The reason you keep catching feelings for the wrong person may have less to do with them—and more to do with the beliefs you're carrying about yourself.

In this episode,

Lama explores why we become attached to people who aren't right for us, how situationships begin, and how the need for validation can quietly influence who we choose and what we find attractive.

Ready to go deeper?

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They're a good person, their values align, everything checks out — but you're just not physically attracted.

Sound familiar?

In this episode,

Lama breaks down why instant attraction isn't the standard, how social media has completely warped what we think we should find attractive, and why learning to stay curious instead of dismissing someone too quickly might be the shift that changes everything.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/0Ja1odtMrJc?si=RZ0hzDB7dRdWDMeR

After everything, the mindset work, the values, the talking stages, it all comes down to this.

In this episode,

Lama closes out the series with the most important reminder of all: none of the practical work matters without conviction in Allah's power. Your dua, your submission, your trust — that is the final step.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/U8ubLP3KUew?si=lJCK9CpEZoNkGvKp

What if the problem isn't that no one checks the boxes — but that you don't know how to open up once they do?

In this episode,

Lama breaks down the skill of actually learning to love another human being, why the "boring" consistent ones are often the right ones, and how getting curious instead of dismissive is what creates a real bond.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/yITQzRBlA98?si=Tg5qSkbwkC1fnupL

You might be getting in your own way without even realising it.

In this episode,

Lama breaks down the most common self-sabotaging patterns — from anxious people chasing the wrong ones to avoidants running from the right ones — and how to catch yourself in the moment before you ruin something good.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/HUZwmhKVAhU?si=ZlEZdouaQO5XBDta

There's a big difference between needing marriage and wanting it — and that difference changes everything about how you show up.

In this episode,

Lama breaks down what it actually looks like to come from a place of desire instead of desperation, and why getting to that sweet spot is what makes the whole process feel lighter and leads to better decisions.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/9So3TXEYL8c?si=ANLu4fr-mPkcVuJO

You can't find your person if you're not putting yourself out there — but how you show up matters just as much as where.

In this episode,

Lama breaks down how to use the apps the right way, how building a genuine community creates the conditions for Allah to send your person, and why showing up as your best self is the most powerful thing you can do.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/vs4ku3QIFVo?si=jfA0Z5EvkKskTFEI

This journey is going to have high moments and really low ones — and knowing how to navigate both is what keeps you from giving up before you get there.

In this episode,

Lama talks about how to grieve the expectations that didn't come true, why letting yourself feel the lows is actually what opens you up to the highs, and how to keep making dua with conviction even when nothing seems to be moving.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/n0SPYYXe8HI?si=ohQewEIkaFLxuZH_

Why are you attracted to the ones who barely text back — and bored by the ones who actually show up? That's not chemistry. That's your attachment style running the show.

In this episode,

Lama breaks down anxious and avoidant attachment, how each one shows up when you're getting to know someone, and why understanding your patterns is what finally helps you stop sabotaging the good ones.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/IICJOTLLUUE?si=hdSIdtbDeMoBVHK-

There are two ways you can show up when getting to know someone — from your authentic self or from your ego. And the difference determines everything.

In this episode,

Lama breaks down how to tell which one is driving you, why the ego makes the whole process harder than it needs to be, and how to get back to your most grounded self so you can actually see clearly whether someone is right for you or not.

Ready to go deeper?

Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.

Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/lNFBHAY2eAk?si=EFILGSp0B-2apVCu