Most people don't have an intimacy problem, they have a repair problem.

Which is why I created the VOSA Method - Validate, Own, Support and Agreements - a conflict-repair (and in the moment) process I created after spending my entire birthday in 2022 shut down in freeze with my then-partner.

This process has changed the game not only for me, but also for my clients and their clients when it comes to repairing and coming back into connection.

In this episode, I share:

~ The birthday conflict that accidentally created the VOSA Method
~ How unresolved hurt and resentment are the biggest killers of intimacy
~ How to use VOSA to repair conflict, rebuild trust and create deeper connection
~ Simple tools to regulate your nervous system when conflict becomes overwhelming

Because the connection your looking for is in the cleanup.

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Keywords:
relationship repair, conflict resolution, deeper intimacy, relationship communication, emotional validation, resentment, nervous system regulation, trauma-informed intimacy, conscious relationships, conscious sexuality

This is the conversation that changed my sex life! I believe everyone should be going through this communication framework before any intimate, sensual, sexual, tantric or kinky experience.

I go into depth with:

~ The DFBSCTA framework: Desires, Fears, Boundaries, Sexual Health, Communication, Triggers/Trauma and Aftercare
~ How these conversations create the “fence of the playground” so you can play more freely, safely and deliciously
~ How to ask for what you want in the moment without making the other person wrong
~ Why safe words, traffic lights and communication protocols are not just for BDSM (and how to create them)
~ How trauma responses can show up during intimacy and how to support someone with care
~ Why aftercare and debriefing are essential for deeper trust, safety and pleasure

This episode is for anyone who wants to experience deeper intimacy, safer exploration, better communication and more erotic aliveness in their sex, kink, tantra, relationships or professional intimacy work.

It’s especially for practitioners, lovers, couples, sex workers, tantra practitioners, doms, subs, coaches and anyone who wants to create experiences where desire, boundaries, safety, pleasure and consent are truly honoured.

Ready for more depth and juiciness?

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Keywords:
conscious sexuality, intimacy communication, consent, boundaries, safe words, traffic light system, BDSM communication, tantra, kink, sensual massage, erotic play, trauma-informed intimacy, trauma responses, nervous system safety, sexual healing, aftercare, desire, pleasure, embodiment, dom self, praise kink, procrastination, erotic aliveness, CSE immersion, CSE practitioner training, intimacy coaching, tantric sexuality, sexual health, safer sex, embodied consent, kink scene negotiation, conscious sex, pleasure dom, submissive communication, intimacy framework

This is the episode where I share one of the most memorable and transformational erotic experiences of my life - my Tantric Queen Worship Experience Fantasy with four men completely in service to me and my pleasure!

I talk about:

1. Why I created this experience and what led me here (burnout, people-pleasing, and wanting to fully claim my desires)
2. How I found these four men willing to worship me - yes, really
3. The Queen Tantric Worship Experience in delicious detail
4. What this experience healed in me and what it unlocked
5. How you can start claiming YOUR desires and what's possible when you do

This episode is for anyone who has ever struggled to ask for what they want, who often gives more than they receive, or who is ready to claim their desire to receive pleasure unapologetically!

Tantric Queen Playlist - https://open.spotify.com/playlist/5eoZC4JByCvDBNiiqK1hj4?si=bb2f94e827dc47bb

Ready for more?

I invite you to come and experience this for yourself in my Playground...

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Keywords:
tantric worship, queen archetype, erotic experience, desire, receiving pleasure, conscious sexuality, embodiment, people pleasing, burnout recovery, claiming desire, dom surrender, sacred sexuality, intimacy coaching, boundaries, consent, sexual healing, erotic empowerment, pleasure, tantric breathwork, fantasy

Welcome to Season 2 where EJ explores the Fear of Intimacy and how it stops people from having the intimacy they really want! She shares how people struggle to know and ask for what they want and the stories and beliefs that keep people safe and in their comfort zone when it comes to intimacy.

She also talks about the roles people play in relationships and the fears and shadows of intimacy that keep you playing out these disempowering roles. Lastly, she speaks to the sabotaging and avoidant behaviours that keep you stuck and how accountability is key to changing these behaviours!

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Time Stamps: 

10:30 The Fear of Intimacy: An Introduction

22:33 Exploring Barriers to Intimacy

34:24 Exploring Fears of Intimacy

34:41 Fear of Losing Freedom

37:32 Fear of Abandonment

39:44 Fear of Inadequacy and Rejection

42:52 Fear of Emotions and Vulnerability

45:22 Roles and Masks in Relationships

48:00 Uncovering Shadows

53:00 External Behaviors and Sabotage

59:24 Creating Safety and Accountability

01:02:01 Coaching and Training Opportunities

Keywords: 

conscious sex, embodied play, adult play, intimacy coaching, connection, intimacy, trauma, triggers, boundaries, consent, sex industry, demographics, connection, intimacy, relationships, Conscious Sexuality Experience Training, communication, intention, safety, nice guy, men’s work, masculinity.

In this episode, I have the pleasure of speaking with three male escorts who have all attended our Conscious Sexuality Experience training. I asked them all the most curious questions that people wanted to know about what it’s like being a male escort: 

• How did you get into the industry? Why do you do what you do? 

• What types of women book your services? What are they looking for? 

• How do you do this work when you have a partner? 

• What’s been some of your most memorable client experiences? 

• What kind of conscious sexuality experiences fo you offer your clients? How has this helped them? 

We also chatted about how the Conscious Sexuality Experience Training has had a significant impact on their work, particularly in terms of educating their clients about their desires and boundaries and supporting them to feel loved and safe exploring their sexuality. 

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Ty Jones - https://www.instagram.com/tyjones_01/ , https://www.instagram.com/pleasureheals_/ 

George Goulburn - https://www.instagram.com/george_goulburn/, 

Tyler Banks - https://www.instagram.com/tylerbanksesct/ 

Websites: 

Ty - https://www.pleasureheals.com.au, https://ivysociete.com/escorts/profile/ty-jones 

George - https://www.georgegoulburn.com/ 

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction to the Guests and the Importance of Healing Services in the Sex Industry

04:19 Personal Stories: How the Guests Entered the Industry

06:02 Motivations and Passion for Supporting Women's Healing and Growth

15:59 Why Women Book Male Escorts and the Types of Women They Serve

22:45 Creating a Safe and Healing Experience: Communication, Boundaries, and Trauma Response

26:07 Respecting Boundaries and Trauma Responses

27:43 The Importance of Connection and Intimacy

35:59 Standout Client Experiences

01:00:29 The Impact of the Conscious Sexuality Experience Training

Keywords

conscious sex, male escorts, healing, connection, intimacy, companionship, trauma, triggers, communication, boundaries, aftercare, boundaries, trauma responses, consent, sex industry, demographics, connection, intimacy, physical attraction, client experiences, relationships, Conscious Sexuality Experience Training, communication, intention, safety

In this episode Anna Morrigan and I go deep on: 

1. How to know when watching porn has actually become an addiction 

2. The real reason men can become so easily dependent on porn 

3. The massive impacts porn dependency has on men’s brains, their sexual intimacy, performance and their relationships

4. How men can be re-traumatising themselves every time they watch porn

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In this episode EJ covers: 

1. The Unconscious Unhealed Mother Wound Behaviours and How they Impact Men’s Relationships with Women 

2. The 6 Different Mother-Son Dynamics that are Playing out Repeated Patterns in Relationships

3. How this Unhealed Wound Impacts Men’s Intimacy and can be a cause of ED, PE and how it can also Create Kinks and Fantasies that lead to Addictions

4. The Unconscious Loyalty Men have towards their Mothers that creates blocks to being available for & receiving love and having intimacy. 

5. The Vital Piece of Men’s Initiation that is missing in most Men’s Work that will actually Heal this Mother Wound (and how I think women are here to help men with this)

This is one you will not want to miss - be prepared to have your 👀 opened!

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In this episode I share the amazing conscious experience I had with a male escort and answer so many of the questions that you had for me about this including:

1. Why I decided to Hire a Male Escort

2. How I found Him and Why I chose this Escort

3. What I wanted to get out of the experience

4. The juicy details of what happened and my reflections and learnings.

5. My personal recommendations of Conscious Male Escorts

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In the sex industry you will hear the acronyms 'PSE' and 'GFE' which stand for Pornstar Experience and Girlfriend Experience respectively. 'CSE' is the new kind of experience - a Conscious Sexuality Experience - that is about to revolutionise not only the sex industry but the world and we are here to stand at the forefront of this revolution!

In this very in depth episode we dive into what this means, how it will revolutionise the world and what you can experience in a CSE. 

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