The NOBB Life

How to Use your Anger to Fuel your Goals

Are You Allowing Your Parents to Emotionally Lean on You?

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Have you ever thought about why you relate to your depressed friend so well? How they seemingly give you words to your own true feelings? While you press through and continue to get things done that are frozen in fear and inaction but you both feel the same inside. Depressed.... Low Grade Depression or High Functioning Depression is one of the Topsy Bopsy Twins of Black American Women. The other evil twin is High Functioning Anxiety. Take a listen to this episode and ask yourself this, "Am I the depressed friend helping the depressed friend?"

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Depression may inhibit the desire for activity and action, but high functioning individuals tend to forge ahead in an effort to succeed with goals. The drive to accomplish often sustains action and moves high-functioning individuals towards getting things done. This means that some people who have depression may also still maintain everyday — and sometimes exceptional — tasks.

What is High-Functioning Anxiety?

People with high-functioning anxiety experience many symptoms associated with anxiety disorders. But they do not meet the criteria for an anxiety disorder diagnosis, even though their overall quality of life may be significantly impacted by their condition. Their tension and the stress they feel are not severe enough to disrupt their lives in obvious, observable ways, and as a result the suffering of men and women with high-functioning anxiety remains largely hidden from the world. But despite their continued ability to hold down jobs, attend school, handle family duties, and manage their personal and financial affairs, people with high-functioning anxiety are still in pain and functioning at less than their full potential.

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Our childhood is where the subconscious mind is formed.

It’s also where we learn how we process emotions, what relationships look like, how to hold boundaries, and countless other habits and behaviors.

Ideally, our parents are two self actualized people who allow their children to be seen and heard as the unique individual they are. The reality is that we live in a culture that does not teach conscious awareness, so most of us are born to unconscious parents.

Unconscious parents are repeating the same habits and patterns they’ve learned. They’re operating from a wounded space because of their own unprocessed emotions.

It’s important to understand that parents can only parent from their own level of awareness.

We can only give others what we have practiced giving ourselves.

I work with mostly Black woman. Over time I’ve come to understand while they seek help for different reasons I can generalized reasons to feeling of low-self worth. Each of these issues manifest differently, but they’re all tied to one thing: conditioned behavior practiced since childhood.

00:30 - 02:18 What are Unconscious Parents?

03:45 - 04:27 What is reparenting?

04:27 - 07:17 My Story: Low Self- Worth at 6 & High Functioning Anxiety as by 12

07:18 - 09:12 The Wounded Inner Child of Many Black Women

09:13 - 11:08 How to NOT Blame Your Parents

11:08 - 13:24 4 Pillars of Reparenting Your Inner Child

13:25 - 20:42 5 Steps to Begin Reparenting Your Inner Child

20:42 - 21:54 Pleasing a Partner with No Expectations is Toxic AF

22:52 - 24:40 What Does “Stop Dropping Your Baby” Mean?