The Jerry Banfield Show

Do you find yourself always trying to tell other people what to do? In the past, I never passed up on the opportunity to give other people advice. Telling others what to do felt empowering to me, but it didn't come without consequences. Putting in my two cents at every opportunity had a negative impact on my relationships, and also took my attention away from my own development and problems. Now, I try to never tell others what to do, and instead I try to focus on my own problems. Leading by example works much better than trying to tell other what to do! Thank you for taking the time to be here with me, and I appreciate your feedback!

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What is the one thing you attribute most of your success to? My number one key to success is consistency. Everyday I like to spend time with things I am trying to grow and build. This applies to my business, personal relationships and spiritual learning. The same principle that applies to learning also applies to life. If you want to get better at something and perform at your best, you must give it attention on a daily basis. If you take the time to focus some attention each day on the things you are trying to build, I guarantee you will notice a considerable difference! I want to thank you for taking the time to be here with me today, and as always I appreciate your feedback!

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Do you find yourself getting angry when the smallest things go wrong? Are you grateful when things work how they are supposed to? Yesterday I had a short internet outage and my first instinct was to get angry at my service provider. However, my service has also been the best in terms of speed and consistency since I started paying for high speed internet. I am thankful to live in a country where most things work how they are supposed to. However, having such a high quality of living creates high expectations. So, today I ask you to be thankful when things perform as intended. Don't get angry when the bus is late or when your food takes too long to get to the table, instead be grateful for all the times your expectations were met. I want to thank you for taking the time to be here with me, and as always I appreciate you feedback!

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Would you rather suffer from an addiction, or have cancer? The reason I ask this question is not to single out one group, but show how both are serious illnesses. What exactly is considered an addiction? The American Psychiatric Association defines addiction as a "chronic brain disease that causes compulsive substance use despite harmful consequences. Health, finances,relationships, and careers can be ruined. The abuse of drugs and alcohol is by far the leading cause of preventable illnesses and premature death in our society." People often think of addiction simply as a lack of self-control, however this could not be further from the truth. Addiction is an illness just like cancer and it can also have varying levels mortality, just like cancer. The public perception of both addiction and cancer couldn't be more different. A woman who is part of my support group told me that her son died due to a drug overdose. She said that family and friends had varying degrees of sympathy because many thought he brought it upon himself. Now, take my dad who died from cancer, and not one person said it was his fault. I am sharing this with you today because people should be more aware of addiction, and not brush it off as simply a lack of self-control. Thank you for taking the time to be here with me today, and I appreciate your feedback!

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Are you a do as I say, or a do as I do person? For years I was a do as I say person. In fact, looking back on it, I can't believe how much of a hypocrite I was! I remember when I put my dog on a diet when he started getting heavy, before I ever considered going on a diet myself. The funny thing about this was I was more out of shape than my dog! Needless to say, I was living a life where I didn't live by example. How many times have you wanted to work on a family members problems rather than your own? It can be difficult to look in the mirror and work on our own problems, because it forces us to admit that we have a problem in the first place. For most of my life I had a problem with overeating. I thought that if I exercised enough, I could eat as much as I wanted. Wrong! But, once I took the time to identify that I was overweight and change my eating habits, it helped me lose 30 pounds this past year! Thank you for taking the time to be here, and I appreciate your feedback!

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I lost my friend today. Every morning, he would call me and ask how I was doing, and tell me to give my wife a hug. When a few days passed without receiving a call from him, I knew something was wrong. I tried calling him and I was informed the line had been disconnected. Later on I learned that he had been hit by a car and killed. After the passing of my dad, it has become easier to accept loss. I was so mad that he was taken from me at such an early age, but when I really began to think about it, it was for selfish reasons. I soon realized the only thing that was lost was my dad's physical body. I am a reflection of my dad and his teachings. I know that he is still here with me in spirit and I now live to continue his work. I want to thank your for taking the time to be here with me, and I appreciate your feedback!

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If you get nauseous when your are flying or landing, I know how much of a struggle that can be. I cannot read or use my phone when I am in the car or flying because it makes me sick. The last time I flew, the plane had a bit of a rough landing. In the past, this would have bothered me. I would have been angry with the pilot and all this would have done is make me feel more nauseous. Instead of focusing on the negative aspect of the flight, I accepted what had happened and was thankful we landed safely. This new found sense of relief helped settle my stomach. Our mind tricks us into focusing on the negativity of the past and future. Focusing and being thankful for the present moment creates a positive energy that helps me overcome obstacles more easily. Thank you for taking the time to be here with me today, and I appreciate your feedback!

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President Obama's new Twitter account (@POTUS) provides an opportunity for us all to use love and understanding to accept others. In search, you will see many people using hateful terms and phrases when mentioning the president, and you will also see people making hateful remarks towards the people using the hateful terms. What these people don't realize, is that both groups are engaging in self-hatred. We as a society here in the United States are full of self-hatred. We have the largest prison population in the world, even though countries such as a China have three times the population. We have a cultural need to punish people we deem below us. Jesus said, "Forgive, for they not know what they are doing." So, the next time to rush to judge others, take the time to realize that they know not what they are doing, and are probably in pain themselves. Thank you for taking the time to be here, and I appreciate your feedback!

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Is life like the movie Groundhog Day or Edge of tomorrow? In the movie Edge of Tomorrow, Tom Cruise relives the same moment in his life over and over with the sequence ending in his death. This premise is very useful because you live life one day at a time. Yesterday and tomorrow are figments of our imagination. You might be able to give me a glimpse into the future or you can reminisce about the past, but you can never actually be in yesterday or tomorrow. Everyday you receive small lessons that you can either learn from or ignore. I know I used to ignore these lessons and each day would feel the same to me. In the Edge of Tomorrow, Tom Cruise does the same thing over and over and gets the same result. If you are willing to learn these daily lessons in life, you will make progress each day and become a better person. Life is much more fulfilling when you learn to love others and be open! Thank you for taking the time to be here, and I appreciate your feedback!

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Do you get enough sleep? Getting enough sleep will create a miracle for your health! Sleep is essential to your body's healing process. When you deprive yourself of sleep, you will notice that you get sick easier, and illness lingers. I attribute my increased productivity to the fact that I take sleeping much more seriously. Do you or someone you know have trouble getting to sleep each night? Here are three tips that help me sleep each night:

1) Only use your bedroom for sleeping - As I married man, I know that other things take place in the bedroom (you know what I am talking about), but try not to watch TV, play video games or eat food in bed.

2) Get at least 30 minutes of physical exercise each day - This is where I noticed the most improvement as far as my ability to sleep goes. Your body needs to burn off all the excess energy you feed it. Something as simple as going for a walk will have a noticeable impact.

3) Find a way to put your mind at ease - Some people do this through prayer, others do it through reading or some other activity. Don't try to go to sleep stressed out or flustered. Find a way to calm yourself, and then lay down in bed.

Committing to a routine is the easiest way to help you sleep at night! Thank you for taking the time to be here, and I appreciate your feedback!

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