Zara + Elina are finally BACK and recording from the South of France, where the rosé is cold and the grief is hot.

In this *very* personal episode, Zara opens up about returning to her mother’s favorite place without her, the “unhinged stage of grief,” and why loss can leave you with zero tolerance for small talk. Zara and Elina get into the difference between boundaries and low emotional capacity, why the truth can calm your nervous system even when it hurts, the cruelty of ghosting, and jealousy versus intuition.

PLUS: Elina has a South of France lesbian sleepover and must decide whether to tell her, “I think you’re cute.”

Come for the heartbreak and stay for the grief privilege, fabulous/chic storm-outs and Mediterranean lore.

The Lesbian Breakup Podcast is sponsored by Jägermeister, supporting queer nightlife and LGBTQ+ spaces all year long through Save the Night. For listeners 21+. Please drink responsibly.

This week, as per usual, The Lesbian Breakup Podcast is reporting from two very different lesbian frontiers: Elina’s finally back in ~Brooklyn~ after undergoing a cinematic reunion with an old lover in Miami, and Zara’s in the crystalline waters of French Polynesia and ~Hawaii~ having a mermaid rebirth (grief is strange, babes).

Elina recounts reconnecting with the ex who once moved to Saudi Arabia, accepting a little princess treatment at the World Cup, and realizing that sometimes the most grown-up ending isn’t a breakup—it’s evolving from lovers to friends.

Meanwhile, Zara swims with sharks, gets humbled by a boogie board, sheds her hair extensions, and slowly begins to feel joy after years of survival mode.

We yap about unavailable lovers, the safety of long-distance fantasy, writing people back into existence, and the strange, beautiful moment when grief finally makes room for laughter.

Plus: a very special announcement about our August break and our upcoming reunion in the South of France.

This week, Elina Street and Zara Barrie are joined by BaZi and Feng Shui expert Jessica Oros — former film industry insider turned Chinese metaphysics specialist and founder of Feng Shui for the Soul—for a ~deep dive~ into BaZi, the ancient art of the Four Pillars of Destiny.

Jessica breaks down what everyone’s been buzzing about: the Year of the Fire Horse.

Spoiler: it’s a year to move fast, trust your gut, and be radically authentic (the fire puts a spotlight on everything, so hiding isn’t an option, darling).

We get into:

What the Fire Horse year actually means (beyond the memes)

*The five elements (wood, fire, earth, metal, water) and what they reveal about your personality, relationships, and career

*A month-by-month energy forecast for the rest of 2026 from the gentle goat of July to the spectacular fire monkey of August and the big rat-horse clash coming in December

*Why your birth chart is like an onion—and what your partner’s chart can tell you about who they are behind closed doors

The ideal episode for us queers to quench our thirsts when it comes to readings, charts, and astrology.

Book a session with Jessica at Feng Shui for the Soul and remember to feel it all.

https://www.getfengshuiforthesoul.com/

In this week’s episode, hosts Elina Street and Zara Barrie are joined by Elina’s best friend, the one and only award-winning writer-director Erica Rose. Erica and Elina also co-created the Emmy and GLAAD Media Award-winning docuseries The Lesbian Bar Project.

What was supposed to be a breakdown of breakup scenes in lesbian film turns into something way better: a deeply honest, hilarious, and moving conversation about the romance of queer friendship, the difference between passion and true intimacy, rejection sensitivity, love addiction, and why depth and vulnerability are the ultimate superpowers. We break down what true intimacy looks like and why it can be so much *scarier* than lust and passion.

We get into the origin story of Elina and Erica’s friendship, which begins, naturally, with a bag of sex toys and a tumble up the stairs. Erica and Zara wind up giving relationship advice to Elina, and this episode quickly becomes the unofficial therapy session of our wildest best-friend dreams.

This episode is funny, raw, real, and DEEP.

Come feel it all with us.

This week on The Lesbian Breakup Podcast, Zara and Elina are joined by writer, professor, former podcast co-host, and Zara’s platonic life partner, dayna troisi.

What begins with tube-top-gate (it was actually underwear), giant strap-ons, failed threesomes, and lesbian chaos quickly becomes something much deeper: a conversation about friendship, divorce, self-medicating, codependency, chosen family, and the relationships that teach us what love is not supposed to feel like.

We talk about the marriages that almost swallowed us whole, the friends who carried us through heartbreak (sometimes literally, in wheelchairs), and why the right relationship should feel more like hanging out with your best friend than escaping from your life.

It’s funny. It’s messy. It’s super raw. And it’s one of our most personal episodes yet.

Feel it ALL with us.

Happy Pride, darlings.

In this Pride Month special, Zara Barrie and Elina Street swap cautionary tales from Prides past, including breakup relapses, ex-girlfriend run-ins, disastrous fashion choices, and questionable rainbow accessories.

Along the way, they discuss the emotional chaos of Pride, the unique experience of seeing exes in the wild, why Brooklyn and Manhattan lesbians can sometimes be wildly different species, and whether Los Angeles is actually less judgmental than New York.

Plus: Pride survival tips for newly-out lesbians, first-time Pride attendees, queer late bloomers, and anyone wondering how to navigate LGBTQ+ community spaces without losing their phone, their friends, or their mind.

Topics include: Pride Month, lesbian culture, LGBTQ+ community, queer nightlife, lesbian breakups, ex-girlfriends, coming out later in life, Brooklyn Pride, NYC Pride, LA Pride, queer friendship, lesbian dating, Pride mistakes, and surviving your first Pride.

Because sometimes Pride is liberation. And sometimes it’s relapse sex, heatstroke, and a rainbow bowtie.

Welcome to episode 9 of The Lesbian Breakup Podcast.

This week, after emotionally detonating ourselves in last episode’s grief spiral, we decided to offer both you AND ourselves a tiny reprieve. So naturally, we did the only logical thing: rank the formative gay experiences that turned us into lesbians.

From Cleopatra to Gia, summer camp intensity to devastating dark friendship betrayals, France to suburban America, Elina and Zara each reveal the top five moments that made us realize, in increasingly dramatic fashion, “Oh. I’m not straight at ALL.”

Then, because we are deeply unwell and extremely opinionated list-lovers, we *merge* our lists together into one definitive shared Top 5 Lesbian Awakenings ranking.

This episode is funny, nostalgic, slightly heartbreaking, deeply revealing, and painfully earnest in the way only youth can be. A chaotic little trip down memory lane full of yearning, cinematic gay drama, and baby lesbian confusion.

Come feel it all with us! Available on ALL platforms.

Co-hosts Elina Street and Zara Barrie are *finally* back together and feeling it all…

What happens when grief becomes a privilege? On this week’s episode, recorded on Zara’s 40th birthday, we get deep on grief, loss, and the unexpected clarity that comes after everything burns down. Zara opens up about what it meant to be a full-time caretaker for her mother, the surreal “business of death” that nobody warns you about, and why the silence after loss can feel both terrifying and like the first real breath you’ve taken in months.

We talk about grief brain, the friends who show up and the ones who don’t, and why giving people space is not always the gift you think it is. We also get into grief privilege; the idea that knowing loss lets you into a different playground entirely, one where things that used to matter suddenly don’t, and the things that do matter become unshakeable. Whether you’re navigating a breakup, losing a parent, processing a friendship that fell apart, or just trying to find yourself on the other side of something hard — this one is for you.

Grab a tissue, and know that you are not alone, and remember to feel it all. Crying is sexy.

Every other Tuesday. We love you and thank you so dearly for your support.

AVAILABLE ON SUBSTACK, SPOTIFY, AND APPLE PODS.

In this raw, unfiltered episode, Emmy-winning director and co-host Elina opens up about navigating rejection (professional and romantic), writing a love letter that never arrived, and why she’s still hung up on someone she probably shouldn’t be.

But this isn’t a spiral, it’s a Virgo’s dream, a well thought-out list that will especially help if you’re currently healing from a situationship.

Elina breaks down her 10 Rules for Avoiding a Bad Lesbian Breakup: from situationships that were never actually casual, to why saying “I love you” too soon is an oxytocin trap, to the one question she now asks herself before tolerating anything — would I let a friend get away with this?

Plus: the bag of rice theory of relationships, why first impressions are everything, and what it actually means to own yourself on a Friday night.

Zara is dearly missed — we will be back together very soon.

🎙️ All are welcome. Because no one understands heartbreak like a lesbian.

This week, we’re breaking the format.

It’s your Lesbian Breakup Podcast cohost, Zara Barrie and I’m going solo for an intimate, no-filter episode. But *don’t* worry, the brilliant and enigmatic Elina Street will be back next week.

In this episode, I open up about what it’s been like caretaking for my mother in the final stages of hospice, and how living this close to loss has completely reshaped the way I think about love, heartbreak, and what actually matters in this crazy, whirlwind life.

I answer your questions about relationships and breakups, share the most iconic advice my mother has passed down to me (that I’m so honored to pass down to you), and reflect on the haphazard, complicated, VERY human ways we survive the most harrowing chapters of our lives.

I’m talking growth—real growth—the kind that’s not pretty or “aesthetic.” The kind of evolution that’s non-linear, complicated, and f*cking messy. I’m talking about letting go of victim mentality and turning our pain into our purpose. And yes, of course, I wax poetic about my own slew of screw-ups in love, life, and sex.

I’m grieving. I’m raw. I’m not sugarcoating a damn thing. This is the realest you’ll ever get me, darlings.

If you’re in the mood for something intimate, unpolished, and RAW—this one is for you.

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