Feeling like you can't find anyone attractive? It might not be about them at all — it might be the pressure you're carrying.

In this episode,

Lama breaks down how internal and external pressure quietly shuts down your ability to connect and feel attracted to someone, and what it actually takes to show up relaxed, open, and ready to let someone in.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/-kBS6VFEuy0?si=caeYn-YnnqnkwNyh

A lot of people aren't actually looking for marriage — they're looking to feel chosen. And that one difference changes everything.

In this episode,

Lama gets honest about why the search feels so exhausting, what it means if you'd stop wanting marriage after a certain age, and how to figure out whether you're chasing a companion or chasing validation.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/4pKdvdeCLAo?si=kXELiHlZfBGGvrRD

You've been making dua — but something still feels off. This episode is about why.

In this episode,

Lama breaks down the one thing most people are missing when they ask Allah for a spouse, and why your dua feels watered down when you're more focused on what seems impossible than on what Allah is actually capable of.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/Y5rWQq8XKrw?si=Zm_pgb1EBYVW6IIA

What if the way Allah sends your spouse looks completely different from what you imagined?

In this episode,

Lama talks about how rigid expectations around age, race, divorce, status, height, and “types” can block genuinely beautiful marriage opportunities.

She breaks down the difference between core values that matter — like deen, character, and emotional safety — versus preferences that may be rooted in ego, fear, or societal pressure.

If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re protecting your standards or limiting yourself from the marriage you’re praying for, this episode is for you.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for coaching and resources.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/9JdD_ADJsSI?si=xr4jRrEDEKwXDuQ1

Should I keep going or let it go? If you're constantly second-guessing yourself, you might not have a decision problem — you might have a trust problem.

In this episode,

Lama breaks down the four types of decisions you'll face when getting to know someone, how to tell the difference between your gut and your fear, and how to finally trust yourself enough to move forward.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/cjCWfazCeXk?si=bAgsVWtFnb5dOf-V

Afraid of what might happen if things don't work out? That fear isn't about the outcome — it's about what you're afraid it will mean about you.

In this episode,

Lama breaks down why uncertainty feels so scary in relationships, how to identify what you're actually afraid of, and how to build the kind of inner confidence that lets you show up fully no matter what happens.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/eyKreXUjx1A?si=oGj-jmZm5mstDez_

Getting married isn't just about finding the right person — it's about becoming someone who can actually receive and give love without conditions.

In this episode,

Lama breaks down the real inner work that leads to a healthy marriage, why your capacity to love someone else is directly tied to how much you accept yourself, and what it truly means to show up ready.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/W2xHuyCOk2E?si=HNegovm5ZeiI57q2

You want to get married, but every time someone good comes along, you get the ick and run. Sound familiar?

In this episode,

Lama breaks down the fearful-avoidant attachment style — the push and pull, the self-sabotage, and why you keep attracting emotionally unavailable people. If you've ever felt torn between wanting love and being terrified of it, this one will finally make it make sense.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and resources to help you heal and find the love you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/cBE8NOrUFoI?si=yzLQMEx1VI3UaGuq

If you've been telling yourself you'll be ready for marriage once you fix this one last thing — this episode is for you.

In this episode,

Lama breaks down why over-healing can actually be a form of avoidance, why you don't need to be perfect to deserve love, and why you are fully lovable right now — flaws and all.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/2po-vVAxXS8?si=GjA2t8nOIzbimE_D

Every time you tell yourself it's probably not going to happen, you're failing a test you don't even know you're taking.

In this episode,

Lama breaks down how the search for a spouse is actually a spiritual test of conviction — and why believing in what Allah can do for you, over what your fears tell you, is the only thing that actually moves things forward.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/DlI55brD7IM?si=cYMMcM56sTS5jVQ2