The Imperfect Pod

What's it like to be a single father? How did you parent 5 children, 4 being daughters? What stigmas did you have to overcome or challenge? What were those tough conversations like with your daughters as they were coming to age?

This week’s guest is Dwight Heck, founder of Give a Heck Financial and a single Dad of five children, 4 being daughters. In this episode, we discuss what it’s like to be a single father, the stigma behind it, the importance of empathy and listening, how to have important conversations with your daughters as a single father and if he faced pressure to be a better man as a single father.

Make sure to connect with Dwight on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/give.a.heck/ (give.a.heck), on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/dwight.heck/ (Dwight R. Heck) or check out his website http://giveaheck.com (giveaheck.com)

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Welcome back to Just the TIP is where I do a short reflection on this past week's episode! On this episode, I give my reflections on the importance of talking about the fatherless epidemic or fatherless generation as some people like to call it, where I heard about it from and more.

If you're looking for episodes where I talk about fatherhood in specific, check out my episodes with Josh Loong, Clay Smeltzer, Ben Killoy, Alan Stein Jr, Cameron Gordon, Pablo Milandu, Rene Klein-Horseman, and more! It's a very common topic on this podcast.

As always, reach out to me on Instagram @theimperfectpod, email me at [email protected] or join my FB group called https://www.facebook.com/groups/229891395146974 (The Imperfect Group).

Why are so many homes growing up without fathers? Why is there a major correlation between fatherless men and the prison system? How can you break the negative cycle if you're a victim of a fatherless home? These are some of the topics I cover on today's episode with Leonardo Lightbourne AKA Leo Bourne. We also talk about the power of consistency, love and journaling.

About Leo: L.T. “Leo” Bourne discovered in his early 20s his gift of inspiration and leadership. He founded Open Thought, a non-profit organization created for youth development in the Turks and Caicos Islands, to give the youth a voice and an outlet to express themselves. L.T. believed creating Open Thought would inspire youth to overcome any circumstances they are facing by creating a platform that displays like-minded individuals who have risen above similar circumstance. It is a vision he carries in his heart to this very day as he is still building the outlet. Apart from his work with Open Thought, L.T. is a writer, filmmaker, speaker, and philanthropist. He is passionate about problem-solving, collaboration and engaging young people in fighting the common threats of their environment such as violence, poverty, and abuse. L.T. shares his vision of a united community that uses love, open-thinking, and commitment to make a difference. Weaving a tapestry of his lifetime of experience, L.T. plans to inspire youth with his personal story and lessons learned about personal development, leadership, and the power of using open-thinking to live a more fulfilling life. You cay buy his https://www.ltbourne.com/books (book), check out his https://www.ltbourne.com/ (website), or connect with him on https://www.instagram.com/iamltbourne/ (Instagram), https://twitter.com/iamltbourne/ (Twitter) and https://www.facebook.com/IAmLTBourne/ (FB).

If you liked the episode, make sure to press subscribe, follow, leave a review and message me on Instagram @theimperfectpod or email me at [email protected] and join my https://www.facebook.com/groups/229891395146974 (Facebook group). I always always want to hear from my listeners and continue the conversation!

Just the TIP is where I do a short reflection on this past week's episode!

As always, reach out to me on Instagram @theimperfectpod, email me at [email protected] or join my FB group called https://www.facebook.com/groups/229891395146974 (The Imperfect Group).

This week’s guest is Tom Smoot and we talk about what it’s like to come home from the army with PTSD, the effects it can have on those around him, how he copes with PTSD, the power of exposure therapy.

About Tom: After more than a decade in the Army's special operations community, under Civil Affairs and Psychological Operations, Tom moved on with a PTSD diagnosis. Now, as an engineer and entrepreneur, he uses that military background to craft stories and insight into his work. When he's not running marathons or building things, Tom can usually be found spending his time at the The Lift and Shift Foundation which he founded and advocates for veteran inclusion in science and technology through programs that educate and build confidence or as he likes to say, reduces a veterans' barriers to entry. You can connect with Tom and follow his foundation at https://www.weliftandshift.org/ (Lift and Shift Foundation). You can also follow the great work they're doing on https://www.instagram.com/liftandshiftfoundation/ (Instagram), https://twitter.com/weliftandshift (Twitter), and https://medium.com/lift-and-shift (Medium).

If you liked the episode, make sure to press subscribe, follow, leave a review and message me on Instagram @theimperfectpod or email me at [email protected] and join my https://www.facebook.com/groups/229891395146974 (Facebook group). I always always want to hear from my listeners and continue the conversation!

On this episode of Just the TIP I discuss the riots at Capitol Hill and Trump for a bit and how ludicrous it is that so many men look up to him.

I then reflect on this week's episode about trauma and my personal experiences (or lack thereof) with it. I then discuss the topic of the fatherless nation and my experiences with dating/love addiction and why I'm taking a year off of dating apps.

As always, reach out to me on Instagram @theimperfectpod, email me at [email protected] or join my FB group called https://www.facebook.com/groups/229891395146974 (The Imperfect Group).

On this episode, my guest is Riana Milne and we talk about The 10 common traumas and why they matter, how men and women are affected by these traumas and how the show themselves in daily interactions! Riana’s Mission is to “Help Change the Way the World Loves” by Healing Unconscious Childhood and Love Trauma that impacts so many adults; and with research-based educational strategies – Helping them to Create the Life they Desire and to Have the Love Relationships they Deserve.

You can connect with Riana on her https://rianamilne.com/ (website), on her IG @https://www.instagram.com/coachrianamilne/ (coachrianamilne), Facebook @https://www.facebook.com/CoachRianaMilne (coachrianamilne). I've also linked https://rianamilne.com/books/ (her books) and how you can get some of her resources for free!

Lastly, I’ve started a FB group called https://www.facebook.com/groups/229891395146974 (The Imperfect Group) where we will continue all of these conversations about masculinity in a community dedicated to these topics. I have a few past guests as part of the group so you can get direct access to some of the most interesting people I’ve spoken to on this journey!

If you enjoyed the episode, make sure to press subscribe, follow, leave a review and message me on Instagram @theimperfectpod or email me at [email protected]! I always always want to hear from my listeners and continue the conversation!

This is the last episode of 2020 where I talk about how 2020 went, 2021 goals, what books stood out to me the most and do a little bit of an AMA.

As a reminder, I’ve recently started a FB group called https://www.facebook.com/groups/229891395146974 (The Imperfect Group) where we will continue all of these conversations about masculinity in a community dedicated to these topics. I have a few past guests as part of the group so you can get direct access to some of the most interesting people I’ve spoken to on this journey!

Newsletter and more Just the TIPs coming in the future too!

Gender roles in a same-sex marriage don't make sense, so how do break down chores? Does the idea of gender roles still exists? These are questions that we explore on today's episode. We discuss Mike's journey to discovering himself and how gender roles have affected his same-sex marriage, wedding and more!

About Mike:

Mike Iamele is a writer, life purpose expert, and brand strategist. With his proprietary Sacred Branding® system, he’s helped hundreds of people to connect the dots between their lived experiences to find the common threads that explain their subconscious motivations, unique genius, and life purpose. People use this work to explore identity and sexuality, to finding their artistic voice, to even re-discovering themselves after a life-altering event, like divorce or retirement. Mike’s also the author of https://www.amazon.ca/Enough-Already-Create-Success-Terms/dp/1573246476 (Enough Already: Create Success on Your Own Terms). You can connect with him on his website, https://mikeiamele.com/ (mikeiamele.com), and access that worksheet he mentioned https://mikeiamele.com/map/ (here). You can also connect with Instagram @https://www.instagram.com/mikeiamele/?hl=en (mikeiamele).

Lastly, I’ve started a FB group called https://www.facebook.com/groups/229891395146974 (The Imperfect Group) where we will continue all of these conversations about masculinity in a community dedicated to these topics. I have a few past guests as part of the group so you can get direct access to some of the most interesting people I’ve spoken to on this journey!

On this episode my guest is Author and Crossdresser, Savannah Hauk. We discuss the difference between drag and crossdressing, how gender and sexuality plays into the conversation and presentation, how people view her in public and much much more. Savannah Hauk is a lifelong dual-gender biological male who uses the art of male-to-female crossdressing to create her feminine identity and presentation. She is the author of two books including her “https://www.amazon.ca/Living-Crossdressing-Defining-New-Normal-ebook/dp/B078K3GCJL/ref=sr_1_1?crid=B9ZCL1QRPAO8anddchild=1andkeywords=living+with+crossdressingandqid=1607467172andsprefix=living+with+crossdres%2Caps%2C151andsr=8-1 (Living with Crossdressing)” series. She is also a social media advocate, and co-host of “https://open.spotify.com/show/2WvvCbG591EiWveqFRB98C?si=TLRihUONR_GjBdY5P3mbuw (The Fox and the Phoenix Podcast)” a resource on crossdressing.

*Giveaway*: I have 3 copies of Savannah's book Living with Crossdressing. To enter the giveaway there are a few options:

Message me on Instagram @theimperfectpod asking to be entered into the giveaway

Email me at [email protected] asking to be entered into the giveaway

Share a screenshot of the episode on Instagram and tag me @theimperfectpod

I've recently started a Facebook group for my podcast to continue the discussion and build a community of people interested in talking about masculinity and manhood. You can find out more and request to join the group on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/groups/229891395146974 (The Imperfect Group). I would love to have you join!

If you would like to connect with Savannah, you can follow her on https://www.facebook.com/livingwithcrossdressing (Facebook) or her https://livingwithcrossdressing.com/ (website).