The Menfulness Podcast

Trigger Warning - Eating Disorder/Self Harm/Bereavement

Content Warning - Swearing

Simon Long joins us for Part Two of the LONGest podcast yet and we're honoured to hear him speak. In this episode we learn about the breakfast club he’s running for us, as well as so much more of Simon’s story including why Menfulness is so important to him. It's a brave conversation and we touch on some triggering topics including eating disorders, self harm and bereavement, so bare that in mind before getting into this if you’ve got something going on right now. This is a really emotional one at times, but there’s also plenty of hope, we talk counselling, Mental Health First Aid and music, with all Simon’s 'For the Record' selections in here too.

Visit https://menfulness.org/podcast if you want to hear those playlists or apply to come on this podcast, we would love to hear your story too.

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LINKS

BEAT - UKs Eating Disorder Charity - https://www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk/

HELP FOR SELF HARM - https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/feelings-symptoms-behaviours/behaviours/self-harm/getting-help/

Donate to Poppy's Trust - https://www.justgiving.com/crowdfunding/poppystrust?utm_term=4gqBj8aGK

Diary of a CEO w/ Mel C - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dfzFFQgG2zU

Sigmund Freud - Theory of Psychodynamics - https://www.simplypsychology.org/psychodynamic.html

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Simon's For the Record:

Happy

Cat Burns - People Pleaser - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPWwfDHwACA

Harry Styles - Treat People With Kindness - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L0X03zR0rQk

Paul Simon - You Can Call Me Al - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uq-gYOrU8bA

Sad

The Lunar Year - Boys Will Cry - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pJnIkSpXEp0

Billy Lockett - Don't Be So Hard on Yourself - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7lTSt8GELQA

Marcus Mumford - You'll Never Walk Alone - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JoSsTXahPA8

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The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.

Trigger Warning - Suicide

Content Warning - Swearing

Simon Long joins us for part one of the LONGest podcast yet! Simon is a Menfulness expert. He’s been to pretty much all our events, runs a few himself and is an all round lovely chap. This turned into such a long one we decided to split it half! This first episode is going to be great if you’re interested in what we do, what our events are like or how to get involved as well as getting to know Simon. Please be aware we do talk briefly about suicide later in the conversation. We also hear a bit about Simon’s experience and start to learn about how he's now training to help others who are struggling too. Part 2 coming soon!

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LINKS

Donate to Poppy's Trust - https://www.justgiving.com/crowdfunding/poppystrust?utm_term=4gqBj8aGK

Dad Poem - https://youtu.be/h43xr9KR4sE

Menfulness MANual - https://menfulness.org/support/menfulness-manual/

Mental Health First Aid (Susan Butterfield) - https://mhfaengland.org/public-profile/?id=21d15b01-8ebd-e711-811a-e0071b664191

Matt Palmer Trust - https://mattpalmertrust.org.uk/

The Jordan Legacy - https://thejordanlegacy.com/

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Simon's Music

Cat Burns - People Pleaser - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uPkuTVQAIiM

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The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.

Trigger Warning - Bereavement

In this episode we learn from Professor Paul Galdas. He’s a professor of Nursing at the University of York who has spent most of his working life focused on improving men's access to healthcare. He’s currently got funding from Movember to work on research in Behavioural Activation for men in frontline roles in the NHS. We hear about his important work, talk about what it means to be man and what it’s like in the Movember Head Office in Australia. We also get to hear some of his story too. Like all of us do, he’s got his own experience of bereavement and mental health challenges and we’re honoured to have him share it all with us here, on the Menfulness Podcast.

The BALM Project (Behavioural Activation - https://balmprogramme.co.uk/project-details

Movember - https://uk.movember.com/

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Paul’s Links:

'Untold: Breaking Point' - Mardy Fish Documentary - https://www.netflix.com/gb/title/81026434

Children's Assumptions of Gender Roles - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G3Aweo-74kY

University of York's Mental Health Society - https://yusu.org/activities/view/mental-health-awareness-society

The Confidence Gap - Russ Harris - https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/9245232

The Compassionate Mind - Paul Gilbert - https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/6372017-the-compassionate-mind?ref=nav_sb_ss_1_23

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Paul’s For the Record:

Lady Blackbird - Woman - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8jcW5gGGcVk

The Lathums - Struggle - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KrDnjE_VENs

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The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.

Trigger Warning - Suicide/Eating Disorder

Content Warning - Swearing

Today we speak to one of our volunteers James Rickett. He runs our monthly Retro Gaming Night at The Crooked Tap as well as being global lead for anti-money laundering and sanctions compliance for the International Compliance Association. We talk about his important work, the impact he’s had on Menfulness and that Menfulness has had on him. We're grateful for how generous James has been with his story, he shares with us how he's battled with imposter syndrome, suicidal thoughts, losing people from his life and his own self image. We talk music, love and tips on making progress despite your struggles. It's an awesome conversation with an awesome human and we hope you enjoy it.

If you're experiencing suicidal thoughts you can call the Samaritans on 116 123 to talk about this - https://www.samaritans.org/ If you're in an emergency and your wellbeing is at risk you should call 999, if you're local to North Yorkshire you can call the NHS Crisis Team on 0800 0516171. These numbers are all open 24/7. There's people out there who care and are trained to for these conversations, please reach out.

Helpful Links:Beat Eating Disorders Charity - https://www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk/

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James’ Links:

James Rickett LinkedIn - https://uk.linkedin.com/in/james-rickett-fica-2390a5214

The Crooked Tap - https://thecrookedtap.com/

Retro Gaming Night - https://www.meetup.com/menfulness/

Make Your Bed Everyday - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KgzLzbd-zT4

James’ Music:

Drake - Best I Ever Had - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VWOc39wC5-8

Future - Wait For You - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rP09GUQFDFk 

Jenna Raine - See You Later - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NWgQ5WDBUyo 

Turin Brakes - Save You - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wupg6FzqYMM

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The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.

HELLO AND HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU! 

Thank you for joining us. We are grateful for every single one of you who tunes in to hear us speak our truth! We know it's not a happy new year for everyone. If you or someone you know is going through a rough time right now then get in touch via https://www.menfulness.org or come to an event via https://www.meetup.com/menfulness! 

We are absolutely stoked to have York rapper and producer Liam Kritikal Powers joining us for today's episode. It's an awesome conversation with a remarkable person and we cover social media, alcohol, bereavement, suicide and relationships. We also talk about music, hope, faith and the future. It's a great balance but please be conscious about where you're at right now and whether any of these topics might be difficult for you to get into. 

Huge thanks to Liam for sharing his story with us, but also for allowing us to use his music throughout this podcast. After you've finished please do go and check out his work using the links below!

Bandcamp - https://kritikal.bandcamp.com/music

All Hands on Deck Music Video - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Brfzug5MSJs

Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/artist/1QVidep2o6OOxSkMLRV26M?si=TmcBxppKR3e0odGpQp8Jow

Soundcloud - https://on.soundcloud.com/aGrT7

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kritikalpowersmusic/

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/kritikalpowers/

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https://inspiredyouth.org/

https://balmprogramme.co.uk/

https://www.lowermydrinking.com/

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Liam's - For the Record:

Mika - We Are Golden - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hEhutIEUq8k

Burna Boy - Pree Me - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rEgtltrAON4 

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The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.

Today we're grateful to have Mike Hewitt joining us. Mike is a founder of Menfulness as well as our treasurer. He comes to us today to talk about what Menfulness means to him, how he came up with the name and how it helps him with life's challenges. We also learn about how the relationships with his family and friends have helped make him the man he is today! (We also find out about what #FriendshipChemistry is and why Jack hates it so much!) We're so lucky to have Mike on the team and for him to share his story with us!

Ainsty Ales/Menfulness Alcohol Free - https://ainstyales.co.uk/products/copy-of-coming-soon-jewel-of-york-alcohol-free-pilsner-lager-0-5-12pk

Play Football York - https://weplayfootball.com/venues/york

Menfulness meets Darren - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rsgc2APvZUU

Lower My Drinking - https://www.york.gov.uk/health-wellbeing/cyc-health-trainers-3/2

Adrian Chiles The Good Drinker - https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/62965796-the-good-drinker

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Mike's - For the Record: 

Phil Collins - You'll Be in My Heart - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MfrX4IOjCz0

Lady Gaga - Hold My Hand - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O2CIAKVTOrc

Sam Fender - Spit of You - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xoODq7Ol1so

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Mike's - Content for Contentment: 

Shoot Annual 1997 - https://childrensbookshop.com/book-83484.html

The Alcohol Rethink Podcast - https://open.spotify.com/show/2Ud8662qj5Q45m5aeAUg9s

James Frey - A Million Little Pieces - https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/1241.A_Million_Little_Pieces

Family Man Movie Trailer - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SAI50GdruM8

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The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.

TW - Suicide

CW - Swearing 

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Today we're talking to Nick Sinclair. Nick is a Public Health Professional and a qualified Counsellor. He's also one of the stars of a new film which raises awareness of suicide called WHY (https://whysuicideprevention.co.uk/) brought to us by the wonderful folks at York Ending Stigma (https://www.yorkcvs.org.uk/york-ending-stigma/). 

Nick speaks calmly and honestly about subjects such as suicide, alcohol, social media and counselling. It's a positive conversation but as expected it gets heavy at times, so make sure you consider where your heads at before you get into this one. 

We didn't clarify on the recording but Nick's cats are called Cheetarah and Mumm-Ra The Everliving!  

For online training on suicide awareness: https://www.zerosuicidealliance.com/training & https://www.livingworks.net/safeTALK

For more on Kev and Scott from Inspired Youth who made the 'WHY' film: https://inspiredyouth.org/

For more on 121 Counselling: https://121counsellingyork.org/

For the Lower My Drinking Quiz: https://www.lowermydrinking.com/

For help with Alcohol and Drugs in York: https://www.york.gov.uk/AlcoholAndDrugsHelp

If you're experiencing suicidal thoughts you can call the Samaritans on 116 123 to talk about this - https://www.samaritans.org/ If you're in an emergency and your wellbeing is at risk you should call 999, if you're local to North Yorkshire you can call the NHS Crisis Team on 0800 0516171. These numbers are all open 24/7. There's people out there who care and are trained to for these conversations, please reach out.  

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The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.

TW - Suicide CW - Swearing * In this conversation I talk to Frankie Sewell, a member and supporter of Menfulness. Frankie kindly told us he was ready to share his story in the hope it might help others who are going through a tough time right now. His sage advice that 'This too shall pass' is something that runs through this conversation.  We talk honestly and openly about suicide and Frankie's journey and while it's an overall positive conversation and Frankie is in a good place right now, it is heavy and so please bear this in mind before listening if there's a chance it might trigger something for you. If you're experiencing suicidal thoughts you can call the Samaritans on 116 123 to talk about this - https://www.samaritans.org/ If you're in an emergency and your wellbeing is at risk you should call 999, if you're local to North Yorkshire you can call the NHS Crisis Team on 0800 0516171. These numbers are all open 24/7. There's people out there who care and are trained to for these conversations, please reach out.  Eat, Fast and Live Longer - https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b01lxyzc 

https://kravmaga-academy.co.uk/class/krav-maga-york/

* Frankie's - For the Record: Culture Club - Karma Chameleon - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JmcA9LIIXWw N-Joi - Anthem - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mDURChQ7w54 Adele - Someone Like You - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qemWRToNYJY Andrea Bocelli - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4L_yCwFD6Jo * Frankie's Contentment: Diary of a CEO - https://stevenbartlett.com/the-diary-of-a-ceo-podcast/ The Norse Mentality - http://www.norsementality.com/ * The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.