The Nichole Banks Podcast - Episode 1.10: The Truth About My Divorce, My Mistakes, and Finding My Purpose

Welcome to the Nichole Banks Podcast, where divorced women heal, grow, and find new love while daring to begin thriving! In today’s episode, I’m sharing something very personal—my story, my mistakes, and how I found my purpose through all of it.

In This Episode:

Happy New Year, 2025! It’s time to shake things up and level up. I want you to think about what you’re going to do differently this year—because change is possible, and it all starts with YOU.

My Story: Today, I’m getting vulnerable and sharing the truth about my journey through two divorces, personal mistakes, and a life-changing wake-up call. I talk about how my second divorce shattered everything I thought I knew about love and myself.

The Hard Truth: From struggling with rejection and anger to hitting rock bottom with a financial mistake that landed me in an unexpected place, I’m opening up about it all. But here’s the thing—my rock bottom turned into the foundation for my biggest transformation.

Rebuilding My Life: In prison, of all places, I found clarity, strength, and a newfound purpose. Through personal growth, self-improvement, and facing my own accountability, I learned how to rebuild from the ground up.

A New Purpose: Now, I’m on a mission to help other women like you who are going through tough times, so you don’t have to feel alone. The pain you’re feeling right now is real, but there is a way through it.

Healing is Messy: I also share some laughable moments in my healing journey (hello, yoga and emotional support cat), proving that healing is far from perfect—but it’s totally worth it.

My Big Ask: Take that first step, no matter how small. Whether it’s setting a boundary, saying no, or simply getting out of bed today, I’ll be here cheering you on.

Resources Mentioned in the Episode:

Check out my courses, women’s retreats, and the Dare to Begin membership for more support and tools to help you thrive. Everything I’ve learned through my journey is available to help you navigate your own path.

Subscribe, Review, and Share: If you’re feeling inspired, share this episode with someone who needs it. Let’s continue this conversation together!

Remember, you’re not alone. Keep leveling up, and dare to begin. I’m here cheering for you every step of the way!

Website: NicholeBanks.com (Don’t forget—I spell my name with an H!)

Until next time,

Nichole Banks

So, Your Holidays Didn’t Go as Planned? Here’s How to Recover Like a Queen

Episode Description:

Holidays not turning out like the picture-perfect moments you dreamed of? You’re not alone, babe. In this episode, we’re diving into the all-too-relatable chaos of holiday fails for divorced women—awkward run-ins with the ex, quiet houses without the kids, or that dreaded feeling of being overlooked.

But don’t worry—we’re not staying in the holiday blues. Nichole shares practical steps to bounce back from those less-than-magical moments and turn them into opportunities for growth, self-love, and a little holiday reinvention. Whether your holiday centerpiece got ignored or you spent the day solo, this episode is packed with advice to help you heal, laugh, and slay the rest of your season.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• The top holiday “fails” divorced women face (and why they’re so common).
• How to feel your emotions without getting stuck in them.
• Fun ways to flip the holiday script and create new traditions.
• Why gratitude is your ultimate recovery tool (and how to make it work for you).
• Nichole’s personal holiday survival stories—and how she turned awkward moments into wins.

Practical Tips You’ll Love:

1. Set a timer for your “pity party”—then move forward with purpose.
2. Embrace solo holidays as a chance to pamper yourself or do what you love.
3. Create meaningful new traditions, like “Friendsmas” or a holiday spa day.
4. Reach out to friends or build new connections when loneliness strikes.
5. Practice quick gratitude exercises to shift your mindset and find joy in the small things.

Episode Highlights:

• [2:15] Nichole shares her own holiday chaos moments and why they’re so relatable.
• [5:45] The Big Truth Bomb: Why one bad holiday doesn’t define you.
• [8:10] How to process your emotions like a pro.
• [10:30] Fun ways to reclaim the holiday spirit—even when you’re flying solo.
• [14:00] Nichole’s personal “solo spa day” story (and how you can try it too!).

Resources Mentioned:

• Dare to Begin Membership — Join a supportive community of women on the journey to healing and thriving after divorce.
• How to Navigate Heartache, Healing, and Love After Divorce — Check out Nichole’s signature course for divorced women.
• Follow Nichole on Instagram for more tips and inspiration: @NicholeBanks.

Let’s Connect:

• Website: nicholebanks.com
• Instagram: @NicholeBanks
• Facebook Group: How to Navigate Heartache, Healing, and Love After Divorce.

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Episode Title: My Holiday Wish for YOU.

Episode Summary:

In this special holiday episode of The Nichole Banks Podcast, Nichole shares her heartfelt gratitude for her listeners and reflects on the courage and strength it takes to heal and thrive after divorce. This episode includes an inspiring story, The Blind Man by the Window, that highlights the power of perspective and kindness. Nichole offers encouragement to find joy during the holiday season and reminds listeners that they are never alone on their journey. Tune in for a warm, uplifting message to carry you through the holidays.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Nichole’s personal message of gratitude to her listeners.
• How to embrace the holidays with grace and self-love.
• The inspiring story of The Blind Man by the Window and its powerful life lesson.
• Encouragement to be a light for others during the holiday season.
• A reminder to celebrate progress and find joy in small moments.

Memorable Quote: “Here’s my wish for you: May your holidays be filled with moments of healing, unexpected laughter, and love—most importantly, love for yourself. You deserve it.” – Nichole Banks

Links and Resources:

• Explore Nichole’s coaching courses: nicholebanks.com
• Join the Dare to Begin Membership for ongoing support.
• Follow Nichole on Instagram for daily inspiration: @msnicholebanks

Let’s Connect:

• Have a question or a topic suggestion? Email Nichole at [email protected].
• Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast so you never miss an episode!

Call to Action: If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend who could use some encouragement this holiday season. Leave a review to help more women discover the podcast and join our supportive community.

Next Steps: Make time this holiday season to reflect on your growth, share kindness with others, and step into the new year with hope and confidence. Remember, healing is a journey, and you’re exactly where you need to be.

Until Next Time: Wishing you a holiday filled with light and love. See you in the new year! – Nichole Banks

Description:

After a divorce, trusting again can feel like an impossible task. But guess what? It’s totally doable! In today’s episode, Nichole Banks dives deep into the journey of rebuilding trust—not only in others but also in yourself. With actionable tips, real talk, and a whole lot of encouragement, Nichole shares how you can start the healing process and protect your heart while opening yourself up to new possibilities. Plus, find out why setting boundaries is the secret weapon you need to rebuild trust and start thriving again.

What You’ll Learn:

• How to rebuild trust in yourself after divorce
• Why trusting your gut is essential to your healing process
• The importance of taking baby steps with new relationships
• How your ex is not the blueprint for future trust
• Why boundaries are the key to protecting your heart and rebuilding trust with others

Mentioned in This Episode:

• Nichole’s course on setting boundaries
• Latest podcast episode on rebuilding trust

Connect with Nichole:

• Website: nicholebanks.com
• Instagram: @nicholebankscoach
• Join the Facebook Group: How to Navigate Heartache, Healing, and Love After Divorce

Nights can be the toughest part of healing from heartbreak—when the world quiets down, your mind often turns up the volume on pain and intrusive thoughts. In this episode, Nichole dives into why nights feel so challenging, offering real, actionable strategies to help you find peace during these moments. From grounding techniques to rewriting your internal dialogue, you’ll learn tools that are both practical and backed by psychology. Whether it’s journaling your feelings, creating calming rituals, or using the transformative 5-4-3-2-1 method, this episode is packed with wisdom to help you reclaim your nights and start feeling stronger.

• The psychological reason why nights amplify emotional pain.
• How to disrupt the spiral of intrusive thoughts with simple techniques.
• The power of visualization to shift your focus from pain to healing.
• Why grounding exercises like the 5-4-3-2-1 method are so effective for staying present.
• Tips for building a nighttime routine that calms the mind and promotes rest.

"The quiet of the night can feel like a battlefield, but even in your darkest hours, your strength is growing."

"Healing doesn’t mean forgetting—it means creating a future where your past doesn’t define you."

• Join the Dare to Begin Membership for ongoing support and community.
• Explore Nichole’s courses, including How to Navigate Heartache, Healing, and Love After Divorce.

Hey, gorgeous! Thanks for hanging out with me today on The Nichole Banks Podcast. I’m so excited to keep the conversation going, so here’s how you can stay connected and get all the latest updates:

Take the Quiz: Are you REALLY ready for love after divorce? Find out here: nicholebanks.com/quiz

Visit My Website: Head over to nicholebanks.com for blog posts, resources, and all the deets on upcoming events and courses. I promise there’s something there for everyone!

Drop Me a Line: Got questions or wanna share your story? Send me an email at [email protected]. I love hearing from you!

Social Media Vibes:

Instagram: Come say hi on @msnicholebanks for daily inspo, sneak peeks, and a little fun behind-the-scenes action.

Facebook: Join our fab community of fierce, like-minded women in the group, How to Navigate After Divorce. It’s all about sisterhood!

TikTok: Yep, I’m there too! Follow me at @nicholebanks23 for fun tips, real talk, and even a few dance moves.

YouTube Channel: Subscribe to my YouTube Channel for more content—because sometimes you just need to see it, not just hear it!

Subscribe & Review the Podcast: Love what you hear? Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and drop a review on your favorite podcast platform. Your feedback keeps the love flowing!

Feeling the holiday pressure? Let’s take a deep breath and reclaim December as a season of fun instead of stress. In this episode, we’re talking real talk about boundaries, budget-friendly festive ideas, and how to make the holidays magical—whether you’re surrounded by loved ones or flying solo this year.

Leftovers and Life Lessons: What to Do with What No Longer Serves You

In this episode, I sit down with Michaela Gaffin Stone to unpack the art of setting and maintaining boundaries. From navigating tricky relationships to protecting your peace, Michaela shares actionable tips and insights to help you stand firm and prioritize yourself. Tune in for a conversation that’s as empowering as it is enlightening! 

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Hey, gorgeous! Thanks for hanging out with me today on The Nichole Banks Podcast. I’m so excited to keep the conversation going, so here’s how you can stay connected and get all the latest updates:

• Take the Quiz: Are you REALLY ready for love after divorce?

Thanksgiving on Your Terms: Navigating Family Gatherings Without a Side of Drama

This week, we’re talking about your Thanksgiving, your way!

Episode 101: The Hardest Truth When You’re the One Bringing the Drama

In this episode, Nichole Banks dives deep into the tough truth that sometimes we are the ones contributing to the drama in our lives. From self-sabotage to social media rants, Nichole explores how emotional triggers can manifest as bitterness and blame. She shares powerful tools for self-awareness, setting boundaries, and taking ownership of your actions without guilt. Plus, learn why self-compassion and a little humor can be your best allies in healing.

Key Takeaways:

• Recognizing when you’re the problem is the first step to real growth.
• Setting boundaries and giving yourself permission to prioritize you is essential.
• Humor can be a healing tool—laugh at yourself and let go of the drama.
• Drama on social media can keep you stuck—take it offline and focus on real healing.
• The 5-second rule and mindful responses can shift your reactions and help you choose peace over pettiness.

Tune in for all the tips and tricks to stop the drama and start your healing journey!

Hey, gorgeous! Thanks for hanging out with me today on The Nichole Banks Podcast. I’m so excited to keep the conversation going, so here’s how you can stay connected and get all the latest updates:

• Take the Quiz: Are you REALLY ready for love after divorce?