In this episode I discuss why we need to have a connection to the larger story. We need to understand and share the larger story. Our children and family need to understand how they are part of and where they fit in the larger story.

In this episode we will be discussing how the heart is a place that holds our story. How being whole hearted means being willing and able to look at our story and learning to understand it. We will learn to recognize how it is affecting us now and that we need to wrestle with our story to address its meaning and change the effect it has in our lives. Not being held hostage by a story that we do not even know and one that throws us around all over the place. We will also discuss the importance of knowing the larger story that we are part of.

In this episode I discuss how we can shut off our hearts. We do this to avoiding being hurt abandoned or rejected. We often build strong walls around our heart to protect it. The problem is while it keeps us feeling safe it also shuts us off from what we most need and desire, CONNECTION.

I also discuss the story of the Tin Man from the Wizard of OZ.

In this episode I discuss some people who have shown up as Christ in my life. I also discuss things I have learned as I have fallen short and gotten it right when I show up for others. I hope you like it.

More to come for sure.

In this episode I discuss digging into our core feelings to be able to truly deal with and address what is really going on in our life. When all we can name and address are the core feelings it leaves us unable to fully interact with the world. It leaves us shutting down or lashing out. Here I talk about something that I was able to learn and address in my own life by digging into those core feelings and learning what was really going on. This then allowed me to show up and better interact with my wife.

In this episode we discuss being whole. Being whole is being a complete and uncompartmentalized person. Allowing our whole selves to be known. Not hiding behind competition and comparison. Living our individual values all of the time not creating areas of our lives where we live against our values. When we do not consistently live our values it eventually brings disconnection and pain. 

In this episode I explore how something from a long time ago that I had worked through showed up and really made me question if I had made any real progress. 

Discussion of how if we do not manage and deal with our emotions we can get into a state where we can be completely overwhelmed.

We have to learn to recognize and deal with thing early before we are run over.

1 Knowing what we want and what we value. 
2 Choosing what we want to be and choosing to live our values. 
3 Plotting our direction and our course. Then checking our course.
4 Regularly recommitting.
5 Being heard
6 How often do we think about what we are thinking about?
7 Not choosing is a choice

Expectations and resentment.

In this first episode I share my story. I share some of the experiences that shaped some of my story and how those experiences effect how I showed up in my life. Our stories shape who we believe we are and what we believe we are capable of.  When we understand our story we can recognize the things that are affecting us and how react to those around us.

My name is Seth Bowman. I am a recovering porn user mentor and coach. I have spent the last five and a half years working actively on my recovery. I have been leading groups for addiction and self mastery for four years and have done individual coaching with men. I wrote and co-teach with a therapist a course for men to help them to understand and empathize with what their wife is going through with betrayal trauma. I love helping men to find and become their best selves.