What if the problem isn't that you need to achieve more—but that you're chasing achievement in the first place? Dr. Martin Mendelson, founder of Metamorphosis Coaching and former Spear Education resident faculty member, has worked with thousands of dental professionals who are working harder every year but not moving forward. In his groundbreaking book "One Move Makes All the Difference," he reveals a startling truth backed by research on 275,000 people worldwide: satisfaction and happiness don't come from achievement, but from the people you're with and the journey that got you there. This changes everything for an industry built on achievement ladders—dental school, boards, first job, first practice—that leave practitioners asking "now what?" when they reach each rung. In this powerful conversation, Martin unpacks the concept of hedonic adaptation (why lottery winners spike in happiness then return to baseline), introduces the TEAM framework (thoughts drive emotions that create actions that manifest results), and reveals why dentists are 17 times more likely to take their own lives than the general population. If you've ever felt stuck, burned out, or wondered whether you hate dentistry or just hate certain things about running a practice, this episode will fundamentally shift how you think about success, fulfillment, and what truly moves the needle.
Dr. Martin Mendelson returns as the Marketing 32 Show's first-ever repeat guest to dive deep into his book "One Move Makes All the Difference"—a labor of love that readers say resonates on every single page. The foundation of Martin's work addresses a crisis in dentistry: professionals working harder every year but not moving forward, feeling stuck despite achievement after achievement. The problem, as Martin explains, is that dentists work IN their practices rather than ON them. The first "one move" is deceptively simple but profoundly difficult: schedule uninterrupted time to ask yourself where you want to go in the future, where you are now, and what needs to change to bridge that gap. If you don't have a vision of where you want to go, how do you expect to get there? It's like trying to book an airline ticket without knowing your destination. For those who genuinely don't know where they want to go, Martin offers an alternative: write out your ideal day in extraordinary detail—from waking up in your dream house to the types of cases you're doing in practice. When he revisited his own 2016 ideal day exercise in 2024, he was shocked by how many details had come true.
The deeper issue plaguing dentistry is rooted in what researchers call hedonic adaptation—the phenomenon where lottery winners experience a spike in happiness then return to their baseline level. Sean Acor's work in "The Happiness Advantage" introduced Martin to research involving 275,000 people worldwide that revealed a stunning truth: satisfaction and happiness don't come from achievement, but from the people you're with and the journey that got you there. This is devastating for an industry built entirely on achievement ladders: getting into dental school, graduating, passing boards, getting first job, buying first practice. The goalposts keep changing, and when you reach each milestone asking "now what?"—clinical depression can follow. The problem isn't achieving goals; it's focusing exclusively on achievement rather than enjoying the nights, weekends, blood, sweat, and tears that facilitate reaching those goals. Martin demonstrated this at the Seattle Study Club symposium when he told the audience he wasn't happy about being invited to speak—he was happy about the financial risk he took for certifications, the business risk of going full-time, and the nights and weekends spent learning that resulted in the invitation. That mindset shift evens out the manic highs and lows of achievement-focused living.
Martin introduces two powerful frameworks that transform how dental professionals approach life and leadership. TEAM is an acronym for Thoughts drive Emotions that create Actions that Manifest results—based on Victor Frankl's quote that between stimulus and response, there's a space where our freedom to choose lies. Everything that happens is neutral; it's your thought that gives it power. While TEAM is often linear, powerful stimuli can kick emotions or actions into motion immediately (like rolling your eyes at a late team member). The companion tool is NBCA: Notice you're getting squirrely in thought/emotion/action, Breathe and take a minute, Choose an action between your ears, then Act upon it. The secret: just because you think something doesn't mean you do it—choosing and acting are separate steps. For dentists who feel trapped or stuck, Martin's first diagnostic question is crucial: Is it dentistry you don't want to do anymore, or things IN dentistry you don't want to do? Often the answer isn't clinical—it's team management, payroll, ordering supplies, or administrative pressures. The flip side question matters equally: What did you do on days where you got home saying "damn, that was a great day"? How can you do more of that and less of the other? The statistics are sobering: dentists are 17 times more likely to take their own lives than the general population and 2-2.5 times more likely to suffer from anxiety, depression, and panic disorder. But as Martin powerfully reminds us: life is not a game of dominoes. Just because three crappy things happened this morning doesn't make it a bad day—unless you turn 20 minutes into 24 hours in your mind.
This episode is brought to you by Marketing 32—the only dental marketing team with a performance guarantee. You either grow or you don't pay. It's that simple. But as Dr. Mendelson powerfully illustrates in this conversation, Marketing 32 doesn't work with everybody—they're selective about who they partner with because sustainable growth requires more than just marketing. It requires strategic clarity about where you want to go, intentional actions aligned with your goals, and the right mindset to enjoy the journey rather than just chasing the next achievement. If you're ready to take your practice to the next level and you've done the work to know where you want to go, head over to marketing32.com, fill out a quick questionnaire, and schedule a discovery call to see if you're a great fit to work together.