Stepping into kink isn’t just about learning new activities. It is about entering a new culture.
In this bonus episode of The Kink Compass, Chris explores what really feels different when moving from vanilla into kink, and why so many misunderstandings happen along the way.

We talk about explicit consent, negotiation as connection, boundaries as erotic information, and the quiet grey areas where assumption replaces clarity. This episode is both a guide for newcomers finding their footing, and a reflection for experienced kinksters on how we welcome, teach, and protect the culture we’re part of.

Whether you’re crossing the threshold for the first time, or holding the door open for someone else, this episode is about making that transition safer, kinder, and more human.

Consent is binary. People are not.
In this bonus episode of The Kink Compass, Chris explores the uncomfortable but necessary reality of grey areas in consent. Not to excuse harm, but to prevent it. Starting from the powerful reminder that subspace is not an alibi, this episode unpacks how consent can quietly fail through assumption, silence, and unspoken pressure, long before anyone thinks a line has been crossed. A thoughtful reflection on communication, power, and responsibility, and why clarity, not smoothness, is the heart of ethical kink.

Rituals aren’t about theatrics. They’re about meaning.
In this episode of The Kink Compass, Chris explores how BDSM rituals create safety, structure, anticipation, and connection. What rituals are, where they come from, and how to ease into using them without pressure or performance.

And if his voice sounds a bit off it's because he has a cold. Sorry about that.

What if kink didn’t belong to a certain kind of body, but to any body that feels, desires, and responds?

In this bonus episode of The Kink Compass, Chris explores body positivity in kink without platitudes or pressure. We talk about illness, disability, age, scars, size, fatigue, pain, shame, and the quiet belief that kink is only for bodies that perform well.

This is a gentle, grounded conversation about adapting kink to the body you actually live in, and not the one you think you’re supposed to have. About care as erotic skill. About listening instead of pushing. And about why kink isn’t an athletic event, but an exchange between nervous systems.

If you’ve ever wondered whether your body is “too much,” “not enough,” or “the wrong kind” for kink, this episode is for you.

Because if you have a body, and you’re kinky…
you already have a kinky body.

What happens when fear decides what desire means?

In the 1980s, the United States became convinced that hidden networks of satanic abusers were everywhere. In schools, daycares, churches, and suburban homes. Lives were destroyed, memories reshaped, and entire subcultures quietly learned that being misunderstood could be enough to ruin you.

In this bonus episode of The Kink Compass, Chris takes a slow, careful walk through the Satanic Panic. What it really was, how it spread, and why its shadow still lingers in unexpected places.

We explore how kink, ritual, power exchange, and privacy became dangerously easy to misread in a culture gripped by hysteria, and how kink communities responded by reshaping consent, ethics, and visibility in ways that still shape modern practice today.

This isn’t a story about Satan.
It’s a story about fear.
About what happens when complexity gets flattened into danger.
And about how a community learned to survive by becoming clearer, louder, and more careful. Without losing its soul.

A historical detour. A cultural autopsy. And a reminder that moral panics never really disappear. They just wait for new names.

In this episode of The Kink Compass, Chris explores shame. Where it comes from, how it lives in the body, how it has shaped kink through history, and how it shows up in our scenes as both wound and spark. From early conditioning and cultural pressure to the psychology of exposure, attachment, and repair, this is a grounded, compassionate look at one of the most powerful emotional currents in kink. We end by turning the lens gently toward ethical, consensual ways people even choose to play with shame. With care, consent, and deep respect for the nervous system.

This is a bonus episode for you, and a palate cleanser for me after having dealt with shame all week. Short, hopefully funny, and even with a point to take with you. It's quick, written and recorded AND editied in under 30 minutes, and probably quite different from what I normally do, but hey. I can't be a professional all the time, right?

When ink holds memory and metal carries weight, impact becomes more than sensation. It becomes conversation. In this bonus episode of The Kink Compass, Chris reflects on how to practice impact on tattooed and pierced bodies with precision, awareness, and respect, where every strike listens as much as it speaks.

Impact is one of the most iconic expressions of kink, but it’s also one of the deepest crafts. In this episode of The Kink Compass, Chris explores impact as more than just striking: as rhythm, conversation, nervous-system negotiation, and trust in motion. We talk about why people are drawn to impact, sensation versus punishment, warm-up and anatomy, rhythm and pacing, cold versus warm implements, physical recovery, skincare, and aftercare. All through the lens of safety, presence, and intention.
This is an episode about learning to listen with your hands, and shaping intensity like music.

Some people seem to think I don't like brats, but I do. When they act ethically and understand that some days I'm too tired for the chase. So in this short bonus episode I discuss ethical bratting, and I hope those of you who are brats agree to my findings.