Do you find it hard to reflect back on your achievements and to celebrate your success? If you do, you’re not alone. In episode 18 of The No Bullshit Guide to a Happier Life, I explain why reflection and recognition of your achievements (big and small) is so important to personal growth, but how our lack of worthiness and a natural disposition for thinking our lives should be ‘more perfect’ can often stop any meaningful reflection in its tracks.

In this episode:

• Why the only life comparisons you should be making are with your past self, not with other people.
• The key questions to ask yourself when you’re reflecting back on your life – some might not be what you think!
• Why recognising how far you’ve already come is so vital for personal growth

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Welcome to episode 17. Today we’re talking about the metaphorical tools we all need on hand to lead a balanced and happy life. This episode is not about good habits, strict routines or consistency. From my experience, forcing these things upon yourself often leads to de-motivation and self-criticism – neither of which are helpful. Instead, I like to focus on having a variety of ‘tools’ in your toolkit, may that be exercise, meditation, or something as simple as a walk in the sun at your disposal. Above all, my message in this episode is about knowing you are worth the time and effort it takes to use these tools whenever you need them to help you feel good, feel motivated and be more productive.

In this episode:

• How consistency and creating habits is often too challenging for most people and can do more harm than good.
• Why lowering your expectations of what your body and mind needs to function day to day can be the key to a more satisfied life.
• How knowing when to use the right tools at the right time is so important – especially as we get older.

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Welcome to episode 16. Are you one for setting so called ‘life goals’? There’s no right or wrong answer to this as everyone is different, but today I’m talking about how having a plan for something you want to achieve can be good for keeping you focused when life throws up its inevitable twists and turns. The way we approach our goals is something that has always interested me, so in this episode I explore how changing your mindset can bring you deeper satisfaction and get you closer to achieving your life’s dreams – if you have them!

In this episode:

• How switching your thinking to ask ‘how do I want to feel’ rather than ‘what do I want to do’ can make the biggest difference to getting what you want.
• How having a specific goal is good for focusing the mind and revealing opportunities that help signpost your way to something you want for yourself.
• Not having a life goal is also ok. For some it’s about the journey of life and what it brings.

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Welcome to episode 15. This week I’m taking a good look hard look at relationships, and in particular our intimate and romantic relationships. I’m very aware of the narrative in our society that prescribes what a ‘normal’ partnership should look like, but what if this doesn’t work for you? What if you realise your relationship isn’t bringing any value or joy to your life? Would you have the strength to change the direction of your story and break from the norm?

Exploring the fact that the choices you made as a younger person might not be what you want in your life now is a difficult and potentially painful exercise, but an important one to carry out if you feel unhappy or unsatisfied. A good relationship helps us to be the best version of ourselves that we can be. So, I’m asking, what’s the story you want to tell for your life?

In this episode:

• Choosing your own story – how society puts pressure on us to conform to the classic relationship narrative which can lead to unhappy and unfulfilling relationships which we later regret.
• How you have the ability and choice to change your situation at any stage of your life.
• I share a useful exercise to help you assess your current situation if you’re feeling unhappy or stuck.

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Welcome to episode 14. The topic with probably the most bullsh*t surrounding it than any other - this week I’m talking about SEX. It’s such an important part of most people’s lives, it’s a vital component, so why don’t we talk about it more? What’s holding us back? Those who know me know that I have no trouble in talking honestly and openly about sex, so I’m looking forward to exploring this fascinating topic and helping you to get comfortable with communicating your own wants and desires so you can lead the fulfilling sex life you deserve.

In this episode:

• How opening up to your partner about your fantasies and desires can start a dialog that can lead to a more fulfilling relationship.
• My discovery of amateur porn – how this community is supporting the portrayal of real people and real sex as a healthy alternative to mainstream media and adult content.
• Take action - Your sexual satisfaction is an absolute right and also your responsibility, so start making changes to get what it is you need. Top tip - It all starts with communication.

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Welcome to episode 13. The rewards of being a parent can be huge – the excitement, fun, adventure and potential for great personal growth are some of the unmissable benefits, but on the flip side there can be a lot of anxiety, frustration, exhaustion and often crippling self-doubt that can leave you in tatters. We all need an opportunity to switch off from the intense responsibility, to re-calibrate and restore ourselves, just as we need to switch off from our demanding day-job. This episode takes a reality check on the thoughts and judgements around parenting and how we need to normalise asking for help to get the break that we need.

In this episode we cover:

• Why taking a break from parenting is essential for our mental well-being and our ability to do the job well.
• The unhealthy and untrue belief held by some that if you don’t enjoy your children all the time you are a bad parent.
• How, much like in the world of work, everyone has different success criteria with their own parenting and shouldn’t judge or be judged.

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Welcome to episode 12. In this episode we’re exploring the notions of work/life balance and how this applies to the modern-day adult. Our time is taken up by so many commitments these days - Children, relationships, community, friendships – so it’s easy to see how we can quickly become overwhelmed and resentful when these things play for out time alongside our work commitments. Start balancing your obligations with things you desire and you’ll see a shift in your personal well-being.

In this episode we cover:

• How asking yourself what you want more of and less of in your life can help you visualise a better balance.
• Taking time for leisure will only ever be granted by you if you're a business owner – so make sure you claim it!
• How readdressing the traditional work/life timeline can lead to a happier life – you don’t need to wait to reward yourself.
• How bringing in more joy and contentment is key when life gets stressful.

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Welcome to episode 11. This week we’re talking all things team management. If you find yourself questioning your team’s passion, drive and commitment you need to take a step back and focus on a few key truths. Everyone is different and you can’t expect your team to match your drive for your business – it isn’t possible and actually, it isn’t fair. What you CAN do is motivate them as much as possible by setting clear expectations, rewards and consequences for when things go wrong. In this episode I highlight the exact things you need to implement to have a happy and motivated team, no matter what size it is.

Main points:

• Understanding what motivates your individual team members will unlock their productivity (spoiler alert – it’s different for everyone).
• Having clear expectations and rewards will help you team perform better – especially the rewards!
• Why rewarding yourself as the business owner is often overlooked and why you should start doing it now.
• Being crystal clear on your business values from the start and communicating them to your team is the foundation of all good team management.

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Welcome to episode 10. Are you happy wearing the hat that says ‘leader’? Not everyone is and that’s ok, but it’s a fact of life that we are occasionally called upon to take on the role, despite our possible aversion to it. In this episode we look at why your businesses needs good leadership; what makes a good leader and how you can evaluate your effectiveness as the leader of your business by keeping an eye on your team retention.

Main points:

• Are your own stereotypes holding you back from being a good leader?
• How creating healthy boundaries and expectations of your team is the foundation of good leadership.
• How staff retention can be a good indicator of how you’re doing.

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Welcome to episode 9. We’re back to business this week and I’m asking you a question - what type of boss are you? Many people set out to work for themselves after negative experiences working for a someone who treated them badly. Of course, self-employment brings many freedoms but I’ve seen many people get stuck in a downward spiral of resentment and demotivation because of the way they treat themselves as the boss of their own business. In this episode I share some key questions you should be asking yourself to ensure sustainable and long-term performance.

Main points:

• I’ll be asking, now you work for yourself, are you your own dream boss - to yourself and your team?
• How creating an ‘employee handbook’ for yourself is actually a brilliant idea and NOT just an excuse to buy new stationary!
• Why rewarding yourself and celebrating your wins is SO important.
• How modelling good self-management before you take on team members will filter into your team when the time is right, with nothing but good results.

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