The Jiu Jitsu Of Life Podcast

As you get older you begin to see patterns in life. Looking at the current situation the world is in right now, Carter and Mo can see the signs that we are heading towards a recession.

• Taking routine for granted (00:00)

• Not feeling older but being older (01:48)

• You have to accept that life will get in the way and react to that (06:10)

• We are in the beginnings of a recession (07:17)

• It’s already harder to get loans from banks (11:02)

• Why Lenders are being more strindent about lending money (14:21)

• Interest rates will go up and peoples income will go down (15:26)

• Carter thinks about the opportunities there might become available (17:45)

• What the end of cheap money will bring (19:32)

• This is the one time where you will want to accumulate cash to buy assets at discounted prices (21:08)

• (24:03)

• Observing people make the same mistalkes that were made in 2007/2008 (25:27)

• Leverage works both ways (28:10)

• Are we in a bubble? (28:39)

• people get used to anything including the idea of property raising in value and interest rates being low (29:50)

• There are more opportunities in a bad economy than in a good economy(31:48)

• Being older lets you see the patterns and opportunities in this current situation (32:41)

• Older jiu-jitsu practitioners use their wisdom and experience to be more efficient with their movements (35:25)

• Have more cash than you do leverage (39:06)

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This episode launches a series into mental models. An understanding of mental models is crucial if you want to be a better thinker and make better decisions. This episode focuses on two - ‘the map is not the territory’ and ‘the circle of competence. Carter and Mo explore the limitations of planning, assuming the worst is yet to come and why sometime you need to stay in your lane.

• The map is not the territory (1:08)

• Why explore mental models? (01:41)

• Being a better thinker helps you in everything (04:02)

• Map are useful but they are not reality (06:05)

• How to plan when you know the plan won’t work (11:15)

• Investing models don’t take into account how dynamic the world actually is (13:21)

• Why Warren Buffet and Charlie Munger don’t use computer models (14:05)

• The assumption should always be that the worst is yet to come (17:41)

• How does Carter prepare for the worst with his real estate business? (20:28)

• The circle of competence (23:35)

• How this mental model applied to Carter’s early experience in real estate (24:20)

• When is good, good enough? (33:35)

• When your ego is driving it tends to create blind-spots 34:38)

• The idea of staying in your lane (35:53)

• Situations where you need to stick to what you know best (38:52)

• Always assume the map has not shown you everything and stick to what you know when you need to win (40:17)

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Why do people keep doing something that they don’t love just because they are good at it? If longevity is something you value, doing something you don’t love can lead to burnout and other issues. In this episode Carter and Mo discuss how hard it is to quit combat sports, the importance of your why and the necessity of changing things up when your why changes.

• Considering longevity becomes more important as you get older (00:00)

• People who do things they are good at but don’t actually enjoy (03:35)

• The joy of playing basketball as a kid (06:08)

• People like to be around greatness (08:41)

• The fear that comes with combat sports and the benefits of not worrying about winning (10:58)

• If you are there for the wrong reason there is no way you will make it in combat sports (18:07)

• The expectations people can have about you and why this makes quitting hard (19:01)

• What happened when Mo made the decision to quit boxing (23:28)

• Fighters who can impose their will can win even when they’re less skilled (26:50)

• (30:26)

• The importance of your why and how it impacts longevity (32:19)

• Dave and Mark Schultz and the difference between enjoying ad not enjoying what you’re good at (34:04)

• It all comes back to the why (35:06)

• Have a solid why and let it evolve over time (35:55)

• When your why changes have the confidence to make changes (39:43)

• Be authentic (41:22)

Steve Maxwell

https://maxwellsc.com/

Play Nice But Win: A CEO's Journey from Founder to Leader by Michael Dell

https://www.amazon.com/Play-Nice-But-Win-Journey/dp/0593087747/

Foxcatcher: The True Story of My Brother's Murder, John du Pont's Madness, and the Quest for Olympic Gold by Mark Schultz

https://www.amazon.com/Foxcatcher-Brothers-Murder-Madness-Olympic/dp/014751648X/

Danielle kelly

https://www.instagram.com/daniellekellybjj

Connor McGregor

https://twitter.com/TheNotoriousMMA

Mark Schultz

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mark_Schultz_(wrestler)

Total Violence

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rq6B8uXgZnU

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When an event that that you were looking forward to doesn't happen it can derail you. But is there a way of looking at things differently? Opportunity can come in all sorts of ways and generally things will turn out alright. In this episode Carter and Mo discuss the good that can come from disappointment, letting go and why it’s all about just showing up.

• The challenges of embracing being a more optimistic person (00:00)

• Realising the good that can come from disappointment (06:34)

• Having the faith to believe that things are going to turn out alright (07:37)

• Not being attached to the preconceived notions of how things are gong to be (07:58)

• Is it possible to be a calm person without working at it? (10:48)

• Letting go of the things you can’t control (12:22)

• Have realistic expectations of yourself (16:21)

• There is no good or bad training – just show up (18:32)

• How do you deal with losing in jiu-jitsu? (19:31)

• The way to have a better 2022 is to have no expectations (23:48)

• Consistently showing up should be your only expectation (25:44)

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In the last episode Mo suggested that happiness relies on being present in the current moment. How can we shift our mindset to focus on the current moment and let go of the past and the future? In this episode Carter and Mo discuss how to balance living in the present with preparing for the future, focusing energy on happiness and contemplating death.

• Why money is important to Mo (00:00)

• Pain exists in the past and worry exist in the future (02:36)

• Dealing with the fact that things are going to end and we are all going to die (05:21)

• If everything is temporary, we should enjoy the present moment (08:38)

• Exploring if money is good or bad (10:15)

• Is it worth focusing more energy on happiness? (11:27)

• Getting off social media to see what the outcomes are (12:43)

• Why do people film concerts rather than just experiencing this event? (15:13)

• Realising the things you want to do will change over time (16:37)

• Appreciating what you have in the present while emotionally preparing for what might happen in the future (17:58)

• A lot of people live their life like they’re never going to die (21:10)

• You can pursue success and happiness at the same time (23:02)

• Why we should try to live in the present (24:33)

• What happens if you try to work on happiness? (26:32)

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Why do people try to pursue happiness through possessions and goals? In this episode Mo argues that happiness is a state of mind and that treating it like a goal is the wrong approach. Discussions include methods to shift your mindset, the value of questioning your own thoughts and patterns and building the confidence that things will work out the way they are supposed to.

• Revaluating habits and mindset at the start of the year (00:00)

• Why the idea of pursuing happiness is weird (01:11)

• Don’t desire to be happy. Just be happy (02:39)

• Success and happiness are too separate goals (06:43)

• Defining what happiness means to you (08:04)

• Is happiness just a state of mind? (10:21)

• What are the things that help put you into the state of happiness on a consistent basis?(12:27)

• How Carter is approaching happiness (14:32)

• Being uptight about time (18:56)

• Having the confidence and faith that things will work out the way they are supposed to (20:50)

• Did Carter make videos with the intent of helping people and why did he stop? (26:39)

• Goals create purpose and fulfilment but not happiness (30:28)

• Pain is in the past (32:06)

• How to pull yourself back into the present (35:41)

The Shawshank Redemption

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Shawshank_Redemption

Life Is Beautiful

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Life_Is_Beautiful

The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle

https://www.amazon.com/Power-Now-Guide-Spiritual-Enlightenment/dp/1577314808/

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We know that our beliefs can be limiting, but they can also be wrong. The Socratic Method is a way of both examining our beliefs and testing them. In this episode Carter and Mo explore the Socratic Method, how it has helped them see certain things differently and why we need to build critical thinking skills.

• Why Carter and Mo are talking about the Socratic method (00:00)

• Carter’s favourite parts of the book (01:36)

• Theory versus what works in the real world (03:32)

• The importance of taking stock of you beliefs and re-examining them (04:01)

• What is the Socratic method? (05:41)

• Using the Socratic method on yourself vs using it to debate others (08:18)

• Carter challenged his beliefs on how much information about Covid he really needs (10:29)

• You have to question the person who is telling you to question people (13:23)

• The upsides and downsides of being an optimistic person (17:04)

• The importance of critical thinking and trying to tear down your own beliefs (18:03)

• Your opinions need to change as new and better information presents itself (21:22)

• How do you re-examine a belief? (25:38)

• Finding commonality between opposing viewpoints (28:42)

The Socratic Method: A Practitioner’s Handbook by Ward Farnsworth

https://www.amazon.com/Socratic-Method-Practitioners-Handbook/dp/1567926851/

Jay Shetty Podcast

https://jayshetty.me/podcast/

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Carter has been reading Tom DeBlass’ new book and has found it fascinating to read about his journey into jiu-jitsu, and how he healed from a turbulent childhood. In this episode Carter and Mo discuss online personas, mental health and how life is short.

• Should your online persona match your offline persona? (00:00)

• Who Tom DeBlass is (02:20)

• Tom DeBlass’ book (03:15)

• There are people who Carter doesn’t like in real life but whose online persona he does like (06:12)

• The start of Tom’s jiu-jitsu career and his attitude to training (11:22)

• Understating the importance of good role models (14:27)

• How tom dealt with the mental health aspect of fighing (15:43)

• The importance of diversifying streams of income (19:42)

• Covid and being in intensive care (22:46)

• People who act like they aren’t going to die (26:00)

• The impact of ego and criticism on an online persona (27:29)

• The metaverse is coming (31:54)

• Depression in the jiu-jitsu community (36:03)

How You Bear It: Triumph and Resiliency in Life by Tom DeBlass

https://www.amazon.com/How-You-Bear-Triumph-Resiliency-ebook/dp/B09K47JGTV

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