What if boundaries weren’t about pushing people away, but about coming closer to yourself?

In this deeply supportive episode, we move beyond people-pleasing and explore how to set and hold boundaries that honor your healing. We’ll look at why boundaries can feel so challenging, the nervous system roots behind self-abandonment, and how boundaries can become an embodied practice of self-trust rather than guilt.

Together, we’ll explore different types of boundaries — physical, mental, emotional, energetic, and time & energy — and how each one supports your sense of safety, authenticity, and connection. You’ll learn gentle scripts, practical tips, and somatic practices to help you move from survival patterns into grounded presence.

Whether you’ve always struggled to say no, feel responsible for others’ emotions, or lose yourself trying to keep the peace, this episode is an invitation to come home to your truth, one boundary at a time.

✨ In this episode, we explore:

Why boundaries are essential for nervous system regulation

The connection between people-pleasing and attachment patterns

Scripts and practices for each type of boundary

How to move out of fawn, freeze, or hypervigilance states

Mini somatic practice to reclaim your inner space

You don’t have to get it perfect. You just have to begin.

Take a deep breath, settle in, and join us on this journey of honoring your needs with compassion and clarity

🎙 Episode #8 | Breaking the People-Pleasing Pattern: Reclaiming Boundaries, Safety & Self-Trust

People-pleasing isn’t about being “too nice”—it’s often a nervous system response rooted in early survival. In this episode of The Integrative Therapist, we explore how chronic self-abandonment begins, why it’s so hard to say no, and how to gently reconnect with your truth.

🌿 Inside this episode:

→ The trauma-informed roots of people-pleasing (aka the fawn response)

→ The toll of boundary-blurring on your body, mind, and emotions

→ Somatic & reflective tools to build self-trust and nervous system safety

→ Scripts, practices, and rituals to help you set boundaries with care—not guilt

✨ You don’t have to earn love by overgiving.

✨ You don’t have to perform to be accepted.

✨ You are allowed to take up space—and still be deeply loved.

This episode is a breath of permission to come back to yourself.

🎧 Listen now wherever you get your podcasts or visit www.theintegrativetherapist.ca

#TheIntegrativeTherapist #PeoplePleasingRecovery #BoundariesAreSelfCare #SomaticHealing #InnerChildHealing #HolisticMentalHealth #SelfTrust

🎙 Episode 7 | From Performance to Presence: The Journey Back to Your Authentic Self

In this soulful and reflective episode, we explore what it means to stop performing and start remembering who we truly are beneath the roles, the pressure, and the perfectionism.

Have you ever felt like you’re constantly “on”? Like you’re performing calm, confidence, or competence just to feel safe, accepted, or worthy?

This week, we gently unpack the internalized stories that tell us we have to earn our worth by being productive, agreeable, or successful — and offer a path back to presence, embodiment, and self-trust.

🌿 In this episode, we explore:

→ The pressure to perform in a world that glorifies perfection

→ Internalized roles, schemas, and attachment patterns that shape how we show up

→ The impact of people-pleasing, over-functioning, and emotional suppression

→ The shift from self-protection to self-remembrance

→ Somatic and reflective tools to help you reconnect with your body, breath, and truth

You’ll also be guided through a gentle 2-minute holistic check-in and four powerful somatic practices to support your nervous system, regulate emotional overwhelm, and return to your authentic self.

✨ Plus: A reflective journaling prompt, “The Voice Beneath the Role,” to help you listen to the parts of you that have been working hard to be loved, safe, and enough.

This episode is an invitation to soften the “shoulds,” shed the roles you never chose, and reclaim the deeper truth of who you are — not by striving, but by remembering.

You are already enough.

Even when you’re messy.

Even when you’re uncertain.

Even when you’re still becoming.

💛 Tune in, breathe deep, and take one small step back home to yourself.

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🎧 Listen now at www.theintegrativecounsellor.com or wherever you get your podcasts.

#TheIntegrativeCounsellor #HolisticHealing #SomaticTherapy #SelfWorth #Authenticity #NervousSystemSupport #SchemaHealing #PerformanceToPresence #AttachmentHealing #MindBodyConnection

Uncertainty isn’t the enemy, it’s the body’s way of protecting us in unfamiliar territory. In a world that feels increasingly unstable, from global events to personal transitions, learning how to stay grounded has become essential.

In this episode, we explore the emotional, mental, and physical impacts of uncertainty and offer supportive practices to help you anchor into trust, even when clarity is out of reach.

You’ll learn:

• Why your brain interprets the unknown as unsafe (hello, amygdala!)

• How uncertainty shows up in your thoughts, emotions, and body

• Grounding and self-soothing rituals to regulate your nervous system

• Mindful ways to meet worry, overwhelm, and inner doubt with compassion

• How to root into self-trust, even without all the answers

This episode is your invitation to pause, reconnect, and remember:

You don’t need perfect clarity to move forward.

You just need the courage to stay with yourself, one breath at a time.

🌟 Next week’s episode:

"Becoming Who You Are, Not Who You Think You Should Be"

A soulful dive into self-worth, identity, and the inner work of reclaiming your enough-ness in a world that tells you to earn it.

🌿 For additional support, visit: www.theintegrativecounsellor.com

🎙 Episode 5 — Emotional Barriers & Self-Sabotage: How to Build Long-Term Momentum

Welcome back to The Integrative Counsellor: Integrating Mind, Body, and Beyond. In today’s episode, we explore one of the most important pieces of the growth journey: emotional barriers and self-sabotage.

Even with the best plans and intentions, many of us find ourselves stuck in old patterns of procrastination, perfectionism, avoidance, and self-doubt. It’s not because we’re broken or lazy; it’s because deep down, parts of us are still trying to protect us.

This episode invites you to uncover what’s happening beneath the resistance gently. Together, we’ll explore:

🌿 Why self-sabotage isn’t failure — it’s self-protection in disguise

🌿 The common emotional barriers that show up when we’re close to change

🌿 How your nervous system reacts to growth and why it sometimes pumps the brakes

🌿 How to meet fear, doubt, and hesitation with compassion instead of criticism

You’ll also learn 5 soul-honouring steps to start shifting these patterns, from naming and validating your emotions, to creating inner safety and reconnecting with your deeper "why." Plus, we’ll walk through a calming guided visualization to help you release old protective patterns and step forward with more clarity and care.

If you’ve ever found yourself circling the same loop, starting strong, then stalling out, this episode offers a new way forward, a way rooted not in pushing harder but in partnering with yourself through gentleness, awareness, and trust.

🌙 Healing isn’t about conquering fear. It’s about befriending it.

✨ You don’t have to be perfect to build momentum, you just have to begin again, with love leading the way.

Tune in and take your next small, powerful step toward a life aligned with who you’re becoming.

🎙 Episode 4 – Resolutions That Get Results: Accountability, Focus & Flexibility

Welcome back to The Integrative Counsellor, where we blend psychology, science, and holistic wisdom to support you in building a life that feels aligned, intentional, and sustainable. In today’s episode, we’re diving into the heart of what makes resolutions actually work—and spoiler alert: it’s not just willpower.

This episode explores the real strategies behind long-term success:

Accountability. Focus. Flexibility.

Whether you're feeling stuck, juggling too many goals at once, or struggling to stay consistent, this conversation will help you shift your approach to one that honors your capacity, values your energy, and works with you—not against you.

We’ll explore:

-Why going it alone makes goal achievement harder—and how to build in meaningful support

-How too many goals lead to burnout and how to simplify with focus

-Why flexibility is the secret ingredient for long-term consistency

You’ll also learn:

-The psychology behind accountability—and how social connection can increase follow-through by up to 95%

-Common traps like decision fatigue, cognitive overload, and emotional burnout that sabotage progress

-Simple, powerful strategies to stay engaged without the pressure of perfection

This episode offers a refreshing reminder: You don’t need to hustle harder! You need a system that feels aligned, spacious, and adaptable. You’ll walk away with clear tools and gentle mindset shifts to help you stay committed without burning out.

💡 Episode challenge: Choose ONE accountability strategy this week, whether it’s finding a partner, joining a group, or setting a weekly check-in, and notice how it changes your motivation.

Remember, your goals aren’t meant to be rigid. They’re meant to evolve with you. The key isn’t perfection; it’s progress rooted in presence, purpose, and self-trust.

Take a breath, settle in, and let’s create resolutions that actually support your growth.

Welcome to The Integrative Counsellor, where we explore the art and science of holistic wellness. In today’s episode, Aligning with Your True Path: Breaking Free from External Expectations, we dive deep into the power of intentional goal-setting and uncover why so many of us feel stuck chasing goals that don’t truly fulfill us.

Have you ever pursued a goal because you felt like you should—whether from societal pressure, family expectations, or social media influence? If so, you’re not alone. But what if the key to lasting motivation isn’t willpower but alignment?

In today's episode, we chat about:

✔ External vs. Internal Motivation – Why goals fueled by pressure feel like obligations, while those aligned with your values create lasting fulfillment.

✔ The Science of Self-Determination Theory – How autonomy, competence, and relatedness influence motivation and long-term success.

✔ The Power of Small Wins & Dopamine – How tracking progress boosts motivation and keeps you engaged.

✔ Aligning Goals with Core Values – A reflection exercise to ensure your goals fuel your purpose rather than drain your energy.

✔ Guided Visualization Exercise – Step into your future self and connect with your deeper "why" to build sustainable motivation.

This episode invites you to pause and reassess through personal storytelling, research-backed insights, and practical strategies:

Are you chasing goals that truly light you up? Or are you following a path dictated by external expectations?

If you’ve been feeling stuck, uninspired, or disconnected from your goals, this episode will help you realign with what genuinely matters so that motivation becomes effortless and success feels deeply fulfilling.

Tune in now and start creating goals that reflect who you truly are. 🎧💛

Welcome to the very first episode of The Integrative Counsellor! I’m Julie, your host, an integrative counsellor passionate about helping you cultivate a life that feels aligned, intentional, and fulfilling.

As we step into the new year, many of us set resolutions with excitement, only to see them fizzle out within weeks. But what if we approached goal-setting differently? In this episode, we dive into how to move from wishful thinking to intentional action. We explore why most resolutions fail and, more importantly, how to set goals that feel good to work toward—goals that are sustainable, meaningful, and aligned with who you truly are.

Join me as we break down the psychology of goal-setting, introduce evidence-based strategies like SMART goals, implementation intentions, and habit stacking, and discuss ways to create lasting change without relying solely on motivation. You'll walk away with practical tools to help you shift your mindset and build habits that stick.

Plus, I’ve put together some free resources to support your journey—worksheets, visualizations, and more! You can find them linked in the podcast bio.

If this episode resonates with you, I’d love for you to share it, leave a review, and stay tuned for next week’s episode, where we explore external pressures versus internal motivation.

Take care, stay intentional, and I’ll see you in the next episode!