It's a pretty weird time to be dating. Even so, Love U members are meeting wonderful, highly motivated men, even during this pandemic. So how can you tell if a guy is keeping busy or stringing you along until he finds someone he likes better? Check out this Love U Podcast to get clear on whether your quarantine crush has long-term potential.



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It's a pretty weird time to be dating. Even so, Love U members are meeting wonderful, highly motivated men, even during this pandemic. So how can you tell if a guy is keeping busy or stringing you along until he finds someone he likes better? Check out this Love U Podcast to get clear on whether your quarantine crush has long-term potential.

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Hey, this is Evan Marc Katz, the best dating coach for smart, strong, successful women and your personal trainer for love.

I coach an exclusive group of women who are serious about gaining confidence, setting boundaries, and making better relationship choices that lead to lasting love. 

So the story I'm about to tell you might as well be a microcosm of every baffling guy story ever. So pay really close attention. I'm going to tell you how to tell if a man is serious about dating during this coronavirus crisis. And really, it's not that hard to tell. 

So story. I got a buddy. He's one of my last remaining single friends. I love him to death. We'll call him Charlie. Charlie is 53. He's never married. He has what's known as an avoidant personality, which means he's a super guy, sweet, funny, successful, solid guy. He really wants intimacy, but he tends to be afraid of it when he gets too close. He tends to pull away. Those guys drive women crazy and he drives me crazy. He's my flakiness friend. I know if I make plans with him half the time, he's going to bail and reschedule. Factor in that he travels for a living and dating him has to be really tough. 

But the story really isn't about my friend or why you should or should not date him. This is a story about how easy it is to tell if a man is into you and is serious. So I'm on the phone. We're catching up on Zoom because that's what we do during these times. And he's telling me about his love life. He's asked me about my family. And he was explaining a phenomenon that I'm sure you've seen. 

There are guys who really want to date right now, and some of them are terrible and like they're still looking for dick pics and hookups and stuff like that. But there are some decent guys out there and they're discovering that it's difficult to sustain momentum at a time that we're locked down. 

And so he's telling me, "Yeah, I'm talking to women and I'm on Bumble.

You ever go out on an incredible date? The connection was real, the chemistry is intense, and you feel like you just met someone with real long-term potential? Of course, you have. But what usually happens afterward? Look at your history and you'll see: there's virtually no correlation between an amazing first date and a successful long-term-relationship.



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You ever go out on an incredible date? The connection was real, the chemistry is intense, and you feel like you just met someone with real long-term potential? Of course, you have. But what usually happens afterward? Look at your history and you'll see: there's virtually no correlation between an amazing first date and a successful long-term-relationship. Check out this new Love U Podcast video to see what you SHOULD pay attention to after your next great first date.

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Hey, it's Evan Marc Katz, Dating Coach for smart, strong, successful women and your personal trainer for love.

Today, I'm going to share one piece of advice that will instantly shift the way you look at dating. It's so simple. You won't believe that you didn't think of it yourself.

Now, before we get to that, let's talk about what usually happens on a date.

If there's this guy and you don't feel that much chemistry with, you find all the reasons in the world to not see him again. He's too short. He's too fat. He's too bold. He's too eager, too negative, too sensitive, too talkative, too quiet, too something. And you leave the date feeling like you'd probably have to have like six beers to consider kissing him. And then when he follows up with you the next day, you cringe at how needy he seems. You don't want to have to talk yourself into going out with the guy and you shouldn't.

Now, let's flip that around.

Go on a date. He's cute, funny, charming, confident, successful. Just the right amount of nice guy and bad boy. And you are hooked. Now that you're hooked, you magically lose the ability to think critically. If the guy texts you a week later, you're OK with it. If the guy texts you to come over late at night, you'll go to his place or at least highly consider it. The guy continues to text you sporadically week after week, month after month. You still give him the benefit of the doubt.

Why?

Because chemistry like this is so very rare. You're not going to do anything to ruin it.

You'll do whatever it takes to keep it alive, even if it means ignoring things like effort and boundaries to the next thing you know, you're sleeping with the guy once a week for three straight months and he's still shown no interest...

Longtime readers know about my friendship with Lori Gottlieb. Lori...

Longtime readers know about my friendship with Lori Gottlieb. Lori dated my roommate, got me my book agent, and we even wrote a sitcom script together before I coached her through writing "Marry Him: the Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough" back in 2010. Eight years since the book's release, it holds up as a cautionary tale for women in their 30's who want to have their own biological kids. In today's Love U Podcast, I catch up with the author who is a single mom, therapist, and one hell of a writer.

Eli Finkel wrote perhaps my favorite relationship book of 2017,...

Eli Finkel wrote perhaps my favorite relationship book of 2017, The All Or Nothing Marriage, which talks about how the best marriages have gotten stronger while the rest of marriages have gotten weaker. Not only is it a really powerful and instructive book for single women looking for the ultimate relationship in the 21st century, but this is definitely one of my favorite Love U Podcasts ever. Enjoy.

I’m not the only guy who gives dating advice to...

I'm not the only guy who gives dating advice to smart, strong, successful women. In fact, my good friend, Dr. Ali Binazir, is the author of an incredible book called The Tao of Dating. And when I say "incredible," I mean, I kind of wish I wrote it. Anyway, join me for today's Love U Podcast with Ali, who is one helluva smart and interesting interview.

 

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