You've spent 90 days getting to know someone — now comes the hardest part. Do you say yes or no?

In this episode,

Lama breaks down how to make the decision to move forward with someone without the fear of getting it wrong, what settling actually looks like versus normal human imperfection, and how to say no quickly and respectfully when you know it's not right.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/-F3ORu4tfcE?si=90ree7h7-Xid9t_Q

You've matched with someone — now what?

Most people either rush in emotionally or drag things out indefinitely. This episode gives you the actual plan.

In this episode,

Lama breaks down how to approach the talking stage with intention, why the 90-day process works, and how to stay focused on finding your person instead of getting lost in whether they like you.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/9qpVKkORCPw?si=Xp5sxzdVE-_Hwypy

You've been putting the pressure of every single want and need onto one person — and that's part of why the search feels so impossible.

In this episode,

Lama breaks down what a "want match" actually is, how to get clear on what your spouse genuinely needs to have versus what you can build into your life another way, and why spreading out your needs is what makes you actually ready for a healthy marriage.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/l5Vp6I3wXPM?si=WAXdS3FZAqF-bjDS

You can't find the right person if you don't know what you actually value — and most people are searching based on surface-level checklists that have nothing to do with what actually makes a marriage work.

In this episode,

Lama breaks down how to identify your core values, why living those values is the best screening tool you have, and how to look past how things show up to find what actually matters underneath.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/anDor2-MOAo?si=7oLpdQORojrVpZue

The reason you keep showing up the same way in relationships isn't bad luck — it's the story you've been telling yourself without even realising it.

In this episode,

Lama breaks down the three categories of beliefs that are quietly running the show — what you think of yourself, what you think of the opposite gender, and what you believe Allah can do for you — and how identifying and challenging those stories is what finally changes everything.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/iRjvMwAsyP0?si=LdP3AS5CX3uP1o76

Every person you meet is either your spouse or someone else's — and when you truly understand that, the whole process changes.

In this episode,

Lama breaks down the exact mindset you need to keep going through rejections and disappointments without giving up, why the people who get married are simply the ones who don't stop, and how to make your dua from a place of conviction instead of fear.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/lm4ClQgXlCc?si=LM_wNCDgbu6Ks407

Before you can find the right person, you need to get honest about why you actually want to get married — because if your reason is off, everything else will be too.

In this episode,

Lama breaks down why the subconscious reasons most people are chasing marriage are quietly sabotaging them, and what a grounded, intentional why actually looks like, so you can go through this process without falling apart every time something doesn't work out.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/ANvE6BmmAqw?si=BzpMILucOO-7crbT

This is the beginning of something different.

In this intro episode, Lama launches the Decoding the Marriage Process series — a structured, A to Z guide on how to actually go about finding your spouse with intention, clarity, and the inner work that makes it all stick. If you've been watching and feeling inspired but not knowing where to start, this is your starting point.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/I3J5rilRI_8?si=jJfMhb-qs8GveBGQ

The fear of settling is keeping more people single than almost anything else — and most people don't even have the right definition of what settling actually is.

In this episode,

Lama breaks down what settling really means, why the obsession with finding the perfect person is actually a fear of being seen as inadequate, and how learning to accept human imperfection is what actually leads to a healthy marriage.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/DgqMs9UyNUw?si=hxlMipYXJihXxTDf

Perfectionism in the search for marriage doesn’t always look obvious — sometimes it looks like “working on yourself” while secretly believing you have to earn love first.

In this episode,

Lama talks about the painful cycle of trying to become perfect to feel worthy of love, the difference between growth and shame, and why Allah never asked you to be flawless to deserve love.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube →

https://youtu.be/ZRSzuX1N5DM?si=rU6M4Q9www_lrlOw