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We’re talking about April wisdom – not April fool’s – on The Noble Man Podcast Episode 53 with Dr. Paul Chipman. Mental health isn’t something most of us generally like to talk about, but most of us have struggled with negative thoughts to some degree. This episode is a must-listen, full of practical tips on recognizing those thoughts and bringing them into submission to the Word of God. 

Dr. Chipman offers hope and resources as he discusses his journey from thoughts of despair and desperation to finding mental health. After a series of failures, he recognized that his identity was built on sinking sand. “I didn’t guard my mind.” Even as a successful pastor, he had built his self-image and self-esteem on things he had accomplished. It wasn’t until his worth and his work all came crashing down that he realized, “You’ll never know that Jesus is all you need until Jesus is all you got.” The seriousness of the issue had him contemplating suicide for the first time in his life. But God showed him ways to renew his mind and be transformed by memorizing and following scripture. 

“It’s about controlling your thoughts rather than your thoughts controlling you.” 

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind.” Romans 12:2 

Dr. Paul’s Tips: 

Recognize the “Filthy 5” triggers: FURST. These thoughts are not of God, and we must replace them. 

F – Fear of the future 

U – Unhealthy comparison 

R – Regrets of the past 

S – self-condemning thoughts 

T – Temptations 

Check, Challenge, Change, Reframe: 

Check - What kind of thought is it of the Filthy 5? Think about what you’re thinking about. 

Challenge – Is this thought true, helpful, inspiring, non-condemning, in line with scripture? 

Change – Find a verse that shows what my mindset should be. 

Reframe – Find the purpose in the plan. 

Resources: 

Dr. Paul Chipman - Cell 804-387-9129, [email protected], [email protected] 

Think Right Live Right 

Think Right Live Right: A 21-Day Plan to Overcome Negative Thoughts by Dr. Paul Chipman 

Hope for the Home Today – Resource for Christian counseling services 

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This week on The Noble Man Podcast Episode 52, Mike gets to recap our recent themes with Clair Hoover, Executive Director of NCMM (National Coalition of Ministries to Men). Clair gives his perspective on the variety of ministries and strategies that can be effective in reaching men. 

Clair had a set plan for his life, but God’s plan was different. “If you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans.” He was creating success in business and finances, but his life changed when two friends in a small accountability group pulled him aside to deal with him honestly. 

Reality hit him, and he didn’t like it. He avoided the group for a while, but he returned as a different man. Today, he is in business partnership with his two sons, and he dedicates most of his time to ministering to men. 

“Because I love women and children.”  

Did you know that if a man becomes a churchgoer, there’s a 93% chance his family will follow? 

God designed us in his DNA. He’s looking for a cause worth dying for. 

Meet them where they are, and then we can bring them up spiritually. 

Clair offers some crucial encouragement to pastors who value and seek to prioritize men’s ministry even in the face of everyday pressures of full-time church ministry.  

When Jesus called his disciples in Mark 1, we see they went “immediately” – without hesitation. As you listen to Clair’s testimony of how God called him into ministry despite his reluctance, I pray you will also be emboldened to answer Jesus’ call to “Follow me, and I will make you become fishers of men.” 

NCMM – National Coalition of Ministries to Men 

NCMM directory – List of men’s ministries 

Clair Hoover – For more information on joining the NCMM, call (717) 682-4517 

How to Disciple Men: Short and Sweet - Practical wisdom from leaders who have dedicated their lives to helping men become more like Jesus. 

Promise Keepers – Building up godly men for a better tomorrow. 

Christian Service Brigade – Equipping men and boys for godly leadership. 

Kids Outdoor Zone – TJ Greaney and Rick Magee (Go Outside and Change a Life)  

A Chosen Generation - Helping churches and families create strategies for intergenerational ministry. 

Sportsman’s Church – Off the trail, on the water, and in the woods sharing the amazing grace of Jesus Christ. 

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Mike welcomes Dr. Robert Lewis to The Noble Man Podcast this week to discuss a new tool for reaching men. Dr. Lewis has been creating biblical manhood resources for decades, and he was there in the beginning at the NCMM Conference in 2004 when Mike recognized the call to men’s ministry. 

Dr. Lewis had to figure manhood out for himself. Even after his ministry training, he “had all the tools to preach, teach, and do Bible study but didn’t have a clue about masculinity.” He is a pioneer when it comes to men’s ministry resources like Men’s Fraternity, 33, and now, BetterMan. Developed as an outreach tool, BetterMan emphasizes relationships over information – perfect for reaching today’s generation. 

BetterMan is an on-ramp for young men to understand biblical masculinity, and as that is established, it introduces what the Bible says and becomes an outreach tool. We need a simple foundation of what masculinity is to build on. Dr. Lewis explains that it’s like “building a building in thin air if there is no foundation of manhood.” 

We’re discussing how to reach men, and BetterMan is an effective tool for reaching and helping them find solid masculine clarity along with biblical clarity. “That’s the kind of guy who’s going to be able to stand up and be a difference-maker.” 

Mike shows us a great example in Acts 16 that if we can “Help a man get to Jesus, chances are he’s going to bring his family.” 

Raising a Modern-Day Knight by Robert Lewis 

Men’s Fraternity  

33 The Series 

BetterMan 

Five Essentials to Engage Today’s Men Barna Report 

The Big Baby Boomer Opportunity for the Church by Sam Rainer 

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Mike first met Brian Doyle in 2004 at the NCMM Conference in D.C. It was Brian who made the call for 100 men to step into Men’s Ministry, and Mike answered that call. You can hear the full story on Episode 1 of The Noble Man Podcast, In the Beginning. Brian, now the National Director for the Iron Sharpens Iron National Conference Network, has been ministering to men based on the DNA God planted in his life through the Navigators – reproducing his life into others just as someone reproduced their life into him. 

How Do We Reach Men? It seems the answer begins not just with what to do with men, but with how we view them.  

In the beginning, God went looking for Adam when Eve sinned.

We need to equip and encourage the husbands in the role God gave them. God will not hold others responsible for the spiritual life of your kids. Only one man on the planet is responsible for your wife and children. 

Why do we keep saying that the most important ministry we can do through the local church is investing in men? The top agenda item in the ministry of Jesus was multiplying his life into twelve men.  

When men spend time with God, build into their marriage, take responsibility for their kids, become role models for others, they ultimately become ambassadors for the Kingdom. 

The Measure of a Man: Twenty Attributes of a Godly Man by Gene A. Getz – Learn more about the measurables of a man God gives us in 1 Timothy 3 and Titus 1. 

ISI conferences 

The Navigators 

National Coalition of Ministries to Men 

Titus 1:6-9 

“If anyone is above reproach, the husband of one wife, and his children are believers and not open to the charge of debauchery or insubordination. For an overseer, as God's steward, must be above reproach. He must not be arrogant or quick-tempered or a drunkard or violent or greedy for gain, but hospitable, a lover of good, self-controlled, upright, holy, and disciplined. He must hold firm to the trustworthy word as taught, so that he may be able to give instruction in sound doctrine and also to rebuke those who contradict it.” 

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How do we reach men? Elmo Winters of Kingdom Group International has at least one answer for us in The Noble Man Podcast Episode 49. 

Can you think of a better way to begin than with bacon? The Kingdom Group International was birthed in 2014 to train churches in evangelism, and they’ve been serving up MUB (Men’s Unity Breakfast) since 2017 to help men tear down barriers that divide us and build bridges that bring us together.  

Why? Unity is a biblical term; the unity of the body is critical. Ultimately, we are to reconcile people to Christ. 

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. All this is from God, who through Christ reconciled us to himself and gave us the ministry of reconciliation; that is, in Christ God was reconciling the world to himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and entrusting to us the message of reconciliation. Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, God making his appeal through us. We implore you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God.”  2 Corinthians 5:17-20 

Today more than ever we need strategies for discipleship and reconciliation. Join Mike and Elmo as they discuss how it begins with men. 

• Overcoming Racial and Cultural Barriers to Disciple Men by Elmo Winters 

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Mike talks with Noble Warriors board member and longtime friend, Rich Babbitt, on The Noble Man Podcast Episode 48. Before we met Rich, he was already investing in men. But the studies he did and breakfasts he attended lacked resources, tools, and direction. There were activities on the calendar but no advancement in discipleship. Rich saw a gap, and asked his pastor if he could help lead. He started with just three guys, and it grew from there. 

Mike encourages listers to take the lead just like Rich did.

"Lots of guys say they won’t do it with just a few. You are a fool! Be willing to start with whoever God brings . . . those may be the ones who need the wisdom you have right now. Prayerfully ask God, ‘Who should I invest in? Give me one or two I can invest in.’"

Rich began with Authentic Manhood, and it changed his life. It was biblically based with practical application specifically for men. He changed his fathering because of what he learned, and what he never received from his father, he was able to provide for his son. Until then he had been “just winging it as a husband, dad, and young adult because I didn’t have any of it.” 

Listen this week to how God has redeemed Rich’s story. He can now look back at and say – if I had only known then what I know now.

From Paperboy to Boomer by Rich Babbitt 

Men’s Fraternity and BetterMan by Robert Lewis 

33 The Series  

Point Man by Steve Farrar 

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Genesis 1-3 

I Corinthians 15:45 Thus it is written, “The first man Adam became a living being”, the last Adam became a life-giving spirit. But it is not the spiritual that is first but the natural, and then the spiritual.

Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.

Psalm 16:11 You make known to me the path of life.

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“The issue of manhood is not going away – it unites us.” 

Brian Gullins has a passion for fatherhood that has been constantly on display throughout his life and career as an educator, youth director, pastor, and program coordinator in both the public and private sectors. And thankfully for us, he’s been a workshop presenter at our The Noble Man / ISI Conferences and joins us this week on the podcast to continue our series on What Are Men Looking For? A true visionary, he challenges us to define manhood, live it out, and think multi-generationally regarding our faith and families. 

You don’t want to miss the extensive gamut of wisdom he shares on these issues and more! 

“Confusion is abundant.” 

Do guys today know what manhood looks like? There are two extremes: 

1. Manhood has become feminized. 

1. Hyper pseudo-masculinity – men become unnecessarily violent. 

Neither is biblical manhood, but without true guidance, people lean into one of those directions. 

“That is what has to be taught, modeled, discussed; it’s that true biblical manhood is rooted in love.” 

Love gives; lust takes.  

Lust is not just sexual; it is a self-serving desire. Teach your son that difference, and teach your daughter when lust is being cloaked as love. By a consistent example of fatherly love, both son and daughter will be able to discern the difference between the real love of Christ and the counterfeit. 

Where could the father of your children go to get better advice on being a dad? We don’t have enough churches ready to respond to that question. 

“A lot of churches have what is a salvation model of ministry rather than a transformation model of ministry.” It all begins with salvation, but our job doesn’t end there. When a man is transformed, so is his whole family. 

“We need to have a multigenerational vision of what goes on in our family because the seed that we plant now and the prayers that we pray affect not only them but the next generation and set the stage for generations to come.”  

3 Things to Lay Before the Lord: 

1. I would love and serve Him, and He would make me more Christlike. 

1. Love my wife like Christ loves the church. 

1. Leave a spiritual, natural, and financial inheritance for my children’s children.  

Manhood/fatherhood is a brotherhood that transcends economic, cultural, racial, and geographic boundaries. Commonness there creates an evangelistic opportunity. 

It creates an opportunity to bring healing to our nation as we connect with men. 

You may think your mistakes in life disqualify you, but you still have value. Please don’t rob others of your stories, victories, and challenges. 

The family is built on wisdom and strength. That indicates two generations: the younger who have strength, the older who have wisdom. When they come together it is a very powerful thing. Why am I still here? Could it be that God is not done with you yet? 

What about a single mom or grandma looking to find godly examples? 

When the matriarchs recognize that we need patriarchs, it gives the Lord permission to begin to move within that family. It may take a generation to get it done. 

1. Pray for it. 

1. Teach it. 

1. Find other models. Start with a local church that values men and will hold them accountable in a way that causes them to rise. 

John 3:16 “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.” 

Romans 10:9-10 “Because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes and is justified, and with the mouth one confesses and is saved.” 

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We get to take advantage of the perspective of our own Student Ministries Pastor this week to continue discussing “What are Men Looking For?”  

Mike Camire has attended Parkway Baptist Church since its second Sunday, and he has served full-time there for 13 years. He also serves as the statewide Student Ministries Strategist at the SBC of Virginia, and we are grateful for the role he has played in discipling our kids. 

In working with Gen Z kids (born 1999-2015), he’s seen firsthand how culture is trying to define manhood in different ways through entertainment, sports figures, and social media. Young people are trying to figure out what it means to be a man or woman of God. 

These kids are open to spiritual things because of cultural events. They’re asking why? What is the purpose? Where do I go when experiencing tough times? How do we disciple the largest generation when only 4% have a biblical worldview, and only 19% of churched kids have a desire to live that out? 

Mike talks about the impact it made on him to see his dad come to Christ when he was seven years old.  

“Dads, when your kids see you obey Christ, it’s burned in their brains forever. It’s a huge milestone for them.” 

“Grasping it at home and living it out at home – I think that is a huge disconnect. Because in the church we can define manhood all we want, and we can disciple that way, but If it is not grasped and lived out at home in front of them, it is a big disconnect.” 

The biggest communicator is love, intentional time. Let them know you love them. Point them back to scripture. Love them through what they go through as Christ has loved you through what you have been through. 

Mike says, “Press on – I need you.” 

“Not a day in your life has been wasted in preparing you for what you’re doing.” Brian Autry 

“It’s only wasted when I don’t yield myself to Him and give Him the opportunity to use it for his glory and to draw others to Him. God brought you out of that so you can pour that back into someone else; that’s the point of a testimony. Don’t let the enemy use that as a crutch.” 

“If we haven’t been discipled to have a robust and bulletproof definition of what manhood is and to be able to articulate and live that out, we don’t have anything to give to kids, so we end up just kind of letting them follow the current of culture, and we don’t like that but we don’t know how to come against it.” 

Nail the definition down and live it out so you can pass it on. 

New Data on Gen Z—Perceptions of Pressure, Anxiety and Empowerment 

Mike Camire, Pastor of Next Gen Ministry (Studentz / College & Young Professionals): [email protected] 

Parkway Baptist Church 

When David’s time to die drew near, he commanded Solomon his son, saying, “I am about to go the way of all the earth. Be strong, and show yourself a man, and keep the charge of the LORD your God, walking in his ways and keeping his statutes, his commandments, his rules, and his testimonies, as it is written in the Law of Moses, that you may prosper in all that you do and wherever you turn, that the LORD may establish his word that he spoke concerning me, saying, ‘If your sons pay close attention to their way, to walk before me in faithfulness with all their heart and with all their soul, you shall not lack a man on the throne of Israel.’ 1 Kings 2:1-4 

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“When David’s time to die drew near, he commanded Solomon his son, saying, ‘I am about to go the way of all the earth. Be strong, and show yourself a man.’” 1 Kings 2:2 

What does it mean to show yourself a man? Manhood is confused and corrupted in our culture and our time. Many young men (and young women) are uncertain about what manhood is and are fearful to explore the topic because of the stigma of toxic masculinity. 

In Episode 45, we talk with 4 Gen Z young men to wrestle with what manhood is and what these young men are looking for. Their discussion is an encouragement and a challenge for men to form more intergenerational bonds. Even as they study the Word together, they are open and hungry to engage with more experienced men and to learn from their victories and their mistakes. They express a desire to learn from the older man what he wishes he knew when he was younger. 

1. Invest early and often. 

Society’s understanding of manhood is often warped and counter to what Christ shows us. Even with the true biblical definition of manhood, we cannot do it in our own strength. We need to lean into Jesus for his guidance and lean into other men who are pursuing Christ and who will point you back to Jesus and the Word when things get rough. 

BetterMan

Authentic Manhood – 33 The Series

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Dr. Joe Martin, Founder & Creator of  RealMenConnect.com, joins the podcast this week to talk about why we should be investing in men. Dr. Joe’s story of God working in his life is one of the most compelling that I’ve listened to personally.

He overcame a challenging childhood, and on the outside, his life displayed success after success. On the inside, like many men who “ain’t been taught,” he was at a loss when it came to knowing what it means to be a man. After losing a marriage due to personal failures, godly men came into his life to disciple him. 

He felt as many men do, “Who do I tell and admit I don’t know what I’m doing or how to be a man? 

“Men are struggling. Men are frustrated. They want to win at what matters most and the battles they have to fight every day.” 

Dr. Martin gives practical strategies on how to build the Kingdom through the progression of fellowship, to brotherhood, then discipleship, and finally disciple-making.  

“Go smaller so you can grow bigger.” 

We must be Kingdom-focused rather than church-focused in the sense that we want to build the Kingdom for the glory of God rather than build churches for the glory of men. Pray about what God wants us to do to invest in men in our churches to grow in maturity and to see the Kingdom grow. 

Dr. Joe’s testimony at Real Men Connect 

Real Men Connect Podcast 

Real Men Connect Bookstore 

FREE Real Man Victory Tracker 

The Noble Man Invests in Faithful Men [Podcast Ep. 31 with Bernie Ritterbush] 

CLICK HERE to Schedule a FREE Breakthrough Call with Dr. Joe 

Rend Collective - Build Your Kingdom Here 

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