The Mating Grounds Podcast

How much money do you need to be attractive to women? This is a question lots of guys ask, because they think having money is what women want, and for a good reason: consumerist culture has taught you that your value, your identity as a person, and your sexual ability is tied to the things you buy. The problem is that all of the actual empirical data says the opposite--women don't actually care that much about wealth (and when they do, it's in only specific situations). In today's episode, Tucker and Geoff discuss how much money you really need, and what actually matters to women.

Today’s guest is Dr. Heather Berlin, acclaimed researcher and neuroscientist, and Dr. Berlin and Tucker discuss exactly how guys can develop and retain good habits both in dating and in life. Dr. Berlin also talks about what it’s like to be an intelligent, beautiful, successful woman dating in New York City and the things she sees that guys do right and wrong.

A lot of guys think that once they have a girlfriend, all other women must immediately become unattractive to them, or they're morally bankrupt. That's not only silly, it's unnatural and unhealthy--for both partners. But on the other hand, if you have an intense desire to actually be with other women, you should examine whether your relationship is right for you. In this Q&A, Geoff, Nils & Tucker unpack all the issues that surround the "flirting with other women while in a relationship" question.

What's the difference between being assertive and aggressive? Assertiveness is attractive to women, aggressiveness is repellent to them, and it's extremely important to understand where the line is. In today’s Q&A, Tucker, Nils, and Carin explain what the difference is and what you need to know to find the right assertiveness balance to be attractive to girls.

Guys often think "small talk" is a meaningless waste of their time and don't understand why women want to engage in it. Small talk is not meaningless; like many things in mating, the real purpose is not what the surface meaning appears to be. Small talk is actually a critical part of a woman's assessment of a man, and in today’s Q&A, Tucker, Nils, and Carin explain why small talk is important, and give some tips to get better at it.

Should you be a nice guy or an asshole? This is the eternal question, and not only does the conventional wisdom (be the nice guy) get it wrong, but so does the contrarian position (just be an asshole). In this episode, Tucker and Geoff explain the science behind nice guy vs. asshole, what you should do, what women actually respond to, and how to do it in your life.

Our guest today is one of the manosphere's most influential and prominent thinkers: Jack Donovan, author of "The Way of Men." Most of our interviews are about how men can do better with women; this one is not like that at all. In this episode, we talk about his (excellent) book, about masculinity, and about other male-centered issues. If you’re interested in that stuff, you’ll love this discussion, but if you just want actionable information relating to women, you probably want to skip this one.

This is a question lots of young guys have: how do you turn a casual relationship into something more? Tucker, Nils, and Carin walk you through the steps to take a girl from casual to serious relationship.

You cannot change anyone, and trying to do that is a recipe for disaster. In this Q&A, a guy asks for advice on a specific situation, but instead, Tucker, Nils & Carin identify the larger issue--a guy trying to change a girl--and explain why this doesn't work, and how to avoid it, and what you should do if you find yourself trying to do this.

Male bisexuality is hard to deal with; both for men, and women. In this episode, a Mating Grounds listener asks how and when to be open about being bisexual, and Tucker, Geoff, and Carin talk through what options he has for addressing this fact with women.