In this episode Aaron sits down with marriage expert Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages, to talk about the heart behind lasting marriages—and why love must be expressed with humility, grace, and the attitude of Christ.

Drawing from over 60 years of marriage, decades of pastoral counseling, and the lessons that shaped his life’s work, Dr. Chapman shares how early conflict in his own marriage led him to a transformative encounter with God that forever changed the way he loved his wife. Together, Aaron and Gary explore how love languages can heal—or harm—when used incorrectly, and why serving your spouse must always come before trying to change them.

This episode also introduces Dr. Chapman’s newest book, The Love Language That Matters Most, which goes deeper into the dialects of love languages, personality differences, and the dangers of using love as manipulation instead of sacrifice.

In this episode we discuss–

• Long-term marriage faithfulness
• Biblical foundations for loving your spouse
• Servant leadership in marriage
• Avoiding manipulation through love languages
• Why humility changes everything in relationships

Connect with Gary Chapman:

• Love Language Assessment
• The Love Language That Matters Most

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