The John Howard Show

John Howard talks about the ten most common mental health issues that impact relationships, the unique challenges of each, and how to overcome them.

"Sometimes, there's a legitimate reason why you don't feel safe and secure in a relationship, but very often we don't feel secure because of our baseline anxiety. And so, when you start to treat it, there are really wonderful things that can happen in a relationship." – John Howard.

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Tune in to learn how to fully access the potential for individual and relationship growth that exists in every relationship while maintaining boundaries.

"That's the beauty and wisdom of relationships: we bring people into our lives and they have a different world view and they have different perspectives and habits. If we just treat all those differences as annoying artifacts that we have to deal with, then we're not fully open to who we can become through relationship." – John Howard

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John Howard talks to Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott, hosts of the Therapist Uncensored podcast. Tune in for an inside perspective on the hosts and their show.

"When we feel threat or fear or feel like we're being attacked, we actually tribalize and polarize. What's interesting in our culture right now is I think that's being used against us." – Ann Kelley.

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Renée Trudeau and John Howard talk about how you can challenge your partner to grow without sending a message of judgment or non-acceptance.

"What would it look like to cultivate an unwavering allegiance to yourself?" – Renée Trudeau

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John Howard and Lora Ferguson discuss a compassionate approach to parenting, Positive Discipline. Learn how to raise responsible kids with kindness!

"It's healthy to discuss emotions in the family structure. It's healthy for the parents to share their own struggles. It gives kids a language and an opportunity to share their own emotions and allows them to see that adults are comfortable with their imperfection." – John Howard

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Dr. Pittman McGehee and John Howard discuss why self compassion is essential to mental and relationship health and how you can begin practicing it.

"We think that we're connected in our perfection, but really we're connected in our imperfection. One of the common things about being human is that we all suffer; it's part of what it is to be human. So rather than feeling isolated in that, with self compassion we can feel connected in that."– Pittman McGehee

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Juliane Taylor-Shore and John Howard discuss how understanding your brain can lead to relationships that feel more safe, intimate and loving.

"I'm not interested in helping people stop flipping their lids. I'm interested in helping them react to the moment they do (flip their lid) differently." – Juliane Taylor-Shore

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Dr. Stan Tatkin and John Howard discuss the importance of practicing relationship skills as the most effective means of improving your closest relationship.

"Most everything we do is automatic and reflexive and informed by our memory. So if we don't practice things, then we're just going to just do what we do automatically and we may get in trouble for that." – Dr. Stan Tatkin

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Couples therapists Terry Real and John Howard discuss how the patriarchal power structure we live in is the primary seed of conflict in many relationships.

"Falling in love is believing that this person is going to heal you or complete you. Real marriage comes the day you realize that they are exquisitely designed to stick the burning spear right into your eyeball." – Terry Real

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Join Gottman senior faculty member Dr. Vagdevi Meunier and John Howard to discuss the Gottman Method approach to relationship health and counseling.

"It turns out that positivity in the form of fondness, admiration, compliments, turning towards your partner, completely overrides or mitigates any of the conflict that you have in a relationship. Your focus needs to be on fun!" – Dr. Vagdevi Meunier

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