The Next Era

I'm chattin' & chattin' about my own therapy journey, sharing some laughs and a few eye-rolls. I talk about the hunt for the perfect therapist and even discuss what came up in my most recent therapy session.

I'm all about being a good friend, but there's a line between support and being an emotional dumping ground. Through it all, I push the idea that therapy isn't just for crisis mode – it's a tool for understanding yourself and handling life's curveballs.

I wrap up with tips on getting the most out of therapy and setting important boundaries. I'm here to remind you, if someone's problems start feeling like a bag full of bricks, it's okay to tell them, "ask your therapist."

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I get real about dating men with money cause to be honest, everybody is after them, even straight dudes! 

I share stories about the wealthiest guys I've dated, to brokest, to the flashy ones with a Rolls Royce's to the ones who couldn't even splurge on decent flowers for Valentine's Day. Whew, the ghetto!

But it's not all about the coin itself, I break down why being a provider matters more than just having coins.

Emphasizing the value of providers over those solely defined by their financial status, I encourage listeners to seek partners who prioritize their well-being and actively contribute to their lives.

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Realizing the urgent need for more education about reproductive health, especially for black women, I stress the importance of being informed and proactive in medical situations. 

Together with Dr. Simone Whitmore, a familiar face from "Married to Medicine," on BRAVO; we get into the prevalent discussions about fibroids in my social circles and the tragic misdiagnosis that led to Jessica Pettway's death from cervical cancer.

Addressing the dismissive treatment often faced by black women in medical settings, we discuss strategies for effective self-advocacy, drawing from personal experiences. 

Dr. Simone clarifies the distinctions between fibroids and cervical cancer, emphasizing the importance of accurate diagnosis and symptom recognition and provides insights into detection and prevention methods. We examine factors like vitamin D deficiency, genetics, and hair product chemicals in these conditions' prevalence, aiming to empower listeners with knowledge and proactive measures.

Random Man From ATL has fathered seven kids with different women, and it's got me wondering—what's his secret?

Honestly, after seven pregnancies, it's hard not to wonder. Someone who's managed to father so many children without any financial support needs to be studied.

The episode provides us with an update on the scandal with his 7th baby mama Morgan Bailey. Despite all the drama, she seems to have let him back into her life,  which makes me wonder: why are people so afraid to be single parents?

We need to rewrite the narrative around single parenthood to break the cycle of toxic relationships. This thought-provoking episode shines a light on the complexities of modern relationships and the influence of social media on our perceptions.

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Three months have passed since I took the leap and moved in with my man.

Establishing a new routine has become a top priority since living with him. My old habits just didn't cut it anymore, and I've had to figure out how to balance our lives under one roof. Communication has become key, as I've expressed my struggles and worked together with my partner to find solutions.

I've come to realize that it's okay for things not to be equal all the time. My man and I have different rhythms, and that's perfectly fine. Seeking reassurance from both him and loved ones has become a regular part of my routine as I've adjusted to this new chapter.

It's been a journey of self-discovery and compromise, but I'm slowly finding my footing. So, if you're in a similar situation, remember to communicate openly, embrace the differences, take it one step at a time, and strive for that balance!

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Numbness often creeps in after traumatic events or when emotions pile up to overwhelming levels. I see it as a sort of functional depression, trapping some people for years in a monotonous existence. But that will not be us!

By actively conjuring up emotions through nostalgic activities – like revisiting childhood haunts or indulging in comfort foods – we can wash away that numbness and get back to having a timeeee with life, as we should!

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I encourage listeners to reassess their own relationship with grind culture, urging them to prioritize their well-being and actively plan for things they want to fit in their life span, because it's short.

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