I, Dr. Tim Carey, Mental Health Trainer offer a perspective on the difficulty people face when letting go of past events. I believe that individuals often think they can't let go, but when questioned, they often reveal that, in reality, they don’t want to. I posit that there is always a reason, no matter how impractical it may seem, for holding onto these experiences. Understanding this underlying motivation is crucial, as letting go naturally happens when the need to hold on fades. I emphasize that we are generally good at letting go of things that don't matter, and when we struggle to do so, it signals that the issue still holds significance for us.

• Explore the reasons for holding on; there's always a personal significance, even if it seems irrational.
• The source of the problem may be the internal conflict of wanting to let go but also wanting to keep it.
• Noticing what you haven't let go of signals that it still holds importance for you.
• Letting go happens naturally when you no longer need to hold on to it.