Do you look in your closet and feel like you have nothing to wear? In today's episode I speak with Get Your Pretty On Founder Alison Lumbatis on how to find your own fashion style in midlife.  What fashion trends are too young or too old for us? What's the best why to shop both in stores and online plus how wearing clothing has a lot more to do with how we feel inside than just what we're wearing on the outside! Show notes: 

• Alison is a firm believer that it doesn't have to be age appropriate but rather "you" appropriate.
• When you're thinking about your wardrobe there are three questions you should ask yourself: 1- Does this make me feel more stylish and confident when I put it on? 2- Does this fit or flatter my body? 3- Take a selfie in the mirror. 
• Tipis on how to find your fashion.
• We only use 20% of the clothes in our closet so 80% of our clothes we don't wear! 
• Clean out your closet in order to figure out what pieces of clothing you need to get.
• Go shopping with a list so you don't buy items that you really don't need. 
• Alison explains what stores are goo to shop at to get the different pieces for your wardrobe.
• Fall/Winter staples and a comfy pair of joggers and leggings are included!
• Box Styling services allow someone else to pick your clothes. They can be really helpful for us midlife women.
• What to wear on a Zoom job interview.
• Believes in capsule wardrobes
• What are good pieces of jewelry and other accessories to have in your wardrobe.
• Denim trends are basically anything goes...even bell bottoms!
• Alison also talks about how if she could talk to her younger self she’d let her know that life is a tapestry of her purpose and what she’s doing today. She couldn’t rush or sidestep or done things differently or she would be different than she is now. In midlife we have the ability to see the value of perspective. 

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Can you imagine a pink construction hat on a building site? That's just the sort of thing Jessica Underwood would show up wearing when she's dealing with a new development project on her construction site. Living in Frederick, Maryland Jessica went from one of the top law firms to owner her own luxury, niche building company JR Capital Build. How did she get there? Jessica gives us a candid look into what it takes to use the skills and tools you've learned from one career and turn them into a success business. 

• Jessica was looking for what was next after she realized that working at a top law firm wasn't her dream job.
• When searching for your next opportunity start following the small cues that the universe if giving you. It will take you where you're meant to be. 
• Start trying different things and meeting new people. One new connection can be the answer you've been looking for and you can meet them in unexpected places.
• There's a lot of trial and error but having the confidence that you'll figure it out is what gets you to the next step. 
• Each project got her stronger and stronger. 
• It's important to have friends, mentors, associates and consultants to ask questions and help you find out the answers you need.
• In your 40s is when you develop your voice.
• Every strength is a weakness and every weakness is a strength. Depending on what you focus on - one can go either way.
• Don't wait to get started. Thinking you need a degree shouldn't hold you back. Jessica has 4 degrees and non of them are in construction!
• Build your network and your support group.
• Tips on how to make decisions. How to listen to the signs you're being given.
• Tips on how to get unstuck.

In today's episode I wanted to get a better understanding of how we can bring our country more together during this time of unrest. I reached out to Gamal Palmer from Diversity Gym. He gives workshops and coaching to help companies build strategies to increase their value through diversity, equality and inclusion and to create an environment where people have more empathy. We discuss how we can take those same principles and make them part of our every day life.  Show notes: 

• We are all at different levels of our fitness when it comes to engaging with biases, prejudice and racial justice and injustice. 
• Our entire patterns and routines have shifted.
• We are all sitting down and listening now more than ever.
• In starting conversations about diversity, equality and inclusion we first must let go of our egos. 
• In order to heal brokeness we need to become egoless.
• The importance of talking with our children and teaching them empathy.
• We want to interrupt the cycle for our children. 
• The importance that professional leagues are having on helping bring awareness to the injustices going on in our country. 
• We talk about America's complicated history.
• Rioting and looting is not right but our country has a history of doing just that to get attention. 
• It's important that we decipher the differences of peaceful protest, rioting and looting. 
• What we can do to help our communities especially after there has been civil unrest. 
• We talk about the techniques we can use to help create a more inclusive world.

Resources Mentioned: How to Be An Anti-Racist by Ibram X. Kendi White Fragility: Why It's So Hard for White People to Talk about Racism by Robin DiAngelo Decolonizing Wealth by Edgar Villanueva How to Contact Gamal Palmer: Gamalpalmer.com If you enjoyed this episode, please Subscribe, Rate and Review this podcast. Also, if you’d like to be the first to hear about New Episodes check my website at www.thenewmid.com and follow me on Instagram @thenewmid and Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/thenewmid/?modal=admin_todo_tour

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If you’d like to join a group of Midlife Women supporting each other, join The Official The New Mid Private Facebook Group HERE. 

When we first went into lockdown for the pandemic the only thing I could compare it to was the tragedy of 9/11. It's hard to believe that we are coming up on the 19th Anniversary. I was looking for some inspiration and came across this book called "No Better Time," about the most likely first victim of 9/11 Danny Lewin the unsung hero. He was on American Flight 11 and tried to stop the terrorist on the plane. Unfortunately he was killed and the plane crashed into the World Trade Center. His life of perseverance and never giving up even when the odds are against you is a guiding light for all of us.  I contacted the author Molly Raskin and had a wonderful conversation about her inspiration for writing the book and what projects she's working on now.  Here's what you'll learn from this episode: 

• Molly Raskin is an author, journalist and TV Producer. She currently has a docuseries on Netflix called "(Un)well."
• She first learned about Danny Lewin's story ten years after 9/11. 
• She flew to Israel to speak with Danny's parents to see if she could tell his story. They had not wanted to tell his story but realized his life is so inspiring they agreed to let Rachel write the book. 
• Thinking she would have publishers lining up to publish the book, she had a bit of a surprise to find out that wasn't the case. Her perseverance finally got her a publisher. 
• We learn how Danny's life work his company Akamai Technologies kept the communication of our government and our media outlets going during 9/11 and the days after. 
• How to keep your dream alive when you face rejection.
• Danny's life philosophy that kept him going. 
• Molly's wellness routine and the reason behind her doing her the docuseries on Netflix called "(UN) Well."

To Contact Molly Raskins: Twitter @mollyraskin Book: No Better Time This episode was co-produced by Fran Harvey. Contact Fran Harvey at [email protected] If you enjoyed this episode, please Subscribe, Rate and Review this podcast. Also, if you’d like to be the first to hear about New Episodes check my website at www.thenewmid.com and follow me on Instagram @thenewmid and Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/thenewmid/?modal=admin_todo_tour

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In today's episode I speak with therapist Rachel Hansberger about the effect COVID19 has had on children with autism and teenagers. We break down the main concerns parents have with socialization, depression and lack of motivation. Also, we talk about how we are now wearing a lot more hats than we're used to and giving us coping skills. 

• We are the role models for our children. They will follow our lead. 
• It's important to create a loving, warm environment. 
• Don't make academics the focus but rather the connection and relationships.
• Parents need to engage in self-care. We are handling a lot and have many balls in the air.
• You are not the teacher. You are a support role for school.
• Ask for help from close friends just for a day.
• Look for supportive mom's groups, churches with youth groups either in-person or over technology. Set up play dates either in-person or over zoom. 
• There's also good advice on the Autism Society of America website.
• Advice on how to help the sibling of an autistic child.
• Teens need more encouragement now than ever. They've lost support from other adults now that they're not able to interact more with teachers, coaches and other adult role models.
• Lock down has affected all our social skills.
• We talk about how to help your child continue to grow and find new opportunities.
• How to help your autistic child become independent so they're able to take care of themselves.
• When your teenager has an outburst how to handle it.
• How to handle teenagers that have severe depression.
• Helping motivate teenagers during the pandemic.

In today's episode I speak with Psychologist Dr. Bomba who specializes in children anxiety and Former Teacher/Parent Tracy Samek on how to navigate the new school year during a pandemic. To try and help us figure out what is best for our children as some are going back to in-school learning while others are doing virtual learning, we tackle some of the biggest challenges we face. We discuss children and parent's anxieties plus some really good tips on setting our children up for a successful school year.  Show notes: 

• The best way to help your children through this pandemic is to be open and honest with them. Give them a safe place to express their feelings.
• If they worry about getting the virus talk them through the steps you would take to help them feel better. Paint a picture of how you will nurse them back to health.
• Anxiety is a human condition. Everyone has it.
• When talking with your children about anxiety come from a place of empathy and acknowledge the confusion and frustration that kids might be experiencing.
• If your family is handling the circumstances different than other families, acknowledge their confusion and let them know that you are doing what you think is best for your family.
• Remote Learning: Find a System that works for your children. Create a physical space for them. Have them pick out school supplies to get buy in from them. 
• We discuss tools to help them get set up for success for the new school year.
• Problem solve with your child and use logic to try to shrink their worries.
• How to deal with your High School and 8th Grade Students who are not having a "normal" senior year.
• You need to make a shift in thinking from this is a temporary situation to this is our new normal.
• There are 3 types of learners: Auditory, Visual and Kinesthetic. We discuss which one learns best with virtual learning and tools on how to help each different type of learner.
• Good websites to help compensate virtual learning: outschool.com and use a response journal. 
• How we can help our children learn how to figure out information and transfer is to everyday life. They will learn how to schedule and plan.
• How we can deal with screen time.
• What children can do to not have them be sitting all day.
• We discuss many silver linings in the situation we're in today. 

There is a severe lack of research into perimenopause and menopause. Luckily Vanessa Ford and her business partners Danielle Jacobs and Dr. John Konhilas at Menolabs saw the huge gap and need for us midlife women to get some answers and relief from hot flashes, night sweats, mood swings and all the other symptoms we have during this period of our lives. In this episode we openly discuss what it's like to be in perimenopause and menopause and what we can do about it.  Show notes: 

• After thinking she had cancer and couldn't get any answers from her friends and family Vanessa Ford realized there is a lack of research into women's symptoms for perimenopause/menopause. 
• Every woman's symptoms are different. 
• Menopause rage is real. You can just be angry for no particular reason. 
• You can logically give excuses away why you are being angry, having hot flashes and irregular periods. 
• Dr. John Kohnhilas has been studying menopause for over 20 years. 
• Scientist are talking about our second brain in our enteric nervous system. 
• They developed three product supplements that will help women with menopause symptoms of hot flashes, mood swings and weight gain. MenoFit, MenoGlow and MenoGuard. 
• What they discovered is that normally as we use estrogen we pass it out of our bodies but if we use the right probiotics, the right bacteria, your gut will send a signal to your brain to recyle your estrogen. It's called deconjugation of estrogen.
• The products are 100% natural. 
• If diagnosed with or have had treatments with cancer and a doctor says you can't have soy or phytoestrogens you should not take these supplements.
• You should really discuss with your doctor before you take any supplements.
• It's extremely important to exercise now to safe off osteoporosis and have good bone health! 

** Correction. The products are not completely GMO free. 

There was still some much to talk about Midlife and Weight Loss that Amy Goldsmith from Kindred Nutrition joined me for Part 2 of the series. In this episode we discuss, hot flashes, inflammation, high blood pressure, collagen, bone broth, fiber, portion sizes, calorie counting vs. counting carbs as it relates to our nutrition. We also discuss how to get our immune systems ready for the Fall/Winter especially during COVID19. It's another pact show with great nutritional information! Show notes: 

• What you really need to know about counting carbs. vs. counting calories.
• The primary source of fuel for your brain comes from carbohydrates.
• We discuss Fat Free, and the nutrition labels with sugar.
• What are the appropriate portion sizes we should be eating.
• Hydration is KEY to our good health. At a minimum we should be drinking 64oz of water but a lot depends on your activity. 
• We talk about the hidden causes of high blood pressure.
• Hot Flashes in regards to food and alcohol.
• How we can boost our Immune System to get ready for the flu season this Fall/Winter especially with COVID19. 
  • Get your Vitamin C,E, and D (from as much food as possible and then supplement if needed)
  • Stay Hydrated
  • Eat 5 fruits and vegetables every day
  • Lean Protein
  • 2-3 Dairy sources a day
  • Walk/Exercise to work you lungs
• We discuss Collagen and bone broth powders.
• What you need to know about inflammation. 
• Do Probiotics work?

There are so many different diets out there. It seems like every few months there's a new one whether it be to take a new product, eat only certain foods or not eat for several hours. It's no wonder the weight loss industry is a $72 billion industry. I wanted to get to the bottom of what is causing us in midlife to gain weight and how can we lose the weight and keep it off. I reached out to dietitian Amy Goldsmith from Kindred Nutrition. We get into a great discussion about what's going on in our bodies during midlife and breaks down the latest diets and what we need to know about nutrition. It was so great I've made this a 2 part series. Today's is Part 1 of my interview.  Show Notes: 

• Our hormones in perimenopause and menopause, estrogen and progesterone start to decrease which will start to manipulate our metabolism to slow down.
• In addition to our metabolism slowing down we are starting to decrease our muscle mass every 10 years.
• We break down the diets: Keto, Paleo and Intermittent Fasting.
• Sleep is one of the most important parts of the nutrition regimen. You need at least 8 hours.
• Tips for people with extreme Reflux, GERD and heartburn.
• Healthy Snack Ideas.
• What are the most important parts of the nutrition labels on food.
• Where you should spend most of your time in the grocery store.
• We go over the Pros and Cons of Dairy.
• Should you go Gluten Free?
• What do your bowel movements say about your health?

The unemployment rate went from 3% to 13% overnight with the coronavirus. We are living through unprecedented times but there are still job opportunities out there. In today's episode I speak with Award Winning Human Resource Expert Amanda Haddaway on how you can get the advantage to get your next job. Whether you're unemployed or looking for a different opportunity you'll get key takeaways you can apply to give you a step up on getting the job that you love. 

• Figure out what you want to do and then tell everyone you know.
• You have the opportunity to do something that you're passionate about or to try something new. 
• If you need to write a resume you can get templates from Google Docs, Canva.com, and LinkedIn will give you an outline.
• How to explain a gap in your resume.
• Tips on length of resume and ageism. 
• Make sure you have a brief statement why they should hire you at the top of your resume. It's your elevator pitch.
• Average recruiter only spends 6 to 7 seconds looking at your resume.
• LinkedIn is your online resume. It connects you with people you previously worked with, people you went to school with, friends, neighbors, associates etc. You can also post other items besides your standard resume i.e. portfolios, highlight projects.
• Your profile on LinkedIn is Public. 
• Be careful what you post on your social media platforms.
• What are the important steps you need to take before you go for an interview.
• Steps on how to set yourself apart from other candidates and leave a good impression with recruiters and potential employers.
• Treat your job search like a job.
• A written Thank You note still goes a long way but it needs to be done right away.
• Stay organized with your job search. Keep a spread sheet of all the places you've applied for.
• Keep the Faith. It's a numbers game. Apply to a lot of places before you find the perfect match.