The Naked Essence

In this episode Kyla and I drop in about the importance of being true to oneself on a spiritual path- not ignoring the suffering of oneself or the world. Kyla takes the fluff out of spiritual teachings while getting naked and demonstrating what authentic communication looks like. Just because we are ‘spiritual' does not mean that we do not have a shadow and do not get swept away by the ego’s twisted intentions. The ego is constantly finding a way disguise itself in different costumes, even the ‘authentic relating’ costume. It is important to constantly come back to our ‘why’ we are doing what we are doing so we can re-align ourselves with the true self and the genuine wish to connect with others.

Highlights:

"Any spiritual teachings that says don’t pay attention to these things is bull shit This is the world we live in! We can be spiritual beings inside of it, but when we ignore the pain and suffering of others around us we are ignoring the pain and suffering within ourselves.”

“Sometimes you are sad for a very long time when something hard is going on. We are so hard on ourselves and can compare ourselves thinking everyone is perfect. I think unconsciously we all share this belief. It is really important for me to get a serious dose of genuineness from others- to understand what is going on in their lives. That takes a certain level of vulnerability in relationships that I certainly do no have from everyone in my world. I have to be really particular about who I reach out to in those moments.”

“Say what ever you are going to say as long as it is in service of connection. That almost sounds obvious but there are so many ways we say things that subtly shame someone or try to make us seem better than them. There are times I ask a juicy deep conversation question because I want to appear really deep or really evolved.”

“Not everyone is showing up for the real raw shit most of the time because we are not taught to. We need those people in our corner who see us in our most unsexy phase and acknowledge that it is great.”

More about Kyla:

Kyla’s work aims to help millennials upgrade their empathy skill set, ask better questions, and get more curious about what it means to be human. She has interviewed dozens of millennials around the world about their experiences with connection and loneliness and, based on the results, has created a framework for connection that can be used in a multitude of settings. Through keynotes, workshops, and 1:1 mentorship, she aims to disrupt the status quo of connection and challenge others to connect more intentionally, vulnerably, and empathically with those around them. She’s a firm believer that we’re only one good question away from connecting with the entire world. 

Social links to connect to Kyla:

Website: www.kylasw.com

Facebook: www.facebook.com/kylamsw

Instagram: www.instagram.com/kylasokollward

In this episode my dear sister Chrisine Avellino and I geek out about how to skillfully work through suffering in order to keep our hearts open. Christine shares how walking a genuine spiritual path entails having an open heart, but does not mean our heart will always feel open. We discuss different tools, practices, and methods on how to work through the darkness so we can authentically open up the wings of our heart again. If you want to get REAL on your spiritual path, this episode has your name written all over it!

Highlights:

“Walking an authentic spiritual path is about embracing the light and dark. Being able to walk both paths and use both towards spiritual advancement so we can rise into the most authentic version of ourselves. Do not be afraid to explore your own darkness or scary emotions and try to not numb out. Be disciplined and come back to your spiritual practices and you will come back a lot more quickly than you have in the past.”

“It is inspiring to see someone in their joy and to feel uplifted, but I get super inspired by seeing people be real and share an experience that allows me to relate to being human-especially in this day of age where we live with social media and everyone has this highlight real of all the greatest moments of their life. We can get caught in comparison, ‘why doesn’t my life look that good? Why does my life suck? It helps when people are real.”

“How quickly can we come back to our baseline after we are suffering? As we evolve on this spiritual path, learn about ourselves, and heal more I think we are able to come back to the base of peace more quickly.”

"It is so healthy to have boundaries and protect our hearts. That does not mean putting walls up around our heart and keeping people out- but it is healthy to have these boundaries so we can stay in our worth.”

If you want to connect with the beautiful Christine make sure to follow her work!

Instagram: @flowingwithfire

Website: https://www.flowingwithfire.com/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4YjMzeLP8g-Q8sfMXIDdWg

In this episode Haley and I talk about how challenging the human experience can be and how important authentic relating is. Authentic relating, expressing what is raw underneath the mask, invites space for intimacy and shifts energy. It can be challenging to authentically connect with others because we have so many tangled patterns which disorts our perception. Nothing is as it seems, it is always how we are interpreting it. Our relationships are a mirror of what is still unhealed within ourselves. Becoming aware of these patterns is half of the process, but then we must return to the goddess so she can do for us what we can’t do for ourselves.

In this episode Haley offers moon rituals and cyclical women wisdom in order to connect to the Goddess more deeply. This episode is so rich with wisdom and practical tools to apply in your life!

Highlights :

“We all are connected to this beautiful luxurious feminine energy. In order to access this we need to rise from this pain body that we carry, that’s why it is so important to be in touch with your cycles and feel the pain in a way that can liberate us. If we stay stuck in the pain we stay stuck in the abuse and we continue to perpetuate the abuse in the places and spaces around us.”

“We get to choose everyday how we are going to feel about any situation. If we keep viewing others through the perception we have ourselves and we don’t heal it, then we will keep attracting toxic relationships and irritating people. It is a call for us to rise up from the conditions and patterns we have”

“No matter what has happened in your life whether trauma pain suffering, that does not have to affect the inner being and light. It doesn’t have to define who you are. You don’t have to identify with the story. When you let go and you forgive , forgive yourself and that person, not for them but for yourself, then you fully embody the goddess essence.”

Connect more with Haley:

Haley Lusk is a modern medicine & self love expert dedicated to activating the medicine within you. She  the host of Activate TV Show and the founder of the Goddess Sanctuary. Everything she does and creates gives you the real world tools to unlock your fullest potential and live you life on your own terms. She spends her days hanging out with her wife, Heather, writing and connecting with soul driven women who are taking the world by storm.

Links: 

Instagram: instagram.com/iamhaleylusk

Website: iamhaleylusk.com

Goddess Sanctuary: iamhaleylusk.com/goddess

The Activate Show: https://iamhaleylusk.com/activate/

In this episode Natalie and I talk about discovering our fullness through radical acceptance. Natalie starts off the podcast talking about her ‘weirdness’ (aka badass-ness) and how she had a costume themed Halloween wedding. The question arose, ‘how do you embrace your full authenticity in a world which convinces you there is something wrong with being who you are’- Radical acceptance was/is the answer! So many of us are disconnected from our authentic self because we resist who we are moment by moment. We have to accept each moment as perfection in order to discover the unique gem that lies within. Acceptance is what uncovers our unique brilliance. Acceptance pierces through all the layers of the small self so we may return home to the big Self.

Highlights:

“There is an enough-ness even in the times when we're not feeling good. If we bring our enough-ness to those times, we start to embody a state of ‘let go’ , forgiveness, and okay-ness with everything as it is. We discover the perfection in everything as it is. Acceptance shifts our perception to be miracle minded.”-

“We really have to trust, that is the overlying thing. We are safe where we are no matter if it feels ugly or uncomfortable, or if we are on the exciting upward swing. We must trust we are where we are supposed to be and be patient with ourselves in each and every moment.”

“Were all in it together. Nobody has it all together. Even the people who seem to have it all together, even freaking Oprah, have their moments. We’re all experiencing how to return. We’re not trying to not have those moments rather how to be in a space where we acceptance ourselves and really be gentle and loving towards the parts that seem unacceptable so we can return. Those are the lessons. Spirituality is about isn't staying in a place of all high and excited all the time. Its great when you experience longer rides, but that’s not the miracle. The miracle is the point of return. What is available is returning again and again and again.”

More About Natalie :

Natalie Foster, LMFT, ATR-BC is a marriage and family therapist, art therapist, and reiki master healer, and is the owner of True Self Institute, a local Phoenix and online platform for spiritual learning and growing. She has made it her mission to serve others with accessing more of their True Selves-- to experience more purpose, ease, and joy. Natalie can help you overcome your blocks and barriers to healthy, spirit-centered living through her method of teaching and healing. She incorporates principles of forgiveness, understanding of your true identity, power, and nature, and quantum energy healing to help you grow into a better version of you-- the real you! She has an office in Scottsdale, Arizona and also sees clients for True Self mentoring, art therapy, hypnosis, and energy work from anywhere in the United States.

You can find Natalie on instagram: true_self_institue

In this episode Stephanie and I talk about how to integrate your spiritual path by embracing the human experience. In the spiritual communities we often hear ‘be positive’ ‘focus on the law of attraction’ ‘etc. While there is a universal law of attraction, and ultimately we desire to move from a place of positivity, it becomes spiritual bypassing when we don’t honor our emotions. Our emotions are the portal to awakening. They are not something to ‘skip past’ and label as ‘bad’ or ‘negative’. We talk about emotions being a GPS system and how to befriend them.

Another topic we talk about is the ‘addiction to spirituality’. Being at the end of this spectrum was perfect for our growth in the moment but it actually separated us from our fellow humans.We learned how to become our full selves by remembering the human experience itself is sacred, and yes that includes Netflix, swearing, and eating things that aren’t ‘conscious’ sometimes, everything in balance creates wholeheartedness.

We finish off the cast’ with a conversation about the power of intention. Intention helps us look at everything in the earth classroom as an assignment. When we use intention in our daily life we are able to see more ease-fully through the messiness of triggers and embody higher virtues.

Highlights :

“Spiritual growth is developing our body of light and transforming matter into a higher vibration. This transformation is what is called spiritual growth.As we grow spirituality we become more of our naked essence, which I call my higher self. In the process of becoming our higher self, you need to do the inner work. The inner work is working with the personality, the ego , which the emotional aspect of this realm. It is healing, developing, integrating, and evolving our sub personality so we can then align with our higher self.”

“If your having negative emotions and you always want to be positive then your actually not in alignment. Your emotions are your friends, they are your indicator. You have to own every aspect of your self, the good the bad, the light and dark. We can use spirituality as an escapism.”

“There is all this talk about spirituality and the law of attraction ,lets be positive, gratitude, namaste.. We are using al these beautiful sayings and quotes, but what does it all really mean? It doesn't matter how many beautiful quotes you say or how many spiritual words you know. It’s all about if you are living it in your daily life. One of the the things I think people often misconstrue is believing spirituality is about being constantly positive. We actually can use positivity as a way of bypassing our emotions- this defeats the purpose of spiritual growth “


“Spirituality is about being able to master this reality.Your being spiritual in each moment you can bring more love and light into the things you do, deal with yourself in compassion, hold yourself, and have less judgement. Spirituality is also about being human”

“ The inner work is the most important part of your spiritual growth “

If you want to connect more with Stephanie :

check out her self guided workbook called CreatingWithin that takes you on a inner journey to self discovery, self healing and self love. You can find it on her website www.creatingwithin.com

 

Instagram: stephanie_wilamowsky

In this episode Ginger and I talk about how to return to love more quickly by being dedicated to spiritual practice.Both of our lives have done a 180 because of our non-negotiable practice which grounds us in spirit every day. We all experience darkness, and sometimes feel stuck- that is totally okay- it is part of the human experience. We talk about how to move through the tumultuous times with more ease and grace. This episode shines a light on how spiritual practice always brings us home.

Highlights:

"My greatest practice is through prayer. Prayer is simple intention or thought that allows the Self that I really am to guide me in the direction of my heart- not allowing myself to take guidance from my ego. It Interrupts the thought pattern. It takes 17 seconds for a thought to build momentum, if you don’t change it or recognize it then the next thoughts will continue to be negative."

“I am willing to see this differently - you have to have the persistence to move past your ego in that moment. Sometimes it happens right away, sometimes it takes more and more practice. The voice of the ego speaks first and it speaks loudest. It’s very very strong. It is a continuous dominance of who wants to be in charge. The ego doesn’t want to loosen its grip even though there is a part of it that knows this is not who I am when I am judging or condemning someone. The quickest things that help me come back is prayer, meditation, self-help books, youtube videos, podcasts- these are what I do when my ego is being she-cray!”

"When I am resistant I allow myself to feel annoyed or cry. I tap into healthy distractions - for example, watching television, I start to forget why I was annoyed. It helps lessen some of those feelings. "

Ginger Marie is a Speaker, Spiritual Teacher, Yoga Instructor, and Amazon Best Selling Author of the book, Your Weekly Guide to Bliss. She helps those who are searching for a deeper level of happiness and self-love to find self-acceptance, power in their thoughts, and happiness in the present moment, so that they can feel fiercely confident and in control of their lives.

Purchase your very own copy of Your Weekly Guide to Bliss at bit.ly/yourweeklyguidetobliss

Visit Ginger Marie online at gingermariecorwin.com

My social links if you need them:

instagram.com/gingermariecorwin

facebook.com/gingermariecorwin

Jessica believes the naked essence is undoing the constructs of who she thought she thought she had to be, which was created by forces outside of her self. One blatant construct that she has been working on dismantling is the beauty construct. Her entire life she felt like she had to measure up to an ideal to feel worthy in the world until she had a breakdown, breakthrough moment, a few years ago. She realized she had the body she dreamed of, but was STILL not happy. In this episode we talk about how to discover true joy, purpose, and meaning in life by remembering that you are not a body, rather you have a body to enjoy! We talk about the bliss of being embodied and how that is the portal to the present moment, where true fulfillment is found. When we shift from body identification to spirit identification, everything shifts even if it does not make sense intellectually. Our soul becomes FULL and we experience the magic of life.

Highlights :

"We did not incarnate to be fit"

"There is a certain rhythm you connect to when your connected to your soul. there is a cadence that you move through and it is unparalleled to any material product, it is indescribableI. It is the joy you feel when you move in alignment with you soul."

"The world promised me once I had this body I would make it.. but I was not able to connect with joy. I was unable to connect to joy because I was so off from connecting to my naked essence. There is no way you will be living in joy if you are not living in alignment with who you are here to be."

Bio:

Jessica Scott is a former fitness coach with her bachelors in Biology/pre-Medicine and a degree in mortuary science! She is a nationally qualified figure competitor and ran a successful online fitness coaching business for 5 years. A year and a half ago, her heart lead her elsewhere after a radical spiritual awakening and she stepped away from fitness coaching completely and began helping women in her online course she created called Journey of your Soul, where she shows women how to listen to the unique hollering of their heart and become who they are here to be at a soul level. She is co-CEO of Sakred, a woman owned company that creates frequency infused MCT oils that just launched in November 2018. She lives in the country in Illinois with her partner Rick and her 5 year old daughter Scarlett, who in many ways was the impetus of her shift from body centric to soul centric living.

Each month I run my 4 week online course where women come together to learn about going up in frequency and tune into their essence on a deep level: Journey of your Soul www.journeyofyoursoulcourse.com

Check out Jessica's work!

Instagram.com/jessicascott

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Kajal believes the naked essence is an expansive state of open hearted living and we open up to it through pain. Pain is what gets us to our knees willing to see life through a different lens. Pain helps us connect with others on a rich intimate level. Pain opens up the portal to power because we realize at some point we can either be miserable or we can allow something greater than ourselves to guide our lives. Vulnerability is shamed in the western culture because we have collectively been taught that it is a sign of ‘weakness’ when it is actually the greatest sign of strength. EVERYONE feels vulnerabilities, but most people wear a mask hiding it. When we wear a mask we are identified with the vulnerability. When we embrace it we tap into our power knowing we are force so much greater than it!

Highlights :

“The willingness to perceive things differently is the open door to opens up to unlimited possibilities”- Kajal

“So many of us think that vulnerability is ‘bad’ -but vulnerability is power! You no longer justify the stories identities that you have put up with for so long. When you verbalize this is what I am struggling with, some part of you is ready is ready to have power over that rather than it having power of you. As soon as you step into your power you are commanding the forces of love , light, and truth to come and work on your behalf and guide you “-Kajal

“Your ego is the one that is vulnerable! If we are constantly living body identified , of course we are going to feel vulnerable! Our spirit is invulnerable. The path to get to that is to GO THROUGH the vulnerability. The vulnerability is a teaching tool.” -Kajal

Check out more of Kajal's work :

Website: http://www.kajalpandey.com

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/dearkajal

Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/kajalspandey