The Light Inside

The Light Inside

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  • Decoding Narcissism: Healing from Toxic Relationship Patterns

    Explore the often misunderstood world of narcissism with guest therapist Shannon Petrovich on The Light Inside. Discover the signs of narcissistic abuse, the impact of toxic relationship patterns, and strategies for healing. 


    Gain insights on navigating the fine line between love and manipulation in narcissistic relationships. 


    Key Topics of Discussion:


    Toxic Behaviors in Narcissistic Relationships


    • Love bombing, gaslighting, and devaluing are toxic behaviors commonly seen in narcissistic relationships. 
    • Love bombing involves overwhelming a partner with excessive affection and praise to manipulate and control them. 
    • It is crucial to recognize that love bombing is a manipulative tactic, not genuine love. 
    • Gaslighting manipulates a partner's perception of reality by denying their experiences, leading to confusion and self-doubt. 
    • Devaluing undermines a partner's self-worth through criticism and belittlement, aiming to exert power and control.


      • We explore why healing from narcissistic relationships involves healthy ego development, rebuilding a sense of self, setting boundaries, and prioritizingconscious-care. Understanding the difference between healthy esteem and narcissism is crucial.


      Tune in to uncover the truth behind these complex dynamics and find a path to healing.


      Timestamps:


      [00:00:23] What does narcissism really mean?

      [00:06:20] Narcissistic partner dynamics.

      [00:09:39] Toxicity in relationships.

      [00:15:18] Trauma bonding in relationships.

      [00:19:20] Love Bombing and Healthy Boundaries

      [00:22:22] Trauma bonds and relationships.

      [00:25:40] Gut instinct vs. intuition.

      [00:29:27] Narcissistic manipulation tactics.

      [00:33:43] Narcissistic behavior warning signs.

      [00:39:11] Self-sabotaging behaviors in relationships.

      [00:42:06] Rebuilding sense of self.

      [00:46:47] Embracing stillness and nature.

      [00:50:35] Narcissism and self-esteem discussion.

      [00:56:14] Embracing richness of emotions.

      [00:58:25] Emotional Intelligence and Narcissism.

      [01:03:00] Setting boundaries for safety.

      [01:08:05] The fog of abuse.

      [01:10:30] Rebuilding sense of self.

      [01:15:01] Gaslighting and its origins.

      [01:19:15] Narcissistic traits in our culture.

      [01:23:06] The thin gray arc of complexity.


      Featured Guest: 

      Shannon Petrovich

       

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      Credits:


      Music Score: Epidemic Sound


      Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker

      Mixing, Engineering, Production and Mastering: Aloft Media

      Executive Program Director: Anna Getz


      1 hr 24 min
    • Heroes: A Tribute To Courage
      Heroes.
      Are they born - or made? They touch our hearts, fill us with admiration, and make us reconsider our world view. As we look at the plethora of superhero movies these days and you can see how much our society values and loves its heroes.
      -Just what makes certain people take heroic actions in the face of great danger?
      According to the Heroic Imagination Project (HIP), a non-profit organization that focuses on teaching people to become heroes in their everyday lives, heroism involves a behavior or action on behalf of another person or for a moral cause.
      While many of us cower to the challenge of fear, heroes, those in the truest sense - rise to serve others. Beyond our conceptualization of superpowers, exceptional talent and true ability -lies something other. Genuine courage in the compassionate discernment of a loving heart. A love that sacrifices all - so that others may themselves rise again, to see another day.
      We set aside the coming weekend to honor and thank our veterans, let us be mindful that we should do this every day of the year and not just this one. As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter the words; but to live by them .
      In honor of those whose sacrifices have been many, we take this week to pause … and hold reverence.
      As you enjoy the love and leisure of family friends and acquaintances this weekend. May we fondly remember those who gave it all, so that we may continue to see the coming light of a new day.
      To our active duty friends, service people and veterans. To all who served, sacrificed and especially to those who gave their lives — their all. A most sincere ‘thank you’ from all of us at The Light Inside Community. Because of you we may each enjoy this time to ourselves- a time of reflection and relaxation. May we always hold you in our hearts, and never forget.
      Credits:
      Musical Score by Epidemic Sounds
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      Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker
      Mixing, Engineering, Production and Mastering: Aloft Media Studio
      3 min
    • The Transformative Power of Gratitude in Challenging Times

      This episode of The Light Inside reflects on the power of gratitude in the face of challenges, such as surviving a devastating tornado. The host, Jeffrey Besecker, expresses deep appreciation for the safety of their community and the support received during the aftermath.


      The Light Inside revisits a conversation with author Steven Crane about how gratitude helps us move beyond cynicism. Despite challenges like severe weather and prolonged power outages, the podcast will return with a new episode next week, thanking listeners for their ongoing support and encouraging them to embrace gratitude in their lives.


      Steven shares his personal journey of confronting his own cynicism through the lens of gratitude, inspired by a poignant question from his teenage son. His book, "I Can Appreciate That," explores the transformative power of reevaluating life's challenges to uncover hidden blessings and lessons.


      We discuss the nuanced definitions of appreciation and how it can evolve from mere acknowledgment to a deep, value-enhancing gratitude that enriches our lives and those around us. Steven's insights into relationships and their pivotal role in personal growth and understanding are particularly enlightening.


      This episode is a reminder of the strength found in gratitude and the profound impact it can have on our perspective and interactions. 


      Time stamps:


      [00:00:02] Gratitude and resilience.

      [00:04:50] Overcoming negative thought patterns.

      [00:08:38] The power of appreciation.

      [00:13:06] Embracing friction and fuel.

      [00:17:31] Overcoming challenges with spina bifida.

      [00:19:40] Embracing uniqueness and challenges.

      [00:24:10] The idea of discernment.

      [00:28:33] The power of relationships.

      [00:33:26] The power of relationships.

      [00:37:03] The impact of relationships.

      [00:39:14] Gratitude is a gateway to grace.


      Featured Guest: 

      Steven Crane

       

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      Credits:

      Music Score: Epidemic Sound

      Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker

      Mixing, Engineering, Production and Mastering: Aloft Media

      Executive Program Director: Anna Getz


      41 min
    • Embracing Imperfection- A Holistic Approach to Overcoming Perfectionism
      Explore the origin of the word "OK" and embrace imperfection in this episode of The Light Inside. Join holistic coach Cristina Bonnet as she delves into the factors behind chronic perfectionism and offers insights on embracing a more free-flowing and healthy perspective of excellence.
      In this enlightening episode of The Light Inside we had the pleasure of diving deep into the concepts of perfectionism and healthy excellence with holistic coach Cristina Bonnet. Our discussion explored the nuanced differences between compulsive perfectionism and the pursuit of masterful excellence, providing listeners with insights into how they can lead more fulfilling and balanced lives.
      Timestamps:
      [00:00:31] The origin of "OK."
      [00:05:01] Exploring cultural aspects in psychology.
      [00:08:28] Cultural revolution of striving.
      [00:15:48] Zodiac personality traits.
      [00:18:31] Authenticity versus staging.
      [00:24:16] Somatics and spiritual alignment.
      [00:27:33] Perfectionism in Every Area
      [00:33:54] Healthy excellence.
      [00:36:53] Pursuit of healthy excellence.
      [00:44:37] Nervous system regulation and cohesion.
      [00:46:37] Window of tolerance.
      [00:51:33] Holistic approaches in therapy.
      [00:57:52] Consciousness and inquiry.
      [01:02:36] Embracing imperfection in perfectionism.
      [01:03:42] The impact of sleep levels.
      [01:08:58] Broadening perspectives on tolerance.
      [01:13:25] The middle way.
      [01:21:11] Letting go of perfectionism.
      [01:24:18] Moving away from perfectionism.
      [01:27:39] Rhythms of activity and rest.
      “The Birth of OK” —What began as a lame joke in a Boston newspaper morphed into one of the most ubiquitous expressions in the English language
      Featured Guest: 
      Cristina Bonnet
       
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      Credits:
      Music Score: Epidemic Sound
      “Rough Around The Edges” - j. besecker © 2024
      Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker
      Mixing, Engineering, Production and Mastering: Aloft Media
      Executive Program Director: Anna Getz
      1 hr 37 min
    • Building Confidence and Balance: Innovative Martial Arts Techniques for Neurodivergent Children

      In today’s enlightening episode, we had the pleasure of speaking with Josh George, a sixth-degree black belt martial arts instructor who has dedicated over 30 years to teaching martial arts. Josh has innovatively applied his expertise to assist neurodivergent individuals, particularly children, by developing a martial arts curriculum that focuses on enhancing proprioceptive and vestibular pathways.


      Josh shared his journey of how he began working with neurodivergent individuals about 20 years ago, initially feeling out of his depth but gradually gaining insight into the unique needs of these students. He emphasized the importance of understanding and developing the lesser-known internal senses such as proprioception, vestibular, and interoceptive senses, which play a crucial role in how individuals interact with their environment.


      This episode not only shed light on the innovative approaches to supporting neurodivergent individuals but also underscored the profound impact that tailored physical education can have on their lives. Josh’s dedication and innovative methods offer a fresh perspective on the potential of martial arts as a powerful tool for empowerment and inclusion.


      For anyone interested in understanding more about neurodiversity, sensory integration, and the potential of martial arts in therapeutic settings, this episode is a must-listen.


      Featured Guest: 

      Josh George

       

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      Credits:

      Music Score: J.Brian Besecker

      “Dangerous Line” © 2024

      “Fortitude” © 2024

      “Today’s Wine (Is Tomorrow’s Tequila)” © 2024


      Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker

      Mixing, Engineering, Production and Mastering: Aloft Media

      Executive Program Director: Anna Getz


      1 hr 28 min
    • Building a Solid Sleep Routine for Health and Longevity: ABC’s of Healthy Sleep Pt. 2
      In this episode of The Light Inside, host Jeffrey Besecker delves into the crucial topic of sleep and its impact on our health with neuroscientist and sleep research expert Chelsie Rohrscheib. 
      They explore the staggering statistics of sleep disorders globally and the significant long-term effects of sleep deprivation on overall well-being and longevity. 
      Chelsie highlights the importance of building a solid sleep routine focusing on consistency, regularity, quality, and quantity to promote optimal health. Tune in to discover valuable insights on overcoming sleep procrastination and prioritizing quality sleep for a healthier life.
      Key Points:
      Consistency, regularity, quality, and quantity are essential factors for achieving quality sleep, as discussed in the podcast episode.
      1. Consistency: Maintaining a consistent sleep schedule is crucial for regulating the body's internal clock, known as the circadian rhythm. Going to bed and waking up at the same time every day helps the body anticipate and prepare for sleep, leading to better overall sleep quality.
      2. Regularity: Establishing a regular bedtime routine can signal to the brain that it is time to wind down and prepare for sleep. Engaging in calming activities before bed, such as reading or listening to relaxing music, can help create a sense of routine that promotes better sleep.
      3. Quality: Quality of sleep refers to the depth and restfulness of the sleep stages experienced throughout the night. Factors such as reducing exposure to blue light before bed, creating a comfortable sleep environment, and practicing relaxation techniques like meditation or controlled muscle relaxation can contribute to improving sleep quality.
      4. Quantity: The recommended amount of sleep for adults is typically 7 to 9 hours per night. Ensuring that you get enough sleep each night is vital for your overall health and well-being. Lack of sleep can lead to a range of health issues, including cognitive decline, cardiovascular disease, and mental health disorders.
      Timestamps:
      [00:01:28] The cost of sleep procrastination.
      [00:05:21] Sleep apnea rising quickly.
      [00:09:45] Signs of sleep apnea.
      [00:14:32] Healthy communication in relationships.
      [00:19:13] Reading for better sleep.
      [00:22:50] Controlled muscle relaxation.
      [00:25:32] Purposeful sleep deprivation technique.
      [00:29:12] Sleep affects everything.
      Featured Guest: 
      Chelsie Rohrscheib
       
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      Credits:
      Music Score by Epidemic Sound
      Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker
      Mixing, Engineering, Production and Mastering: Aloft Media
      Executive Program Director: Anna Getz
      31 min
    • A Good Night’s Rest: The ABC’s of Healthy Sleep

      Explore the importance of sleep and its impact on our physical and mental health in this episode of The Light Inside. 


      Join neuroscientist and sleep expert Chelsea Rohrscheib as she delves into the ABCs of a solid sleep routine. 


      Discover how healthy sleep habits can help us wake up feeling rejuvenated and ready to take on the day. 


      Tune in to learn more about the crucial role of sleep in our overall well-being and how to cultivate habits that promote mental clarity amidst the distractions of modern life.


      Key Points:

      • The Importance of Sleep Hygiene
      • Circadian Rhythms and Their Role in Regulating Sleep
      • Healthy Sleep Protocals
      • Three Pillars of Good Sleep Quality
      • QQRT and Quality Sleep Assessment
      • How To Establish Healthy Habits of Sleep Consistency 
      • Nutritional Factors for Quality Sleep
      • The Impact of Technology on Sleep Patterns and Sleep Disruption
      • Environmental Factors Influencing Sleep
      • Stress and It’s Impact on Sleep
      • The Importance of Non-sleep Deep Rest and Mediation
      • Exercise and sleep habits


        • Timeestamps:

        [00:02:00] Importance of healthy sleep habits.

        [00:04:16] Three pillars of good sleep.

        [00:08:27] Circadian rhythms and sleep habits.

        [00:13:42] Maintaining a consistent circadian rhythm.

        [00:15:48] Importance of light stimulation.

        [00:20:26] Ideal sleep environment.

        [00:27:24] Excess sugar and inflammation.

        [00:29:04] The impact of diet on sleep.

        [00:33:03] Gastric reflux in the U.S.

        [00:37:55] Acid reflux and gut health.

        [00:41:54] Dietary aids for quality sleep.

        [00:46:51] Melatonin and sleep quality.

        [00:49:28] Tech's impact on bedtime procrastination.

        [00:53:54] Cortisol and dopamine balance.

        [00:58:08] Non sleep deep rest.

        [01:00:51] Ideal exercise timing.


        Featured Guest: 

        Chelsie Rohrscheib

         

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        Credits:

        Music Score by Epidemic Sound

        Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker

        Mixing, Engineering, Production and Mastering: Aloft Media

        Executive Program Director: Anna Getz

        1 hr 6 min
      • Synesthesia and Self-Perception: A Colorful Insight

        n this thought-provoking episode of The Light Inside, we dive deep into the fascinating world of human psychology, ego processes, and synesthesia with our guest, Heather Eck. We begin by drawing parallels between the traits of ravens and the human psyche, discussing how these birds reflect our own intelligence, wisdom, and duality.


        As we navigate the complexities of the ego, we consider how it can be both a hindrance and a source of insight, depending on our perspective. 


        Our conversation then shifts to the mystical and cultural significance of ravens, touching on their roles as messengers, tricksters, and symbols of transformation across various traditions. We explore how these birds embody adaptability and resilience, serving as guardians and guides in both the physical and spiritual realms.


        Heather Eck brings a unique perspective to the discussion with her experience of synesthesia, a condition where sensory perceptions overlap, creating a vivid and colorful world that most of us cannot perceive. We delve into the implications of synesthesia on understanding our processes of ego and gaining new insights into our personal perspectives.


        We examine the role of art as a therapeutic tool and how it can sometimes serve as a coping mechanism rather than addressing underlying emotional issues.



        Timestamps:


        [00:02:57] Ravens in mythology.

        [00:07:12] Synesthesia experience exploration.

        [00:10:11] Our notions of color.

        [00:14:41] Processing emotions through art.

        [00:18:06] Life complexity and simplicity.

        [00:22:08] The concept of ego versus spirit.

        [00:27:29] The impact of morning routines.

        [00:29:06] Authenticity in a digital age.

        [00:33:31] Embracing personal artistic style.

        [00:38:56] Layers of human consciousness.

        [00:42:52] Spirituality and self.

        [00:45:18] The concept of higher self.

        [00:50:37] Guilt and tension in chakra.

        [00:53:17] Mind-body-spirit connection.

        [00:56:41] Mirroring for self-reflection.

        [01:03:09] Understanding energetic boundaries.

        [01:05:47] Layers of human complexity.

        [01:10:25] Embracing fear and authenticity.

        [01:13:24] The battle between ego and spirit.

        [01:19:44] Relationships and business dynamics.

        [01:22:01] Understanding the roles of ego.

        [01:27:39] Working with the ego.

        [01:29:48] Life's pie-eating contest philosophy.


        Featured Guest: 

        Heather Eck

         

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        Credits:

        Music Score by Epidemic Sound

        Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker

        Mixing, Engineering, Production and Mastering: Aloft Media

        Executive Program Director: Anna Getz


        1 hr 32 min
      • Friday Shorts No. 1 - Reflecting on Self and Others: Overcoming Inner Narratives and Misjudgments

        Exploring the intricacies of human perception and judgment, this episode of The Light Inside unravels how we often form opinions about others based on limited information and personal biases.


        Through introspective narration, the host challenges listeners to look beyond surface impressions and preconceived notions, emphasizing the complexity and uniqueness of each individual.


        Tune in to unravel the layers of conscious reflection and societal conditioning that influence our understanding of others and ourselves.


        00:00:00 - Introduction to Conscious Reflection
        00:00:11 - Encountering Others
        00:00:22 - Public Figures and Perceptions
        00:00:32 - Judging the Unfamiliar
        00:00:53 - The Fog of First Impressions
        00:01:04 - Crafting Mental Storylines
        00:01:15 - The Uniqueness of Individuals
        00:01:26 - Judgments Based on Appearances
        00:01:36 - Inner Narratives and Misjudgments
        00:01:47 - Self-Perception and Projection
        00:01:58 - Parataxic Distortion Explained
        00:02:09 - The Impact of Mental Shortcuts
        00:02:20 - Misunderstandings from Distortions
        00:02:30 - The Importance of Knowing Others
        00:02:51 - Challenging Misconceptions
        00:03:03 - Closing Remarks and Gratitude


        Credits:

        Music Score by Epidemic Sound


        Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker

        Mixing, Engineering, Production and Mastering: Aloft Media

        Senior Production Manager: Anna Getz

        4 min
      • Reframing Emotional Triggers: A Journey to Healing and Empowerment
        Explore the impact of psychological triggers on our perceptions with trauma recovery coach Joe Ryan in this episode of The Light Inside.
        Learn how to reframe emotional triggers in a more empowering way to navigate life's challenges.
        In this episode of The Light Inside, host Jeffrey Besecker revisits a conversation with trauma recovery coach Joe Ryan about the role of psychological triggers in shaping our perceptions. They discuss reframing emotional triggers in a more empowering way.
        This episode delves into how our reactions and resistance can influence our stories and perceptions. While the team takes a break for spring, listeners are encouraged to explore this insightful discussion.
        Key Topics Discussed:
        emotional triggers and trauma
        Setting boundaries
        Moving beyond blindspots
        Time stamps:
        [00:02:51] Emotional triggers.
        [00:04:50] The evolving definition of trauma.
        [00:10:26] Little T trauma and its impact.
        [00:12:38] Enmeshment in relationships.
        [00:18:09] Evolving past emotional processing.
        [00:20:51] Moving towards authorship and ownership.
        [00:24:20] Setting boundaries when triggered.
        [00:28:42] Self-discovery through desire and self-acceptance.
        [00:31:17] Self-sabotaging beliefs and trauma.
        [00:36:18] Childhood trauma and healing.
        [00:40:35] Blind spots as learning opportunities.
        [00:43:39] Overcoming fear and shame.
        [00:46:27] Discovering Personal Belief Systems.
        [00:50:08] Emotional maturity and self-acceptance.
        [00:54:41] Embracing deep emotional experiences.
        [00:56:48] Trauma recovery program details.
        Featured Guest:
        Joe Ryan
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        Credits:
        Music Score by Epidemic Sound
        Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker
        Mixing, Engineering, Production and Mastering: Aloft Media
        Senior Production Manager: Anna Getz
        59 min

      About The Light Inside

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      The Light Inside Podcast helps clinicians and trauma-informed practitioners sharpen formulation before intervention begins. We explore why clients are not simply stuck, but adapting to context—through cue-based patterns, relational predictions, state shifts, adaptive functions, and implicit emotional, somatic, and relational data.