The Messy Part

We are taught to focus on what needs to improve instead of cherishing what feels good. On the season opener, Adeline and Linda decide that celebration lives in the small moments. They sit with how awkward it can feel to be seen and honored by themselves and their communities. They grapple with that discomfort, and determine that it’s still worthwhile to learn how they want to be celebrated. Gratitude is a dance worth learning. 

Mantra #21: May your small wins fill you deeply. I am worthy of celebration.

For Your Consideration: How do you like to be celebrated? Do you know how to celebrate yourself?

It is important to name the things that cause us pain. In this episode, Adeline and Linda wrap up season two. They talk about grief, easy joys, and how you can always get to know someone in new ways no matter how long you’ve known them. And isn’t friendship meeting ourselves over and over again?

They ask each other five questions: to share two truths and a lie, what they are currently grieving, what’s the best compliment they’ve ever received and they tell one another what they’ve been avoiding (what’s a little accountability between friends?). As they close season two, they honor grief. Everywhere we turn, there is always something, someone, or somewhere to grieve and its worth our time to do so. Recognizing that joy and pain are two sides to the same coin, their goal remains the same: to acknowledge and sit in the liminal space.

Mantra: Grieve as you need to.

For Your Consideration: What can you give yourself permission to grieve? What levity can grief offer you?

Shhh: Our poverty is showing. Sadly, Adeline & Linda are not perfect but at least they recognize when their thinking has to change?

On this episode, they work to disentangle their worth from their relationship to money and poverty. They acknowledge their scarcity mindset and wonder what abundance could look like. They talk about learning to align their rates with how much effort they’ve put in. They struggle with stepping out as the experts they’ve worked hard to become. Clearly it’s still a struggle. May ease, joy, proper compensation, and recognition find them soon.

Mantra: I am inherently valuable!

For Your Consideration: How loud is the doubt in your head? What would an abundant world look like? sound like?

What happens when your community sees you bigger than you see yourself? In this episode Adeline and Linda, show some respect for how far they’ve come in this life (almost 3 decades woah) They talk about what is currently bringing them joy. They lean into a new lesson: being seen for who they are becoming, which means coming up against their insecurities.

Messy Mantra #18: kindness is a tool worth sharpening.

For your consideration:

Who sees you bigger than you do?

Are they worth listening to?

We make mistakes so you don’t have to—case in point: burning out (you’re welcome!). In this episode, Adeline and Linda realize that burnout is a state of being, and they’re now choosing a different experience. They ask: how many times can someone be burnt out and not even know it? Because burnout sucks the fun out of everything.

This conversation is a perfect example of them processing something in real time. It’s unclear if they knew what burnout was, but by the end of the episode they definitely do. What you don’t see is them asking the internet “what’s the definition of burnout?” The internet gave them a starting point, but as we all know, lived experience is expertise.

Messy Mantra #17: You can choose a better experience

Choose awareness

Choose capacity

Choose slowness

Find homeostasis

Questions for consideration: Are you currently burnt out? When do you know you’re at or over capacity?

We tolerate more pain and abuse for ourselves than we would accept for our friends. (Huge deep breath) On this episode, Adeline and Linda finally talk about the relationships that made them resilient. They walk back down a path intentionally avoided and process their experiences, traumas, and lessons learned from unhealthy relationships. People have done some shitty things and Adeline and Linda have LET them (Yikes) but now they know a little more and have developed a backbone (Finally) (hint: not unscathed). They still believe it’s naive to think that you wont get hurt in a relationship. Pain is life. AND malicious intent is the devil’s work.

Messy Mantra #16: I am worthy of gentle love

I am worthy of safety

Know that you are loved even if you don’t love yourself

Question for consideration: If you've ever been in an unhealthy relationship of any kind what caused you to finally walk away?

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You have to put energy towards things you’ve never seen. On this episode, Adeline and Linda are unsurprised that the world is shit AND find silver linings in the midst of it. They are fierce about holding onto stories of hope and healing. They consider how much their activism has transformed as they step into new chapters of adulthood. They grapple with questions around intention setting and the real dance between survival and dreaming. And at the end of the day, rent is still due.

Messy Mantra #15: My voice is the only thing I will always own.

For your consideration: What do you see in the dark?

One of the best things that has come out of this experience is that this space serves as our own immersion therapy to STOP PLAYING SMALL and step into our spotlight.

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Here’s to us staying messy and practicing some candid vulnerability

The Messy Part is not only labor of love it is also us trying to show up and take our own advice in real time. This is our video journal documenting our best attempts at being as true to ourselves as we can.

Your memory is your map, you can take a step. On this episode, Adeline and Linda listen fondly to their past selves. They listen long enough to let the lesson soak in. They figured out that sometimes all they need to do is look back to see how far they've come. Sure, that's cliché. But when everything fails, returning to what we've done and what we've said offers us a sense of relief. Maybe we knew more than we thought we did after all.

Messy Mantra #14: my wisdom is my guide. my wisdom is my protection. I know enough to move.

For your consideration: What questions are you working through right now?

Sharing your dreams out loud is good for your health. On this episode Adeline and Linda wonder whose imagination they’re living in and how much of their imagination has been stifled. They journey on to rediscover all the joy that dreaming can offer us.

Messy Mantra #13: I am worthy of my dreams. Dream a little a dream for me.

For your consideration: If nothing was in your way what dream of yours would come true?