Why do so many men wait until it’s too late to seek help?

In this episode of The Meaning of Men, I'm joined by public health expert Dr Dominick Shattuck to explore the real reasons behind the men’s health gap. From lower life expectancy to higher rates of suicide, cardiovascular disease and late-stage diagnosis, men consistently experience worse health outcomes—but the causes go far beyond individual choices.

Together, we unpack how structural barriers, healthcare design, and masculine norms all influence the way men engage with preventative care. This conversation dives into why men often avoid doctors, how early life experiences shape long-term health behaviours, and what needs to change at a systems level to improve outcomes.

You’ll also hear why meeting men where they are—through workplaces, sports, and communities—could be key to driving earlier intervention and better engagement.

This is a powerful, evidence-based conversation about shifting the narrative from blame to understanding, and building a more effective approach to men’s health.

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02:00: Why men’s health is more than individual choice

What if everything we think we know about male behaviour is only scratching the surface?

In this episode of The Meaning of Men I'm joined by Dr. Becci Owens, Head of Psychology at the University of Sunderland, to explore the deeper evolutionary forces shaping men, masculinity, and modern behaviour. From male competitiveness and risk-taking to status, relationships, and belonging, this conversation challenges mainstream narratives and invites a more nuanced understanding of what drives men today.

Drawing on evolutionary psychology, Dr Becci unpacks how unconscious biological and social mechanisms influence everything from adolescent behaviour to mate selection and fatherhood. Together, we explore why young men are drawn to risk, how status-seeking shows up in both destructive and prosocial ways, and why many boys today struggle with identity and belonging.

This episode is essential listening for anyone interested in male psychology, mental health, parenting boys, or understanding masculinity in a rapidly changing world. Expect thought-provoking insights, practical reflections, and a refreshing perspective that moves beyond surface-level explanations into the deeper “why” behind human behaviour.

Hear more from Dr Becci:

Instagram: @DrBecciO

University website: https://www.sunderland.ac.uk/about/academic-staff/rebecca-owens

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What does addiction actually feel like from the inside?

This week on The Meaning of Men I sit down with influencer and mentor Gary Mairs to explore addiction, sobriety, and the deeper emotional work required for lasting transformation. From a seemingly “normal” upbringing to years of alcohol dependency, Gary shares his raw and honest journey into addiction—and the pivotal moment that changed everything.

This episode goes beyond surface-level discussions of alcohol misuse. It dives into the psychology of addiction, the neurological grip of alcohol, and the cultural pressures that keep men trapped in destructive cycles. Gary unpacks how purpose, connection, and accountability became the foundations of his recovery, and why sobriety is about far more than simply “quitting drinking.”

Whether you’re struggling with alcohol, supporting someone who is, or simply seeking greater meaning and personal growth, this conversation offers profound insights into resilience, masculinity, and healing.

If you’ve ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or disconnected, this episode will challenge your thinking—and show you what’s possible on the other side of change.

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Hear more from Gary:

https://www.instagram.com/sobernsound?igsh=b3diOTVrdzFyYXln&utm_source=qr

https://www.patreon.com/cw/SoberNSound

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Why are men still dying by suicide at such alarming rates?

This week on The Meaning of Men we unpack the male suicide crisis and what’s really driving it with Dr Susie Bennett, one of the UK's leading researchers in this space. We explore the complex intersection of masculinity, mental health, loneliness, and emotional suppression—and why so many men feel unable to ask for help.

Drawing on cutting-edge research and lived experience, this conversation goes beyond statistics to reveal the deeper psychological and cultural factors behind male suicide. From the “empathy gap” to the pressure to be strong, successful, and self-reliant, we examine how societal expectations can leave men feeling isolated, ashamed, and disconnected.

Crucially, this episode also focuses on solutions. You’ll hear why connection, community, and redefining what it means to be a man are essential to preventing male suicide—and how we can all play a role in supporting the men in our lives.

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Website:malesuicideresearch.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/male_suicide_research/

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Could your brain be holding answers you’ve never accessed?

In this episode of The Meaning of Men, I'm joined by clinical and sports psychologist Santiago Brand to explore brain mapping, neuroscience, and personalised mental health.

We dive into how brain mapping (qEEG) reveals the root causes of anxiety, depression, burnout, and focus issues—moving beyond guesswork toward precision mental health. Santiago explains how understanding your brain activity can help tailor therapy, medication, and performance strategies to the individual.

This conversation also explores proactive mental health, showing why men often wait until crisis point—and how tools like neurofeedback, breathwork, and lifestyle changes can improve brain function, emotional regulation, and resilience.

If you’re looking to optimise performance, better understand your mental health, or reduce overwhelm, this episode offers practical insights grounded in neuroscience.

What brain mapping is and how it works

How it identifies root causes of mental health challenges

Why personalised treatment improves outcomes

The role of neurofeedback and brain training

Practical ways to support brain health daily

What if being an introvert isn’t a limitation—but simply a label you’ve learned to live with?

In this episode of The Meaning of Men, I down with Nick Shelton, author of An Introvert's Guide to World Domination, to explore confidence, introversion, and the powerful role identity plays in shaping our lives.

Nick shares his story of growing up shy and socially awkward, often feeling misunderstood at school and unsure how to navigate social situations. Instead of accepting those labels, he began observing confident people and breaking down their behaviours into simple, learnable steps.

Drawing on lessons from his time in the Air Force, Nick explains how complex personal challenges—like social anxiety or low confidence—can be tackled through small, deliberate actions.

This conversation explores how many men become defined by personality labels such as “introvert,” and how questioning those assumptions can unlock new possibilities for personal growth, connection, and resilience.

If you’ve ever felt held back by shyness, social anxiety, or the belief that confidence simply isn’t “who you are,” this episode offers a refreshing perspective—and practical tools to start changing the story.

Why personality labels like “introvert” can limit personal growth

How to build confidence through small, practical steps

The power of observing and modelling confident behaviour

Lessons from military training that apply to everyday life

How to challenge the identity stories holding you back

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Book: An Introvert's Guide to World Domination: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Introverts-Guide-World-Domination-Networker-ebook/dp/B08GDV7B4B/ref=sr_1_1?crid=KMAPPT6T12V0&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.IlGRyZIC2be9dgzVPV9i0c8Ph78cAJlcQa9JkLyjJr8._vDJArjgc68QswSwwL8Ri0GUx5BKVLM2RJ4a3wREFuw&dib_tag=se&keywords=the+introverts+guide+to+world+domination&qid=1773248876&s=digital-text&sprefix=the+introverts+guide+to+world+dominatio%2Cdigital-text%2C222&sr=1-1

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What if starting to treat depression was as simple as putting on a headset at home?

In this episode of The Meaning of Men, we're exploring the groundbreaking wearable technology backed by the NHS that’s transforming depression treatment.

Joining me is Kultar Garcha, a GP and chief medical officer at Flow Neuroscience, the team behind a wearable headset designed to treat depression safely from home. We unpack the science behind its success, where this fits alongside therapy and medication, and why it’s especially appealing for men tackling depression.

If you're searching for alternatives to antidepressants, innovative depression treatments, or ways to support men’s mental health, this conversation is essential listening.

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https://www.flowneuroscience.com/

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How can men start getting the most from therapy?

In this episode of The Meaning of Men I'm joined by Chris Hemmings. Chris is a former BBC journalist whose own struggles with grief, addiction and depression led him to retrain as a psychotherapist and build Men’s Therapy Hub — a platform connecting men with male therapists across the UK.

Chris explains that many men aren’t avoiding therapy because they don’t care — but because they fear judgment, being seem as weak, or being told they need to become someone they’re not. Together we start to explore some of these myths, what men really need from their therapists and how they can best show up to get the most from therapy. 

In this episode you will learn:

Why men often avoid therapy and how to overcome the stigma

The biggest misconceptions about counselling for men

How masculinity and emotional strength can work together

What to look for when choosing the right therapist

Why seeking help is an act of courage, not weakness

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What do boys and young men actually need from us right now?

In this episode of The Meaning of Men, I sit down with Lorraine Candy — journalist, editor and bestselling author — to explore what boys really need in today’s digital, headline-driven culture.

From emotional regulation and developmental vulnerability to social media, gaming and the “toxic masculinity” narrative, this conversation cuts through the panic and brings clarity to modern parenting. Lorraine explains why boys often lag behind girls emotionally, how media messaging distorts expectations, and why blanket bans on technology rarely solve the real problem.

We explore practical tools for raising emotionally healthy boys: setting boundaries with clear consequences, building connection through rituals, repairing ruptures after conflict, and meeting boys where they are — not where we think they should be.

If you’re parenting a son — whether he’s five or fifteen — and wondering if you’re getting it right, this episode offers grounded insight, reassurance and practical strategies to help boys grow into confident, compassionate and resilient men.

In this episode you will learn:

Why boys develop differently — and what that means for parenting

How media narratives shape fear around masculinity

Why connection beats control when setting boundaries

How to talk to boys about technology and influencers

The power of repair in strengthening your relationship

Disclaimer: Lorraine's advice is not specifically for anyone parenting neurodivergent teens or children with SEN. 

Hear more from Lorraine: 

Substack parenting newsletter: https://open.substack.com/pub/lorrainecandy

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Why are Black men in America living 13 years less than their healthiest counterparts?

In this episode of The Meaning of Men, I sit down with Professor Derek M. Griffith, leading public health researcher and global expert on Black men’s health, to unpack the crisis hiding in plain sight.

From life expectancy gaps and suicide rates to structural racism, economic inequality and the commercial determinants of health, this conversation explores why Black men’s health outcomes remain among the worst in the United States — and what can be done about it.

Professor Griffith explains why he prefers the term manhood over masculinity, how identity and societal expectations shape behaviour, and why men’s health is too often framed as an individual failure rather than a policy priority.

If you care about men’s mental health, health equity, masculinity, fatherhood, purpose, resilience, and social justice — this episode is essential listening.

In this episode you will learn:

Why the 13-year life expectancy gap for Black men exists

How structural racism impacts physical and mental health

The difference between masculinity and manhood — and why it matters

Why men’s health is overlooked in public policy

Practical policy shifts that could transform outcomes for Black men

Hear more from Derek:

https://prmh.nursing.upenn.edu/

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