Understanding the 'dials' I use on my game dashboard.

First 15 mins is a breakdown of why the linear process approach is not ideal, not is the full inner game trickle-down approach. Instead, I find the best approach to be an ability to monitor the health of an interaction by a variety of dials, to orient myself to where I am 'at' and likely what I need to be doing next. The rest of the episode is breaking down those dials.

What key difference makes my bestie so unnaturally good at game and what is his game style is like. What are the advantages and disadvantages of his style. How does his style compare to mine? How we work together to deliver the best of both worlds in a night game environment.

This is not meant to be a deep-dive into his game, but more of an overview compare-and-contrast. His game will be broken down in future episodes and we may even one day have him on as a guest.

A ground-breaking episode. Whereas The Basics episode provided the framework, here we dive further into Breaks & Heat, tying them to concrete actions and how we handle real life scenarios. This episode is intended to drastically speed up a guys calibration phase by being able to understand and identify what is happening so he can identity what cycle the engine is in.

How we can 'read' burden and see what is needed next.

How we manage 'the gap'.

How to measure our breaks and why they aren't 'pushes' or 'cold'.

Examples of types of actions we might break with.

Example of heat actions.

How we manage the balance of the break and heat.

How we create an engine that intakes adaption and exhausts love/affection

Why when our game is bad we get better responses than we do when it is starting to improve.

Why 'be a jerk' game is totally mis-founded.

How we manage very subtle breaks to make an set 'open' smoother.

Why a soft downtake is as important as a soft uptake.

And much more .

An instant classic. A foundational introduction into the concepts of "the burden", and 'adapting'. The psychological rationale for why the burden must be pushed. How we interact with the burden and create/reward adapting with our main 2 levers.... breaks and heat.

Introducing 'the gap' and how that tells us how much break or heat we can/should use. Common pitfalls and guidelines.

Specific context as to why break/heat is different than push/pull or hot/cold. The 2-dimensional nature of break and heat to push burden, drive adapting, and increase allure via reward.

What this pod is about, story-telling about my life coming up in game, keep stages in my growth, breakthru moments, successes/failures, lessons learned.