In this powerful episode, Patricia Sokolich dives into one of the most difficult but necessary conversations — how to leave an abusive relationship when finances feel like a barrier. She breaks down the three types of abuse — physical, emotional, and financial — and explains how control and fear keep many women trapped. Patricia shares practical steps women can take to regain their independence, protect their children, and find safety, even when financial limitations make leaving seem impossible.
What You Will Learn in This Episode:
The three main types of abuse and how to identify them
Signs of financial control and how it traps victims
Realistic steps for leaving when money feels like a barrier
How to seek legal protection and support safely
The role of divorce coaching in planning a safe and structured exit
Emotional and community resources available to survivors
00:00 – Introduction to the topic and why many women stay in abusive relationships
02:45 – Understanding the three main forms of abuse: physical, emotional, and financial
05:10 – Signs of financial control and what financial abuse looks like in a marriage
08:40 – What to do if you can’t afford to leave and how to start saving safely
10:30 – When and how to seek shelter or police support
13:00 – How divorce coaching helps women plan a safe exit
15:40 – The importance of emotional support and breaking the cycle of abuse
18:50 – Resources and legal steps women can take without hiring a lawyer
20:10 – Words of encouragement: why you should never give up
By Your Side: Divorce Law and Support is a podcast for women navigating the uncertainty of divorce. Hosted by Patricia Sokolich, a family law attorney with more than 30 years of experience and a certified divorce coach, the show blends legal insight with compassionate guidance. Each episode offers practical tools on financial preparation, custody considerations, and choosing the right attorney—while also addressing the emotional challenges of leaving a marriage. Whether you’re just beginning to wonder if divorce is right for you, preparing for mediation, or rebuilding afterward, this show provides clarity, confidence, and support every step of the way.
If you or someone you know is in danger, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233 or text BEGIN to 88788 for confidential support.