Always feel responsible for everyone and everything?

Learn how to stop overcommitting, set boundaries, and still be seen as a team player -- without burning out.

If you’re a woman lawyer who feels like you’re carrying the weight of your workplace, your family, and everyone’s expectations, this episode is your roadmap to freedom. We dig into why you feel responsible for things you can’t control, how this pattern is rooted in gendered socialization, and why it’s a fast track to exhaustion and resentment.
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You’ll hear the real story of Maya, a lawyer who thought she had to manage her clients’ happiness, her family’s travel plans, and her colleagues’ performance -- until she realized her sense of responsibility wasn’t coming from others, but from her own beliefs.

We’ll break down the four drivers of excessive responsibility:

• Socialization: Why women lawyers are taught to put everyone else first
• Misplaced Responsibility: The urge to control outcomes, emotions, and other people’s opinions
• Fear of Judgment: How perfectionism and people-pleasing keep you stuck
• Magical Thinking: The myth that doing everything perfectly will keep everyone happy

You’ll learn how to spot these patterns in your own life and, more importantly, how to break free. I’ll walk you through practical steps, like making two simple lists to separate what’s truly yours from what’s not, and how to start letting go of guilt when you say no or set boundaries.

Inside this episode:

• Why overcommitment is not a badge of honor, but a recipe for burnout
• How to shift from feeling responsible for everyone to being accountable for yourself
• The power of “autonomous accountability” -- focusing on what you can control and letting go of the rest
• How to handle negative emotions like guilt and anxiety without letting them run your life
• Real-life examples and mindset shifts you can use right now to reclaim your energy and peace of mind

Ready to stop feeling like you have to fix everything for everyone? Hit play and start practicing the mindset shifts and boundaries that will actually help you thrive in your legal career and your life.

Want more support?

• Book a free 20-minute call to talk about your burnout challenges. www.heathermillscoaching.com
• Download my free guide: 7 Reasons You’re Not Burned Out and Are Totally Fine, You Swear
• Follow me on Instagram and LinkedIn for regular tips and support

Full Show Notes, Episode Transcript, Plus More Resources for Women in Law:

03 How to Stop Feeling Responsible for Everything and Everyone
https://www.heathermillscoaching.com/blog/03-how-to-stop-feeling-responsible-for-everything-and-everyone

Stuck in constant overdrive?

Discover why your stress response never shuts off, how the Lawyer Stress Cycle keeps women attorneys burned out, and what actually helps you finally relax – without leaving your legal career.

If you’re a high-achieving woman in law who feels like you can never truly unwind, this episode is for you. We’ll break down why even tiny tasks feel overwhelming, how chronic stress rewires your brain and body, and why it’s not your fault. You’ll learn the three hidden drivers of the Lawyer Stress Cycle: hypervigilance, negativity bias, and self-criticism, and why women lawyers are especially vulnerable.

Here’s what you’ll get in this episode:

• A candid look at why your body can’t fully relax, even when the workday is over
• Real-life stories from lawyers who feel stuck in survival mode
• The science behind why your brain is wired to see threats everywhere (and how law makes it worse)
• The specific mindset shifts and body-based tools that actually work to calm your stress response
• Three practical strategies you can use right now to start breaking the Lawyer Stress Cycle, reclaim your energy, and feel more in control

You’ll walk away knowing:

• Why chronic stress isn’t a personal failing, but a natural response to the pressures of law and gendered expectations
• How to turn down the volume on your stress response without quitting your job or sacrificing your career
• Simple ways to increase positive thoughts about yourself and reframe challenges as manageable, not catastrophic

Ready to stop feeling like you’re one tiny task away from breaking?
Hit play and learn how to exit the Lawyer Stress Cycle for good.

Want more support?

• Book a free 20-minute call to talk about your burnout challenges. www.heathermillscoaching.com
• Download my free guide: 7 Reasons You’re Not Burned Out and Are Totally Fine, You Swear
• Follow me on Instagram and LinkedIn for regular tips and support

Full Show Notes, Episode Transcript, Plus More Resources for Women in Law:
 

02 The Lawyer Stress Cycle:  Why Your Body Can’t Fully Relax (And What to Do About It)
https://www.heathermillscoaching.com/blog/02-the-lawyer-stress-cycle

Working harder is the trap that keeps women lawyers burned out.

Discover why doubling down only deepens exhaustion, and what actually leads to real recovery. If you’re tired of feeling like it’s never enough no matter how much you do, this episode is your permission slip to break the cycle.

Let’s get brutally honest about why the “just work harder” approach is a dead end for women in law. You’ll hear the real story of Sarah, a law firm owner who tried to outwork her burnout until her body and mind forced her to stop. 

We dig into the beliefs that keep you stuck, like tying your value to productivity, or thinking you have to be everything to everyone, both at work and at home. These beliefs aren’t just exhausting – they’re so deeply ingrained most of us don’t even realize we’re running on them, and they’re at the root of chronic stress, self-criticism, and that relentless sense of “never enough.”

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why the “just work harder” strategy backfires for women lawyers
• The hidden, gendered beliefs fueling burnout (and how to spot them)
• Sarah’s story: what happens when you try to outwork burnout, and what finally worked
• The first mindset shifts that make real burnout recovery possible
• Practical, doable steps to start reclaiming your energy and confidence

Key topics covered:

• How tying your worth to productivity keeps you stuck
• Why being “everything to everyone” is a recipe for exhaustion
• The cultural and gendered conditioning behind burnout in law 
• How to start challenging the stories you’ve been told about your value
• When and how to set boundaries and delegate (and why mindset comes first)

If you’re ready to stop running yourself into the ground and reclaim your career, your health, and your joy, hit play. This is the episode that challenges everything you’ve been taught about what makes you worthy -- and gives you a new way forward.

Want more support?

• Book a free 20-minute call to talk about your burnout challenges. www.heathermillscoaching.com
• Download my free guide: 7 Reasons You’re Not Burned Out and Are Totally Fine, You Swear
• Follow me on Instagram and LinkedIn for regular tips and support

Full Show Notes, Episode Transcript, Plus More Resources for Women in Law:

01 The Burnout Myth: Why Working Harder Won't Fix It
https://www.heathermillscoaching.com/blog/01-burnout-myth-why-working-harder-doesnt-work

Welcome to the Lawyer Burnout Solution podcast. 
If you’re a woman attorney feeling overwhelmed or close to burnout but want to stay and thrive in your legal career, this podcast is for you. Each week, host Heather Mills shares practical tools, strategies, and mindset shifts to help you manage stress, reclaim your energy, and feel more in control of your work and life. 

Tune in every Thursday for actionable advice tailored to the unique challenges women in law face.

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