Waiting for someone to text back so you can finally feel okay? That's not about them — that's about you.

In this episode,

Lama breaks down why you keep outsourcing your worth to other people's actions, how to identify the thoughts behind the anxiety, and how to shift into a confidence that no one can take from you.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/tyy6xqKlptY?si=K4a8wzAwfLKpgjEj

Having doubts about someone doesn't mean they're the wrong person — it means your brain is doing exactly what it's supposed to do.

In this episode,

Lama breaks down why doubt is a normal part of getting to know someone, what to do when the "what ifs" feel overwhelming, and how to tell the difference between real deal breakers and your brain just trying to keep you safe.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/ysxsUerNKxU?si=hu7upIl6jjlwQCjl

Detachment doesn't mean giving up — it means stop letting marriage determine your worth.

In this episode,

Lama breaks down what it actually means to detach from the outcome, why needing marriage so badly is the very thing pushing it away, and how to go after what you want from a place of peace instead of panic.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/vM2XI-M_XXs?si=nPZVVeiDS1h6mFw9

Everyone is carrying a secret pain that no one else will ever fully understand — even the people who look like they have it all together.

In this episode,

Lama talks about why that loneliness exists, why getting married won't make it go away, and how channeling that pain to Allah is the greatest gift you can give yourself.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/pewIs6WekUg?si=_NLtS3UZLD8VUabf

If you're constantly struggling to find someone attractive or connect with anyone, it might not be about them — it might be the fear of getting stuck.

In this episode,

Lama breaks down how the fear of settling is quietly blocking you from actually connecting with anyone, what settling really means, and why finding someone you want to struggle with is the whole point.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/FUsMmPPG99E?si=pZn_l4TlJHG2YAQO

Still struggling to feel physically attracted to someone who checks every other box?

This episode picks up where part one left off.

In this episode,

Lama breaks down why nitpicking on someone's looks is usually about your own insecurities — and how learning to see yourself as worthy, flaws and all, is what actually opens you up to real attraction.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/SPU84E7seI0?si=rYfam515JqfxNQAK

Physical attraction is important — but your mind might be blocking you from seeing it clearly.

In this episode,

Lama breaks down why your standards of attractiveness are often rooted in insecurity and outside noise, how to tell the difference between genuine incompatibility and self-sabotage, and when it's okay to simply let someone go.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/mPIQkoIBQrQ?si=1zprRM44YG9J-ltV

Before you can find the right person, you need to understand what's actually driving your search....and for most people, it's a wound, not a desire.

In this episode,

Lama breaks down the three things every human needs to feel — loved, safe, and significant — and why looking for a spouse to fill those voids is what's keeping you stuck in the first place.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/nsbCiQDb9xg?si=QDZoKG9lSN8eBvRG

There's a lot of noise out there about a "marriage crisis", and it's making things worse, not better.

In this episode,

Lama gets real about why fear and scarcity thinking are the biggest things blocking you from getting married, and why the only foundation that actually works is faith in Allah's power over your own logic.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/qqrCX179Nzs?si=MCuOtY-AxoYRrZpS

Most people think they know what they want in a spouse,

But do they really?

In this episode,

Lama breaks down how to figure out what you're actually looking for, the difference between being picky and being intentional, and how to stop letting ego-driven standards block you from finding the right one.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/g0VWdwlQhAI?si=ve8HdP7xXUVxCzno