The Misunderstood Podcast

I thought going to New York to celebrate my magazine cover and Times Square billboard would feel like success.

Instead, it brought me face-to-face with the woman who spent years surviving to get here.

In this deeply personal episode, I share why this season has stirred unexpected grief, why I spent nearly twelve hours writing my magazine interview through tears, and what God has been revealing about identity, healing, and finally learning how to receive.

This isn’t a conversation about visibility.

It’s about honoring the version of yourself that quietly carried you through the hardest seasons of your life… and having the courage to become who you’re being called to be next.

Most people think healing ends with the breakthrough. In reality, that’s where the hard part begins.

In this final episode of the Five Stages of Healing series, I’m talking about integration and why so many people find themselves slipping back into old patterns, old relationships, and old versions of themselves, even after they’ve done so much work.

After years of therapy and my own healing journey, I discovered that awareness, acceptance, getting to the root, and reparenting are only part of the process. Real transformation happens when you begin practicing what you’ve learned and allowing freedom to become familiar.

In this episode, I share stories from my own life, what I’ve learned through deeper somatic healing, why we often run back to what feels safe, and why struggling doesn’t mean you’ve failed.

If you’ve ever wondered why you still overthink, people please, miss the relationship you prayed God would remove, or feel guilty for resting, I hope this conversation reminds you that you are not behind.

Healing didn’t fail.

You’re integrating.

Come say hello over on Instagram @theheartact.co. I’d love to hear what resonated with you.

I’m taking a brief pause from my five-part series to bring you something a little different today.

This episode is pulled from a teaching I recorded inside my Brave Girls community on a topic that I believe every woman needs to hear: The Breakdown Is the Breakthrough.

If you’ve been in a season where life feels tight, uncertain, messy, or like something in you is coming undone, this conversation will help you see it through a completely different lens.

Because what if the breakdown isn’t proof that something is wrong?

What if it’s the very place God is using to restructure you, expand you, and make room for the woman you’re becoming?

In this episode, I’m sharing from a very real place in my own life, including the contraction of leaving my 25-year nursing identity, stepping into deeper visibility, building Brave Girls, and learning how to stop panicking every time life stretches me past what feels comfortable.

This one is raw, tender, a little spicy, and hopefully the exact exhale your nervous system didn’t know it needed.

If this episode speaks to you, come find me on Instagram at @theheartact.co and check the link in my bio to learn more about the Brave Girls community.

In this raw and emotional episode, I open up about my month-long silence, walking away from a 25-year nursing career, my son’s surgery, the refining season God has pulled me into, and the uncomfortable reality of slowing down when your nervous system has been wired for survival your entire life.

We also dive deep into Stage 4 of healing: rewiring and reparenting. This is where healing stops being intellectual and becomes embodied. Together we explore what it looks like to revisit the wounded inner child with Jesus at the center and finally receive the safety, love, comfort, and presence you may have never received growing up.

If you’ve been exhausted, overwhelmed, anxious, disconnected from yourself, or questioning the season God has you in right now… this episode will feel like home.

Be sure to follow me over on INSTAGRAM @theheartact.co because the Brave Girls community officially opens next week.

This episode is part three of my five-part healing series.

If you haven’t listened to Stage One (Awareness) and Stage Two (Acceptance), go back and start there — because healing doesn’t work when we skip steps.

Today we’re talking about Stage Three: The Root.

This is the moment when everything finally starts making sense.

For years I went to therapy, talked through my childhood, and intellectually understood why certain things happened in my life. And while that helped me gain insight, I still found myself repeating the same patterns.

The same relationships.

The same emotional triggers.

The same cycles.

Because understanding the story isn’t the same as healing the wound.

In this episode, I break down:

• Why talking about your childhood alone doesn’t create real freedom

• How limiting beliefs are formed in childhood and stored in the body

• Why every child carries some form of wounding (even without big trauma)

• How to uncover the root of patterns that keep repeating in your life

• What it actually looks like to revisit the moment where the wound began

This stage is where the deeper work begins.

And next week, we move into Stage Four: Reparenting — the moment where healing becomes transformation.

If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who might need to hear it.

And if you’re curious about working with me or joining the Brave Girls community launching soon, send me a DM on Instagram @theheartact.co and drop the word BRAVE.

Stage Two of Healing: Acceptance.

This is where most people tap out.

Last week we talked about Awareness — recognizing your patterns without defending them.

But awareness alone doesn’t heal anything.

Acceptance is where you stop running.

In this episode, I break down:

• ​ Why modern-day therapy often keeps you stuck in your head
• ​ How trauma, childhood wounding, and unresolved emotions are stored in the body
• ​ What acceptance actually looks like (and what it’s not)
• ​ Why fight, flight, freeze, and people-pleasing block real healing
• ​ How emotions metabolize when you stay with them instead of escaping them

We are not talking about drowning in your feelings.

We’re talking about finally staying long enough for your nervous system to release what it’s been gripping for years.

Next week, we move into Stage Three: The Root — where subconscious patterns unravel.

And if something in this episode made your body go quiet… or curious… my private 12-week container Healed & Dangerous is now open. It’s intimate, high-touch, and not for the faint of heart. If you feel called, you’ll know. Apply through the link in my Instagram bio @theheartact.co.

Most people think they’re self-aware.

They’re just articulate.

In this first episode of my five-part healing series, I break down what awareness actually is and what it’s not.

You can talk about your childhood for ten years.

You can label your attachment style.

You can explain your trauma in perfect detail.

And still be completely run by it.

In this episode, I walk you through:

• The difference between intellectual awareness, nervous system awareness, and embodied awareness

• Why modern therapy often stops at insight

• The pattern I didn’t want to see in myself

• Why high-performing women stay stuck in “doing” instead of regulating

• What true awareness actually feels like when the armor drops

This is not fluffy self-help.

This is the doorway to real healing.

Next week, we move into Stage Two: Acceptance: the part most people avoid.

If this episode challenged you, share it. Tag me. And let’s raise the standard of what healing really means.

I didn’t plan to record this episode tonight.

It’s almost midnight in Phoenix, and the last four days have left me spiraling, disconnected, and exhausted in a way I couldn’t think my way out of.

This episode is about what happens when you stop overriding your body, stop forcing yourself forward, and finally listen to the resistance instead of shaming it away.

We’re talking about energy leaks, emotional burnout, spiritual disconnection, and the quiet truth most people don’t want to admit: sometimes the heaviness isn’t something to fix; it’s something trying to protect you.

If you’ve been pouring yourself into people, projects, and expectations that no longer give life back…

If you’ve been praying for clarity but ignoring what your body has been whispering…

If you’ve felt the guilt of slowing down even when everything inside you is begging for rest…

You’re not broken.

You’re being redirected.

This episode is raw, unfiltered, and honest, not because I have answers, but because I’m willing to sit in the questions with you.

Listen gently.

If this resonates, please consider following the show, leaving a review on Apple Podcasts, or sharing this episode with someone who needs permission to stop pushing and start listening.

I recorded this episode on my 46th birthday.

Not from a place of celebration or performance but from slowness, honesty, and a deep awareness that time is moving whether we’re ready or not.

This episode is a reflection on what 46 years of living, losing, healing, and waking up has taught me. About forgiveness and resentment. About slowing down instead of rushing through life. About how emotions come and go, and why we don’t need to label a heavy day as a broken life.

I talk about perfectionism, survival mode, friendships that carry us through hard seasons, and the quiet realization that the race has never been with anyone else, it’s always been you versus you.

This is not a how-to episode.

It’s a come-sit-with-me episode.

If you’ve been feeling tired of the noise, the drama, the pressure to perform, or the sense that life is moving too fast, this one is for you.

Listen gently.

And remember, you don’t have to get it perfect for it to be meaningful.

This episode wasn’t planned.

After traveling to see my dad who nearly lost his life, and sitting with emotions that hadn’t fully settled, a moment with my 14-year-old son brought everything to the surface.

In this deeply personal episode, I share what it feels like to love your child so fiercely and still realize you can’t protect them from pain. I talk about losing my temper, carrying guilt, raising children in a broken family, and the quiet devastation of motherhood no one prepares you for.

This isn’t about being a perfect parent.

It’s about repair, compassion, faith, and staying present when your heart feels crushed.

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, ashamed of how you reacted, or afraid you’ve failed someone you love, this episode is for you.