If you've read the books, followed the accounts, tried the habits, and still feel like you're right back where you started — this episode is not going to tell you to try harder. It's going to show you why trying harder was never the answer.

Real change doesn't happen all at once. And if you've been forcing it like it should, that's exactly why it keeps falling apart.

In this episode, Lisa covers:

If you've been white-knuckling your way through change and wondering why you can't just get it together — this episode is going to be a relief.

You're not broken. You're not behind. You're in a stage. And now you have the map.

READY FOR YOUR NEXT STEP?

Connect with Lisa: Instagram: @thejourneytojoynetwork Website: lisagrace.me 

If you've ever exploded over something small and wondered why it hit so hard — or if you've spent years managing, avoiding, and pushing down emotions that keep finding their way back up — this episode is going to give you a picture that makes everything make sense.

Because it's not about the person. It's not even really about the moment. It goes a lot deeper than that.

In this episode, Lisa covers:

Why certain situations or people trigger a reaction that feels way bigger than the moment deserves

The invisible emotional wall most people are living behind — and why you built it without even knowing it

What your anxiety, reactivity, and emotional overwhelm are actually trying to show you

If you feel like your emotions run you instead of the other way around — or like you've been holding something down for so long you don't even know what it is anymore — this episode is for you.

You were not born reactive. You were not born anxious. You learned to survive. And now you get to learn something better.

Connect with Lisa: Instagram: @thejourneytojoynetwork Website: lisagrace.me

If you're exhausted, reactive, or constantly frustrated that the people around you aren't meeting you halfway — and you haven't stopped to ask what you actually need first — this episode is for you.

If you've ever bent over backwards for someone — given up sleep, skipped your own needs, pushed yourself past empty — and then watched it not even matter, you know exactly how fast the blame can follow.

And if you've ever caught yourself thinking I sacrificed for you and you couldn't even show up — this episode is going to stop you cold. Because that moment? It's not about them.

In this episode, Lisa covers:

Why self-sacrifice isn't really about being selfless — and what it's actually doing to your ability to show up

The moment Lisa found herself sleeping on the floor of an airport and almost handed the blame to her best friend

What it looks like to slow down, ask what you need, and stop handing other people the remote control to your life

What you'll learn:

Why overfunctioning and putting everyone else's needs first leaves you running on empty — and then reactive, edgy, and looking for someone to blame

The real reason we don't stop and ask what we need (it's not selfishness — it's a pattern most people in crisis fall into without realizing it)

How passing blame to other people is the same thing as handing them your agency — and why that always feels terrible

What "charging your own battery" actually looks like before you try to show up for anyone else

How this pattern shows up in divorce, in relationships, and in the way we run our businesses — and what to do instead

If you're exhausted, reactive, or constantly frustrated that the people around you aren't meeting you halfway — and you haven't stopped to ask what you actually need first — this episode is for you.

You can't pour from an empty cup. But more than that — when you run yourself dry and it falls apart, it was never their fault to begin with. And knowing that changes everything.

READY FOR YOUR NEXT STEP?

📞 Want to work through this one-on-one? 

Connect with Lisa: Instagram: @thejourneytojoynetwork Website: lisagrace.me

If you've been let down by enough people — friends, partners, anyone you put your faith in — your brain starts building a case. A convincing one. A list of everyone who cast you aside, used you, didn't show up.

But here's what nobody tells you: the trust that's actually broken isn't with them. It's with you.

In this episode, Lisa covers:

Why feeling betrayed and let down by others is really a signal that you've lost trust in your own judgment

How "shoulding" yourself — telling yourself you should be able to figure it out by now — is actually a shame spiral in disguise

The smallest possible first step to start rebuilding self-trust when everything feels overwhelming

What you'll learn:

Why handing other people the "remote control" to your emotions keeps you stuck — and what taking it back actually looks like in real life

The difference between overfunctioning because you want to and overfunctioning because you need something from people — and why that distinction changes everything

How broken expectations erode your trust in your own judgment, your own picker, and your own ability to stand up for yourself

Why the gym (or any area of life where you're not pushing yourself) isn't a discipline problem — it's a self-trust problem

How stacking small wins in one area of your life starts to rebuild confidence and trust across your business, your relationships, and your sense of self

If you've been through divorce, betrayal, or a major life transition and you keep wondering why you can't seem to make yourself do the things you know you need to do — this episode is going to make a lot of things make sense.

You're not broken. You're not weak. Your trust got fractured — and now you know exactly where to start rebuilding it.

READY FOR YOUR NEXT STEP? Connect with Lisa: Instagram: @thejourneytojoynetwork Website: lisagrace.me

If someone in your life has ever told you that you have patterns — that you keep attaching to people, repeating the same cycles, stuck doing the same things — and it made you feel worse instead of better, this episode is going to hit different.

Because here's what nobody tells you: as long as you give your patterns the power, you give away the one thing that was yours all along.

In this episode, Lisa covers:

Why being told "you have patterns" can actually make you feel more stuck — not less

What it really means to feel out of control after divorce or a major life crisis, and why it's not about your past

The tool for processing pain and finding peace that Lisa had access to the whole time — and why she kept looking everywhere else first

What you'll learn:

Why blaming patterns — even childhood patterns — quietly strips you of your agency and keeps you feeling powerless and stuck

The difference between a pattern and a choice — and how to tell which one is actually running your life

Why so many people going through divorce or life crisis spend thousands on coaches and healing modalities and still can't find lasting peace

What happened when Lisa started praying out loud — and why it replaced what she was paying a coach to help her do

How to stop outsourcing your healing to people and methods outside yourself, and access what's already been given to you

If you're going through a divorce, a loss, or any life crisis and you've tried everything to feel better but still can't seem to find real peace — this episode is for you.

You haven't been doing it wrong. You just didn't have the full picture yet. And now you do.

Connect with Lisa: Instagram: @thejourneytojoynetwork Website: lisagrace.me

If you've been through divorce, loss, or a major life crisis and you just can't make yourself move forward — no matter how hard you push — this episode explains exactly why.

You're not broken. You're not failing. You're in a phase. And until you know which one, you'll keep trying to force productivity that isn't ready to come yet.

In this episode, Lisa covers:

Why people get stuck after divorce, job loss, empty nesting, or any life-altering event — sometimes for years

The hidden reason skill-building and "working on yourself" can actually keep you stuck in the same place

How to stop blaming yourself for not being productive and start asking the one question that actually moves you forward

What you'll learn:

The 3 phases every person moves through during crisis or major life change: Survival Mode, Stress Management/Coping, and Growth — and exactly what you're seeking in each one

Why forcing yourself into productivity when you're still in survival mode always backfires, and what to do instead

The "out and back" method Lisa used at a live conference to push her nervous system forward without crashing — and how to apply it to your own life

How unhealthy coping skills (food, alcohol, over-exercising, constant learning) show up in Phase 2 — and how to recognize when you're stuck there

Lisa's personal breakdown of her own divorce journey through all three phases — and what she identified she was missing that finally gave her relief

If you feel stuck after a divorce, a loss, or any major life crisis and you keep asking yourself why you just can't seem to get it together — this episode is for you.

You're not behind. You're not weak. You're in a phase that has a name, a reason, and a way through it — and now you have the map.

READY FOR YOUR NEXT STEP?

📞 Want to work through this one-on-one? Book a private coaching session with Lisa https://www.lisagrace.me/speaking/coaching

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This was a tough one! Ripe from what was the hardest thing I've ever had to do, tell my kids I was divorcing their father, I share what happened next. I break down what “processing emotion” actually looks like (and what it doesn’t). Through a raw, real story—complete with a one-way plane ticket, a heavy carry-on bag full of “gifts no one asked for,” and a silent drive that changed everything—Lisa shows how we often touch emotion and then run… into the buffer zone. You’ll learn how to stop reacting, stop outsourcing your feelings to other people, and start building emotional strength through quiet, space, and self-trust—so you can lead your life (and your business) from steadiness instead of survival.

What you’ll learn

How to tell the difference between feeling an emotion and reacting from an emotion

Why the “buffer zone” (overworking, overeating, over-Netflix, over-shopping, control, blaming) keeps you stuck

The simplest tool Lisa found to actually process emotion: 30–45 minutes of silence + walking without your phone

How emotional regulation directly impacts performance (confidence, consistency, lead follow-up, resilience)

Why your feelings are yours to hold—and how that shift grows self-trust and stops unnecessary drama

Resources & links

Journal prompt:
What emotion have I been “touching and pulling away from”—and what buffer do I run to instead (work, control, scrolling, shopping, numbing, blaming)? What would it look like to sit with that feeling for 10 minutes today without fixing it?

Quote to remember
“Emotional strength isn’t pretending you’re fine—it’s giving yourself enough quiet space to feel what’s true, so you can move through it instead of running from it.”

In this powerful episode, Lisa is joined by Matthew Richardson- after a late-night Instagram scroll led her straight to his vulnerable testimony about coming to Christ. What follows is an honest, Spirit-filled conversation about true conversion—what it actually means to know the Savior, not just know scripture or “check the boxes.”

Matthew shares parts of his story he was terrified to say out loud: deep internal battles, addiction, divorce, excommunication, and how God still spoke to him clearly—proving that revelation isn’t about where you are on the covenant path, but which direction you’re facing.

Lisa weaves in her own recent awakening: learning to pray with real humility (on her knees), learning to pray out loud as a tool for processing and receiving direction, and realizing that fear-based obedience can look “righteous” while still keeping your heart closed. Together, they unpack repentance, shame, and the way the adversary uses hiding to keep us stuck—while God uses truth and willingness to bring us into the light.

This episode is a reminder that your journey doesn’t disqualify you. It can become the very place God meets you—and changes you.

The difference between knowing of God and actually knowing God

Why God can speak to you even in messy seasons—and how to recognize it

How the adversary uses shame and hiding to stop progression

Why repentance isn’t punishment—it’s access to the Atonement and relief

How praying on your knees changes what you’re able to receive

Why praying out loud can help you process, calm, and get clear direction

What it looks like to be “sorrowful yet always rejoicing” (holding both grief and joy)

Resources & links

Explore The GRACE Process™ and Lisa’s work at lisagrace.me
Follow Lisa on Instagram: @thejourneytojoynetwork
Find Matthew on Instagram: @mattrichardson_podcast

Where am I obeying out of fear—and what would change if I chose obedience from love, trust, and willingness?

“God doesn’t care where you are on the path—He cares which direction you’re facing.”

Trust, surrender, and the quiet miracles that unfold when you stop doing life alone.

In this deeply personal solo episode, Lisa reflects on a five-month journey of prayer, patience, and learning how to truly ask—rather than tell—God what she needed. Through the emotional process of selling her Idaho home while transitioning to Hawaii, she shares how divine timing, alignment, and support showed up only when she released control. This episode is a tender reminder that we’re not meant to carry life alone, and that joy becomes available when we allow ourselves to be guided. What looked like delay was actually perfect orchestration through the power of prayer.

The difference between praying from control versus praying from trust

Why pushing harder often creates more pain instead of progress

How divine timing aligns logistics, support, and peace simultaneously

What it means to develop a deeper, more intentional relationship with prayer

How letting go of “doing it alone” opens the door to ease, grace, and joy

Explore The GRACE Process™ at lisagrace.me
Follow Lisa’s journey on Instagram @thejourneytojoynetwork

Where in my life am I pushing for an outcome instead of asking for guidance—and what would it feel like to surrender control here?

“You don’t need to do life alone. When you ask instead of push, everything moves with more grace.”

In the latest episode of the Journey to Joy podcast, host Lisa Grace sits down with Tiffani Barton, a coach and mentor specializing in boundaries. Their conversation dives deep into the importance of knowing oneself, advocating for personal needs, and the transformative power of setting healthy boundaries. As Tiffani shares her journey from illness to empowerment, listeners are reminded of the profound connection between self-awareness and overall well-being.

Explore The GRACE Process™ at lisagrace.me

Follow Lisa on Instagram: @thejourneytojoynetwork

Follow Tiffani at @tiffanibartonofficial