make those around us better. But what do you do, when you're not seen; not heard; and feel like what you're doing doesn't matter?

Tune in! Every week!

Invictus, by Sir William Earnest Henley

Out of the night that covers me,       Black as the pit from pole to pole, I thank whatever gods may be       For my unconquerable soul.   In the fell clutch of circumstance       I have not winced nor cried aloud. Under the bludgeonings of chance       My head is bloody, but unbowed.   Beyond this place of wrath and tears       Looms but the Horror of the shade, And yet the menace of the years       Finds and shall find me unafraid.   It matters not how strait the gate,       How charged with punishments the scroll, I am the master of my fate,       I am the captain of my soul.

 

In this episode, I discuss the article "You Should've Asked," that discusses the "mental load" that women bare when it comes to being managers of the household.

Check out the article here -

There are some jewels in this one for new or seasoned marriages and relationship ...if I do say so myself!

How to be and avoid the elephant in the (bed)room...at the same damn time!

In this episode, I discuss a series of revelations I've had recently. It may sound simple; but it's really not...

Fellas...we have work to do.

 

I've been chewing on this one for a few weeks. Pastor Battle (shout out to Zion Church) led a sermon where he talked about the keys to successful relationships. One of his keys; and I'm paraphrasing; was that feelings are more important than facts.

It's taken me 3 weeks to process and digest that.

What do you think?

I've talked about fear in the podcast before. 

It's an important topic to discuss, especially when it comes to the fears that we consciously or subconsciously pass to our children.

In this episode I talk about my recent trip as a chaperone to my son's overnight 5th grade trip to Harbargain Farms in Accokeek, Maryland. 

I also discuss the time I was invited to chaperone a trip to Tanzania.

Spoiler alert - I've never been to Tanzania.

Here's why.

Fear.

This episode is a continuation from last week's "Well Dressed Mediocrity, at Work."

I discuss the importance of recognizing your value; both at work, and at home.

Many of us don't take the time to acknowledge our value...

I'll just leave it there. 

Enjoy!

What's good familia!

I ran across activist's DeRay's twitter page, and was confronted with this message:

"I came across someone today who is well-packaged mediocrity. It's stunning how far that combo can get folks..."

It stuck with me. I then became slowly bewildered at how many examples of well packed mediocrity is thriving right now...at my place of employment.

Contrast that with not feeling valued in my job...and what do you get?

THIS!

Thanks for tuning in!

What's good fam!

This episode is strictly for the fellas...kind-of.

This episode is to acknowledge the regular dudes; the guys that do what they have to do for the betterment of those around them...and to provide a little validation for the decisions that many of us make.

Let's face it...in the current narrative in our country and within our culture, it's a challenge for men to carve out a space to acknowledge the realities that many of face. It's similar to white people screaming about all lives mattering. 

This podcast is a space to acknowledge and validate...a virtual fist bump, if you will...to the dudes out there making things happen without the fanfare of celebration. 

This episode just offers a little validation to the guys making this happen out there. 

That validation, is indeed, everything!

Thanks for listening!

It's pretty self explanatory...

Collectively, we all went nuts when we saw the preview of the Netflix movie Burning Sands; a one of a kind movie that highlights the negativity of underground hazing. (what does that even mean).

Members of fraternities and sororities were talking and whispering about it. Some refused to see it; others rushed to their shared Netflix accounts. 

No one loved the movie. Some people thought it was necessary...others turned their nose up at the extent to which the movie portrayed our beloved organizations.

Chew on this for a while...sit back, and relax.

Thanks again to my LB, Sekenia for hopping on the jack with me this week!

More Life! (had to throw that in...)