The Made Leader

These Friday episodes are dedicated to casual conversations about real life. Your host, Jen Arnold, aims to share what she does to get through hard times but also wants to put podcast guests' advice into practice.

In this real talk episode, Jen pulls out a helpful strategy from this week's podcast interview and shares 7 questions you can use to reflect on 2022.

During the pandemic nearly 2.5 million women left the workforce and 1 in 3 mothers were considering leaving or downshifting their career. Being a working mom comes with penalties and biases, many subtle and easy to present as "concern" for the woman.

With working moms making up 32% of all employed women in 2018, we need to take a closer look at the bias they experience in the workforce.

Podcast guest, Erica Ballard, Life Coach for Women Who Work, walks us through the horrific stats of the uphill battle working moms face, including motherhood penalties and biases.

Not only are working moms 100% less likely to be promoted but they earn $11,000 less than their childless peers and fathers.

Erica offers a strategy to tease out bias and provides ways to be your own advocate at work. She also reveals the mental shift she made and how she decided she's playing a different game where she writes the rules.

Key Highlights:

• 1 in 3 women are considering leaving or downshifting their career and 2 in 5 new moms will leave the workforce
• Losing a mom within the first year of motherhood will cost a company $92,000.
• 75% of expectant mothers are excited to return to work but 43% of them end up leaving.
• Examples of "motherhood penalties" – 79% less likely to be hired, 100% less likely to be promoted, and make on average $11,000 less than their childless peers or fathers.
• Maternal wall bias: people believe you are less committed and as a result, less competent at work.
• Bias can be subtle such as assuming new mothers will check out when they come back to work or not offering them new projects (none of which is discussed directly with the woman).
• Maybe you don't want the promotion. What do you want your life to look like?
• Ask for some reviews (even if it's off-cycle) to understand what your employer needs and/or expects from you. This can also help you understand where there is some bias.
• How women can be their own champions – determine what you want your like to look like, who do you have to be to be and show up as that person. You may have to switch jobs or careers (but do the internal work first).
• Do it your way and go have fun as you do it. Everything is made up.

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These Friday episodes are dedicated to casual conversations about real life. Your host, Jen Arnold, aims to share what she does to get through hard times but also wants to put podcast guests' advice into practice.

In this real talk episode, Jen pulls out a helpful strategy from this week's podcast interview and shares a way she reframes challenging situations.

When we think of abusive relationships, our minds often jump to physical violence. But a more subtle form of abuse that's harder to recognize is emotional abuse.

Emotional abuse occurs in toxic relationships and includes non-physical behaviors that are meant to control, isolate, or frighten you. This type of abuse may not get recognized at the start of a relationship and can leave you feeling confused, frustrated, or even like you're in the wrong.

Toxic relationships, whether it's with a partner, parent, friend, or co-worker, can be tricky to identify. How do you know if you are in a toxic relationship?

Podcast guest, Stephanie Sarkis is a psychotherapist specializing in anxiety, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, and ADHD, who helps us sort out this question and much more.

In this episode, Stephanie walks us through the different stages of toxic behavior, where it originates, and who's most vulnerable. She offers red flags of toxic workplaces, actions toxic people take to manipulate others, and how to deal with them.

Finally, Stephanie gives advice on how to handle the holidays with toxic family members.

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Exhaustion is one of the leading causes of performance decline and eventual burnout among people today. Most people don't realize how many facets of rest they're missing out on and it's keeping them depleted.

Podcast guest, Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith, says that rest is not about the cessation of activity, but about doing restorative activities – things that help fill you up and make you able to do your best work.

Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith is a physician, speaker, and author of her book Sacred Rest. She is an international resource on wellness expertise and has been featured in media outlets such as MSNBC, Prevention, and the Dr. Oz Show to name a few.

In this episode, Saundra shares her personal experience with burnout and what made her start researching the 7 stages of rest. She explores each type in depth, and shares ideas of how to restore them.

Lastly, Saundra discusses how important boundaries are in staying rested and the necessity of getting comfortable saying no.

These Friday episodes are dedicated to casual conversations about real life. Your host, Jen Arnold, aims to share what she does to get through hard times but also wants to put podcast guests' advice into practice.

In this real talk episode, Jen talks about her own relationship with alcohol and the steps she's taken to get more mindful when she does partake.

When things get stressful, painful, or just hard, it's easy to lean on alcohol to get us through. Recent statistics revealed that 25% of US adults increased their drinking during COVID.

So, how do you know what's an acceptable level of drinking versus a problem? That's what guest, Dr. George Koob, Director of the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (NIAAA) is here to discuss.

In our conversation, George walks us through what happens in the brain when we numb emotional pain with alcohol, both the immediate benefits and the many downsides. He defines what's acceptable vs. problematic drinking and how you can evaluate your relationship with alcohol.

George offers steps on how to cut back on drinking and ways to still fit in socially without a drink in your hand. Finally, he shares the story of his mother's alcohol use disorder and offers ways to help those you love who may struggle with alcohol.

For show notes and links mentioned, visit: https://bit.ly/GTIPodcastNotes

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These Friday episodes are dedicated to casual conversations about real life. Your host, Jen Arnold, aims to share what she does to get through hard times but also wants to put podcast guests' advice into practice.

In this real talk episode, Jen walks through five things to consider when you are dealing with a boss that doesn't quite live up to your expectations.

Work can be stressful enough but what happens when your boss is not just a poor leader but toxic? A toxic boss is not only a bad boss but also a bad human being who thrives on humiliating their employees.

It's easy to get trapped working for a toxic boss but chances are, they're there for the long term. How do you know you're working for a toxic boss, and more importantly, how do you leave one?

Mary Abbajay, president of Careerstone Group, LLC, a full service organizational and leadership development consultancy, is here to explain what happens when you work for a toxic boss. Mary explains the difference between a bad boss and a toxic one, how these bosses survive in organizations, and what happens when you work for one.

She walks through how you can get stuck working for a toxic boss, the toll on your health, and how to quit one. Mary also tells us her story of working for a toxic boss and what happened when she quit.

For show notes and links mentioned, visit: https://bit.ly/GTIPodcastNotes

To sign up for 2 Tip Tuesday, visit: https://bit.ly/2TipTuesday

2 Tip Tuesday is a weekly email that break down podcast episodes into practical resilience tips you can put into action straight away.

These Friday episodes are dedicated to casual conversations about real life. Your host, Jen Arnold, aims to share what she does to get through hard times but also wants to put podcast guests' advice into practice.

In this real talk episode, Jen walks through four questions to help you reframe your failure.